Sandra bullock up from the ashes!!!!

[HonnyDipp]

Oy! This may come as a shock, but MANY lurkers read any thread related to adoption matters because they are considering adoption. My last post was especially directed at them, not those who are bugged by my posts. They can hit the ignore key at will. I still maintain that both domestic and international adoption are fantastic ways of becoming a parent and that it is vital you determine which is the best fit for you.

I would never have said one word about why some people choose international adoption rather than domestic adoption had it not been for the fact that someone FIRST opened the door to that subject by mentioning how wonderful it was that Sandra Bullock adopted from the States.....and it didn't take a rocket scientist to know the rest of the unwritten sentence was "as opposed to....." or "instead of...." Otherwise, why not just say that it was wonderful that she adopted a baby, period? Why even qualify it? I didn't make that an issue. Someone else chose to.

I was not the person who brought domestic rather than international into this thread. I wasn't. You may think I was, but it's simply not the case. They had their reasons for bringing the subject into the thread and you seem fine with that. I merely replied and gave an explanation as to why people may choose to adopt outside the US. Heaven knows it has nothing to do with a bias against US babies.....we were once US babies ourselves. I come from a whole family of US babies.

But there is a subtle implication in such statements that if adopting from the US is a "wonderful" thing, that adopting from elsewhere is not so wonderful. If you can't see that, then maybe subtlety isn't your thing. I'll give the benefit of the doubt and allow that perhaps when people say such things, they do not grasp the impact of their words. Can you imagine how hearing something like that could affect a child would was adopted internationally? It could very well make them believe that people feel they should not have been brought to America. Is that what people really intend to do? Probably not. But words have unintended consequences, especially where children are concerned. So if by "crapping all over this thread" I get even one person to realize that they might unintentionally make a child feel like dirt someday, I'll take that chance.

I think adopting from ANYWHERE is wonderful and will never stop making that point. Yes, Sandra Bullock's adoption was wonderful. But it is not more wonderful than if she had adopted internationally. How could it be more wonderful than it already is? Would it be possible for that child to be more precious if he was born elsewhere? The joy of becoming a parent is not more or less because of where the child was born. Anyone who had adopted can tell you that. The child is the joy.

My estimation of her has soared because of her ability to keep the adoption quiet and protect the baby from all the craziness of the last few months. I truly admire that. And I don't think anyone could be happier for Sandra Bullock than another adoptive parent. We have been in her shoes. We know the feeling when they place that baby in your arms and you realize you didn't think it was possible to even BE that happy or in love with someone you just met.

You are clearly seeing what you want to see. And I dont have time for it.