DisneyMommyMichelle
A Maelstromer From Way Back...
- Joined
- Jul 10, 2005
Congrats on the last day!!!
I don't even have kids yet ... but that cracked me up!!!! I had been following the thread for some tips to store in the back of my headSet the alarm.. YOU forget.. YOU have children.. no more alarms.. the alarm you have no will walk on 2 feet!
Set the alarm.. YOU forget.. YOU have children.. no more alarms.. the alarm you have no will walk on 2 feet!
I have to admit being a SAHM is way way harder than my job! So I'm struggling with the decision to go back to work part time (three or less mornings a week) or staying home - I love what I do but at the same time my youngest is still so little....(5 months)...I should stay home right?? Tell me I'm not crazy for wanting to stay home?
Thanks so much everyone for posting. I am still trying to make a decision and probably have to in the next two weeks or so....maybe I'll know after our trip to disneyworld for free dining in two weeks....maybe I'll just go back to one morning a week.....this is soooo hard.....you are all right...they are babies so short a time.
this is just our personal story so take it with a grain of salt. LOL not trying to influence your decision either way.
DH and I discussed child care before we even got married. My mom has made a career in day care and I have worked in the field as well. We decided that one of us would stay home after we had kids. We did not want someone else raising our kids, I saw and still see it with my mom, the kids would cry when they left my mom not their own parents. It made me sad and made my mom feel guilty. We also thought that we didn't want our kids in daycare until they were old enough to tell us if someone at the center did something bad to them, keep in mind this is 11 years ago and there were some pretty bad daycare stories at the time. If we didn't have to put them in that situation in the first place by staying home then that was way better.
Also DH could make more money than me so it was decided that I would stay home. He knew he had to step up and work harder but it was better for only one of us to be gone instead of both of us. At todays daycare rates it would make no sense for me to work either, I would make enough to cover the cost of daycare and nothing more.
I also don't consider myself a SAHM, I'm a NAHM (never at home mom), between playdates, sports, parties, etc I am busier than ever. Who ever said it gets easier as they get older flat out lied. I don't think I could do all of these things and work.
Now, my BFF on the other hand, can't stay home. She tried for a summer and it drove her nuts. She needs the challenges of work and family, it works for her. She doesn't know how I do it, and I don't know how she does it. But the most important thing is that we support each others decision. there is no "you don't care about your family" and "you have tons of time on your hands".
Lola is right, it is a very personal and private decision, and don't let anyone beat you down for making the choice that is right for your family.
I totally agree with you...we would never do daycare...I'm too germ phobic never mind that it goes against our attachment parenting style! When we had our first DS I went back to work three mornings a week and my DH stayed home (he can work from home/remotely) during that time. Now with two little ones I see that it is quite difficult for my DH to cope with both (three times a week) but maybe he would be ok one morning a week. (esp since the little one sleeps most of the time I would be gone anyway.) We are so blessed that I can afford to stay home (as long as I stop buying all those expensive cricut cartridges!) so it is more the do I need to work to keep up my medical licensure (I still need to call the state to check on that) and because I truly love family medicine and my patients too (who can't wait for me to go back to work!) If I worked full time I think I would go crazy - but part part time would maybe work?? Thanks for sharing your story...sounds like you have a great best friend too to share in the joys of parenthood. I can see that being home really is much more hard work and as you say it would be easy to be a NAHM!