Sad Situation for 10 year old girl.

[DawnCt1]

While watching Inside Edition tonight, Tammy Menendez, the wife of
Eric Menendez, the "orphan" who killed his parents, was featured along with her ten year old daughter. Wisely, they didn't show the daughter's face. Her teachers and people in the community are well aware of her situation however. Now the whole world knows! This poor child is only ten years old. Her bio dad committed suicide when she was ten months old and then her mother decides it was a good idea to meet and marry Eric Menendez, a notorious murderer who is serving a life sentence. The little girl visits her "step father" in prison on Saturdays, has her nails painted pink with the letter "E" for Eric on her nails. Now I don't car what idiocy adults engage in, but why or why do they have to take their children down that road?

 

[scanne]

It boggles my mind how people think - or in this case DON'T think. Poor little girl.

 

[Cindyluwho]

While watching Inside Edition tonight, Tammy Menendez, the wife of
Eric Menendez, the "orphan" who killed his parents, was featured along with her ten year old daughter. Wisely, they didn't show the daughter's face. Her teachers and people in the community are well aware of her situation however. Now the whole world knows! This poor child is only ten years old. Her bio dad committed suicide when she was ten months old and then her mother decides it was a good idea to meet and marry Eric Menendez, a notorious murderer who is serving a life sentence. The little girl visits her "step father" in prison on Saturdays, has her nails painted pink with the letter "E" for Eric on her nails. Now I don't car what idiocy adults engage in, but why or why do they have to take their children down that road?

I watched Tammy on Larry King last night and after following this story since the beginning, I have a very different take on it. This may sound very harsh but I truly feel that unless you have lived through what these boys did - you have no right to judge them. I have lived through it and I know how absolutely helpless you can feel. Even after you've moved away from home the abusive parents can still have control over you and you feel that there is no escape. As for the child, her mother chose to marry a man that she loved. He may be considered by some to be a "notorious murderer" but many feel that he is a good man that had a terrible life. Did he make the right choice? No, absolutely not. But he may have not seen an alternative while in that position. Unless you've walked in those shoes I can't imagine how anyone could judge another so harshly.

 

[Teacher03]

I watched Tammy on Larry King last night and after following this story since the beginning, I have a very different take on it. This may sound very harsh but I truly feel that unless you have lived through what these boys did - you have no right to judge them. I have lived through it and I know how absolutely helpless you can feel. Even after you've moved away from home the abusive parents can still have control over you and you feel that there is no escape. As for the child, her mother chose to marry a man that she loved. He may be considered by some to be a "notorious murderer" but many feel that he is a good man that had a terrible life. Did he make the right choice? No, absolutely not. But he may have not seen an alternative while in that position. Unless you've walked in those shoes I can't imagine how anyone could judge another so harshly.

It is not about who the mom loves. She should put her daughter first, and in this case she is not. Her choice was an extremely selfish one.

 

[DisTeach1]

Oh please, judging harshly? How do you "fall in love" with a man in prison unless you actively seek him out! I would never even have contact with someone in prison because I wouldn't want to go down that road and don't seek it out. What a loser that Mom is! Another example of a messed up parent ruining their kids.

 

[Beth76]

So this woman met Eric while he was in prison and already convicted of murder? Well, I'm not all that familiar the brothers' story, but I still wouldn't marry, much less visit in jail a convicted felon. And she has a daughter that she makes visit him? Sorry, not ok.

 

[BelleMcNally]

I watched Tammy on Larry King last night and after following this story since the beginning, I have a very different take on it. This may sound very harsh but I truly feel that unless you have lived through what these boys did - you have no right to judge them. I have lived through it and I know how absolutely helpless you can feel. Even after you've moved away from home the abusive parents can still have control over you and you feel that there is no escape. As for the child, her mother chose to marry a man that she loved. He may be considered by some to be a "notorious murderer" but many feel that he is a good man that had a terrible life. Did he make the right choice? No, absolutely not. But he may have not seen an alternative while in that position. Unless you've walked in those shoes I can't imagine how anyone could judge another so harshly.

Cindylywho, I just wanted to say I'm sorry for what you've had to deal with--I didn't watch Larry King, so I can't comment on the original topic of this thread, but I just wanted to let you know that you are brave and strong and ANYTHING but helpless, not matter how it feels some days.

It's hard to understand abuse from the outside looking in, so, from someone who's been through some awful times of her own:

 

[froglady]

I didn't watch the show, so I don't know the timeline. Did she meet him before or after prison?

As others have mentioned, I would have no way of "dating/falling in love with" someone already in prison. Before, God only knows what life has in store for us. After, not likely, but possible.

Falling in love with and marrying someone who is in or has BEEN in prison, especially if I have a child? No way. Even if I was "in love" I would break off the relationship for my child's sake as soon as I found out.

 

[vivilasvegas]

I didn't watch the show, so I don't know the timeline. Did she meet him before or after prison?

As others have mentioned, I would have no way of "dating/falling in love with" someone already in prison. Before, God only knows what life has in store for us. After, not likely, but possible.

Falling in love with and marrying someone who is in or has BEEN in prison, especially if I have a child? No way. Even if I was "in love" I would break off the relationship for my child's sake as soon as I found out.

What about if they were "reformed" during their prison sentence? I know a man who worked for my father. He was in prison for a few years for armed robbery. He came out, got a job with my father and stayed there over 20 years. He met a woman (with a child) and they got married and are still married today.

I wouldn't always judge someone if they were in prison before. I'd need to know the cirmcustances first.

Now, about still being in prison and meeting them, that's just off to me.

 

[Cindyluwho]

What if the man in prison was Nelson Mandella? Or another political prisoner? She doesn't believe he belongs in prison for life and she understands what led him to commit the crime. She made it very clear it was the wrong choice but she understands how it came to happen.

 

[vivilasvegas]

What if the man in prison was Nelson Mandella? Or another political prisoner? She doesn't believe he belongs in prison for life and she understands what led him to commit the crime. She made it very clear it was the wrong choice but she understands how it came to happen.

I wouldn't quite compare them to Nelson Mandella or other political prisoners.

 

[froglady]

Sorry, I still wouldn't take the chance of exposing my daughter to someone convicted of committing a crime involving physical harm, or the threat of physical harm, to another. If my children were grown, or if I had no children, I might think differently.

I wouldn't do anything to prevent that person from getting a new start in life, I just wouldn't marry him. If I KNOW I won't marry him, there's no point in dating him or having him involved with my children.

 

[PaulaSue]

It is not about who the mom loves. She should put her daughter first, and in this case she is not. Her choice was an extremely selfish one.

Well said!!!

 

[KathyFP]

Mom is an adult free to make her choice, but has a responsibility for her childs well being. Is it in the best interest of the child to visit a step fater who she only knows as an inmate healthy? Can he provide the role model that a child needs? What message is the girl learning about husband/wife or male/female relationships?

The only thing that matters is what is in the best interest of the child.