Sad, sad week. Help?

[disneyworldluvr349]

Last Friday a junior at my school committed suicide. He was the nicest kid, he ran with me during Individual Sports (I am slow and he was way fast) but he still ran with me. We went bowling every Wednesday, and he always seemed so happy to me. When I found out he died, I didn't know what to say. His best friends were crying in class and it was so terrible. I thought to myself what would I do if my best friend died?

Then I got a text message from my bestie. She said she wanted to die, her boyfriend broke up with her and on top of everything else she said she couldn't handle life. I begged her not to be stupid, but I didn't receive any text messages from her two days after. I texted her and she told me that she has been under suicide watch.

I don't know what to do or to say when she comes back to school. She is now back with this guy (this literally took from this mon. till today 3 DAYS!) and I can't believe her! He tore her heart out and because he cried that he wants her back she accepts.

I need advice, I don't want her to get hurt again, and I certainly don't want to loose her.


(Sorry for this being such a long post)

 

[EyoreFANS12]

That is sad, and encourage her that killing or hurting herself wont help anything. That is why she has friends and family to get her throught stuff like that! It is a sad day at my young cousins school today because a 9 year old died from bleeding in her brain.

 

[Sparx]

when i was in the 8th grade, two of my best friends did try to kill themselves. its really difficult to deal with, becuase you feel guilty when you find out. "could i have done anything?" the answer is no.

when people commit suicide, its because they have an intense feeling of pain and self hatred. they're not trying to do anything except make the pain stop. so please don't hate them for that. they never meant to hurt anyone, they honestly believe that they wouldn't hurt anyone, becuase they feel like no one cares about them.

if your friend is under suicide watch, she'll probably get better. but she may need some time in a mental institution. both of my friends did, and one recovered beautifully. it can really help people, but they ahve to be willing to help themselves.

depression is a medical condition, in most cases, and in most cases it can be cured with a simple medication schedule. (if its not medical, it should be able to be fixed through intense therapy)

if you need anyone to talk to or vent to, pm me.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

Of course I don't hate her, I love her to death, but I am so worried about her.
She doesn't handle things very well, and she is VERY dependent on her boyfriend.
She hardly hangs out with anyone but him, and I am just worried because she always puts her heart way out there. I don't want her to do something stupid. I am glad she is getting help, but I wish it didn't come to this.

 

[cindys_castle2011]

Last Friday a junior at my school committed suicide. He was the nicest kid, he ran with me during Individual Sports (I am slow and he was way fast) but he still ran with me. We went bowling every Wednesday, and he always seemed so happy to me. When I found out he died, I didn't know what to say. His best friends were crying in class and it was so terrible. I thought to myself what would I do if my best friend died?

Then I got a text message from my bestie. She said she wanted to die, her boyfriend broke up with her and on top of everything else she said she couldn't handle life. I begged her not to be stupid, but I didn't receive any text messages from her two days after. I texted her and she told me that she has been under suicide watch.

I don't know what to do or to say when she comes back to school. She is now back with this guy (this literally took from this mon. till today 3 DAYS!) and I can't believe her! He tore her heart out and because he cried that he wants her back she accepts.

I need advice, I don't want her to get hurt again, and I certainly don't want to loose her.


(Sorry for this being such a long post)

NO, girl should fall so deeply for a guy that they would take their own life.

I love my boyfriend, with all of my heart, but I've already told him, if he cheats, lies, etc it's over. I do love him, but I'm 16, I have the rest of my life to look forward to, I'm not gonna let anyone bring me down, or stop me from living MY life.

Back on subject.

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this, no one should have to go through that. Especially at such a young age.

I don't know what I'd do if I found out my friend was that unhappy. I'd think I was failing as a friend. But that's just me.

Just let her know that you are there for her every second of the day. When she needs someone to talk to about ANYTHING, don't hesitate to talk to you.

Don't bash her for going back out with the guy. But tell her that you don't think its that great of any idea, and he'll most likely put her through all the pain she's already gone through.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

I didn't bash her, I told her I was happy if she was happy, even though I am not. I don't want to push her over the edge so I am trying to be as supportive and as good of a listener as I can. It just kills me to see her make wrong decisions.
We are 17 for goodness sake, nothing is worth taking your life. Especially a boy.

 

[imabrat]

I'm sorry. I have no advice, I'm useless in these situations. I can sympathize on your friend dying - one of the students 2 years older than me died this weekend. He was stabbed by his friends' mental ex-boyfriend. He'd just turned 19 and it definitely was a wrong place at the wrong time thing. The school is in mourning (every! yes I do mean every year we lose a student or more. it's been this way ever since i can remember) so I can sympathize.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

Thank you Sonya for the hugs. Just been a long sad week at the end of my stress level.

 

[Sparx]

I'm sorry. I have no advice, I'm useless in these situations. I can sympathize on your friend dying - one of the students 2 years older than me died this weekend. He was stabbed by his friends' mental ex-boyfriend. He'd just turned 19 and it definitely was a wrong place at the wrong time thing. The school is in mourning (every! yes I do mean every year we lose a student or more. it's been this way ever since i can remember) so I can sympathize.

when matt went to high school it was like that, and then several died while i was in school. the whole school kind of jumps on the band wagon of the death. liek once a junior died early in the year, and all these freshmen who had no idea who he was were crying, just because they saw everyone else upset. it happens like that EVERY time.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

That is exactly what is happening at my school. Those who didn't even know David are crying and it just makes me angry.

 

[cindys_castle2011]

That shouldn't make you angry.

You can't NOT cry because of death just because you don't know that person.

I shed a tear when Patrick Swayze died.. did I know him personally? No, unfortunately I didn't.

It's just everyone is so overwhelmed at times like that. They see fellow classmates crying and being upset over a friends death so it's an automatic feeling to be sad also.

I cried when a 3 yr old in my town died of brain cancer. I didn't know him personally. But it's just the thought of a three year old not being able to live his life, because of such a terrible thing.

Everyone cries over death. Just because you aren't "BFF's" with the person, doesn't mean you can't mourn the loss.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

I am not saying that, just the people in my school are taking it to an extreme. They are using as an excuse for not being able to sit in class, do work, or anything else.

 

[cindys_castle2011]

I am not saying that, just the people in my school are taking it to an extreme. They are using as an excuse for not being able to sit in class, do work, or anything else.

I kinda understand what you mean.

In 7th grade, my best friend Jessica, ran and fell in P.E and busted her head open. It wasn't to bad of a cut, but she has to get stitches.

I went into the bathroom when that class let out, with a few other friends, and we were talking about it.

And this girl who seriously may have talked to her once or twice. Started bawling crying. And she called her mom to come get her cause she was so upset about what happened.

I was like.. uhhhh really... okay..

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

Yeah there has to be a balance. It is ok to be upset, but don't take it to extremes.

 

[MickeyisBeast]

Aww I'm sorry
That's terrible that you lost a friend and another is thinking to do the same thing Just make sure she knows how much you love her and how much you want her to be alive :] Hope everything works out!

 

[Sparx]

That is exactly what is happening at my school. Those who didn't even know David are crying and it just makes me angry.

a lot of times, that is the first death that a lot of these people have experienced, and they're not really sure how to handle it, they just copy what they see everyone else doing. we were talking about that in one of my classes.

 

[BabyPiglet]

I don't have any advice for the suicide thing, but a guy I know and have talked to various times died yesterday from a staph infection. He was a football player, made great grades, had awesome manners, and was really funny. I'm just trying to say I understand how awful it is seeing someone die who had their whole life ahead of them.

 

[cindys_castle2011]

I don't have any advice for the suicide thing, but a guy I know and have talked to various times died yesterday from a staph infection. He was a football player, made great grades, had awesome manners, and was really funny. I'm just trying to say I understand how awful it is seeing someone die who had their whole life ahead of them.

Jenny, really?

I didn't think people could die from those.. My boyfriend has one. He, in fact is a football player. He got it from another guy on the team that had it.

Now like five of them have it. His is healing up now, but I didn't think they could get that serious..

 

[disneydance]

I'm so sorry
Suicuide is a really tough thing I mean coming from someone who's attempted it before and does some things no one would expect she would do I would know that...
Personally I would just treat your best friend like you used to treat her before this happened I mean when I attemted suicuide I never texted anyone announcing I was going to do it was most likely a cry for help...
I'm really sorry that this happened

 

[AmandaSparks730]

One of my friends has attempted suicide. It's the scariest thing. She spent a good deal of our Sophomore year in the hospital, under suicide watch. Sometimes I'm afraid it didn't work (it doesn't seem like it has, to be honest). It's not easy, I'll tell you. She's a cutter, too, and can't stop. She really, really wants to, but she just can't; she's that addicted to it.

Another of my BEST BEST friends is also a cutter. Unlike my other friend, she doesn't want to stop. She even told me, "I'm sorry, I love you, but you can't make me stop. No one can." Breaks my heart that I can't get her to stop, and that she's going to hurt herself no matter what.

Yet another of my close friends (we're a messed up group) goes in and out of depression. He lost his best friend this past May (she died suddenly, in an accident...you may remember me posting about this) and he hasn't been doing well since. Because he was on the scene of the accident at the time, he's really not taking it well. He keeps saying "I want her back". It also breaks my heart to see him like this, because I care so much about him.

Didn't mean to hijack your thread, OP.