Rudest twins comment!

[DISUNC]

My cousin has twins, a boy & a girl...who look nothing alike.....Someone once asked her if they had the same father!!!!!!
If that guy had one kid,he would cut his wrist....just a dumb expression!

 

[DawnCt1]

Police stop a set of twins who were at a graduation party. They are absolutely identical. Down to hair, eye color and hair style.
Police to Twin #1: "What's your name?"
Twin #1: "Sally Smith"
Police to T#1: What's your birthdate?
Twin #1: "January 14, 1985"

Police to Twin #2: "What's your name"?
Twin #2" "Suzy Smith"
Police to T#2: "are you sisters? you look alike.
Twin#2: "yes".
Police to Twin #2: What's your birthdate?
Twin # 2: "January 14, 1985"
Police to both of them: "Is this some kind of a joke? Do you think this is funny? Do you know I can arrest you for giving false statements?

The names were changed to protect the innocent but this really did happen!

 

[mtemm]

Ussually I just and let it roll right off my back. This bothered me a little more because, I wasn't even talking to this guy, and DS heard what he said. DS has a disability, part of which is that he doesn't understand sarcasm or figures of speech. He couldn't understand what was so bad about being a twin. I think his feelings were hurt even after I tried to explain it to him. And we all know how we moms are when our kids feelings get hurt (or at least how I am).

I'm really not holding on to it as much as it seems. I just needed to vent.

that's what bothers me about it. not the rude comment, which does roll off, at least for me. It was the fact that it was in front of the child who understands. its one thing in front of babies, or even young toddlers, but once kids are older and understand what people are saying, people need to be a little more careful with comments like these.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Some people are just plain old stupid and rude! Hopefully someone like that will be slitting his wrists before fathering any children!

As to the comment, he shouldn't have said it, especially not in earshot of your son and he shouldn't have butted in to the conversation. I'm sure than many of us have said things we shouldn't have.

When I've seen twins if I've made any comments I've tried to say how blessed the parents are, even if I'm thinking how crazed I would be.

Secretly I always wanted twins, up until my last pregnancy (my 4th child). Our joke this last time around with Jake being such a difficult child from 1-5yo was that it could have been worse--he could have been twins. But other than Jake being twins (which might have gotten the best of us ) I think that twins really are a double blessing!

 

[taximomfor4]

I think the comment is rude just because the man didn't know you, know your sense of humor, and didn't censor himself in front of your child.

BTW, we don't have twins but had our 2nd (dd) and 3rd (ds) children rather close together. My 2nd is very small, and has some special needs. My ds is pretty average-sized, and looks a LOT like dd, and they are at the same ability as far as motor skills go. As soon as ds was a year old (dd was 2 1/2), people assumed they are twins. Nobody asks, they just assume. Here is the funny part...ds and dd used to not know what twins are. But somehow, they figured it out when they were like 3 and 4yo. Every time someone would say "Oh, look! Twins!" they would wait till we were away, and then crack up...I can still hear my ds saying "huhuhuhu...she thought we were TWINS. Huhuhuhuhuhu!"

We get plenty of horribly rude comments from strangers just having 4 kids. We have had absolute strangers tell us to PLEASE stop having kids. In front of the kids. And I am NOT sure THEY were just trying to joke!

 

[Hannathy]

I don't think he was rude at all. If he had said YOU should slit your wrists that would have been rude! Many people have dry or sarcastic sense of humors it doesn't make it rude. Once when my DD was a baby at the grocery store the clerk said "oh she's such a doll and so good I could just take her home" I replied "ok I'll pick her up at 4" laughingly said, and she looked aghast and started stammering and saying how I shouldn't do that! I said it was a joke I would never do it of course but really. It was probably a good introduction for your son that there a different types of humor out there and he will hear them all.

 

[alliecats]

Yes, it was incredibly rude. I'm a triplet and people used to say that crap in front of us all the time.

 

[RitaZ.]

I wouldn't have been offended, the comment was about himself, not you or your DDs. He was basically telling you that he would have been overwhelmed with the responsibility of two babies at one time.

Normally, I would say that it was rude of him to interrupt the conversation, but the pediatrician's office is a very down to earth kind of place where parents commiserate, exchange ideas and sometimes make ridiculous comments. A lot of parents there aren't getting much sleep due to having a newborn or sick child and sometimes will just make outlandish comments, even when the conversation doesn't directly involve them.

 

[MommyPoppins]

I don't have twins, though I really wanted my last DS to be twins...he wasn't. But with 4 of them, all really young, I've heard worse. But one in particular takes the cake. I was in the grocery store, I had 3 at the time and was pregnant with the 4th. This man and woman passed me, stoped, looked at the boys, looked at me. Asked me if they were all mine, and then the man said, "You know, s@x is like a good cigar, sometimes you just have to take it out." My jaw dropped, I didn't know what to say, I just walked away. I couldn't believe he had the nerve to say something like that to me. But I realize that people come in all flavors and I just thankful that my flavor isn't sour.

Though, I have to laugh at the PP comment about digging her own uterous out with a rusty spoon. I've felt that way, but never said anything like that. I'm always really sensitive about complaining about having kids, or being pregnant, there are too many people around who would give anything to have a baby and can't. So, I'm just thankful for mine and when we get the comment, "Are you going to try for a girl." I always says now,"We want 2 more kids, and it doesn't really matter what they are."

 

[lovmy2girls]

My girls are 10 1/2 months apart. We always get asked are they twins? Of course I have to say no, then they say "Well they look like twins?" Ok, OK they are 10 1/2 months apart. Then I have to hear these comments, that I've heard 2.3 million times now. "OH, was that planned? or Wow you guys were busy, or my personal favorite "couldn't figure out how it happend the first time huh?

 

[RitaZ.]

Asked me if they were all mine, and then the man said, "You know, s@x is like a good cigar, sometimes you just have to take it out." My jaw dropped, I didn't know what to say, I just walked away. I couldn't believe he had the nerve to say something like that to me.

Totally crass!

But I realize that people come in all flavors and I just thankful that my flavor isn't sour.

You have an excellent attitude!

 

[Pea-n-Me]

I try not to let comments like that bother me too much, especially if the person talking gives off the general appearance of an idiot anyway. I probably would have said something like "it's a good thing I had them, then, and not you" with a smile, and then ignored him.

Most of the comments I got about my twins were "I always wanted to have twins". Which I, of course, could not relate to in any way, LOL (isn't that always the way ). When people wish to have a nice conversation about twins, I enjoy hearing their stories and experiences. Most people don't know mine are twins anymore, so now the comments and stories are fewer and farther between.

 

[mtemm]

When I've seen twins if I've made any comments I've tried to say how blessed the parents are, even if I'm thinking how crazed I would be.

Secretly I always wanted twins, up until my last pregnancy (my 4th child). Our joke this last time around with Jake being such a difficult child from 1-5yo was that it could have been worse--he could have been twins. But other than Jake being twins (which might have gotten the best of us ) I think that twins really are a double blessing!

I have to say, that is my favorite comment from people. I almost always get the, "better you than me" type so when I get a "what a blessing" comment it throws me off for a bit and always makes me smile.

I also have to smile at the, "I always wanted twins" comments because I never had that inclination myself, and am not completely sure I have the temperment for it. But I was blessed with twins and am happy to say that now that they are 2 it really is a lot easier.

 

[jenks0718]

I think it was just a joke. If it were me I wouldnt have gotten upset at all.

 

[ozarkmom]

I don't have twins but when my second child was 9 months old I discovered I was pregnant. I ran into a lady I barely knew and she said she would slit her wrists. I thought is was kind of odd but now I realize that I've probably said some stupid things without thinking. Also and this is the one that got me was when we told my MIL that we're having another baby she said well you are going to have your tubes tied aren't you? We have very little contact with inlaws they do not help us in any way unlike some of dh's siblings. She has 2 daughters and 1 son by first husband and 2 sons with 2nd husband. At that time my husbands oldest sister had 2 and second oldest had 3 kids. I never did know what that was about but I just let it go.

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

I've heard them all too. I guess they never bothered me. Twins are a lot of work when they are babies and some people just can't handle that, which is probably why they don't have twins.

The funniest thing I had happen though was I was in the grocery store and had the twins along, they were maybe 2 months old at the most, both in their carseat carrier things. A woman came up to me and asked if they were twins, yes, then she looked at them and yells, "they can't be twins, they don't look anything alike". DD has brown hair/dark eyes, DS is blonde/blue eyed. I told her they were fraternal twins and didn't "need" to look alike. She proceeded to follow me around the store telling me that there was just no way they could be twins. Finally I had enough of her and said, 'you know what, you are right, they aren't twins, we just had our kids really close together". She looks at me and said 'ha, I just knew it". Whatever.

What a fruitcake. You know what you should've said (or should say, in case somebody does it again)? No they're not twins. This one is mine and the other one belongs to my hubby's baby mama.

TOV

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I have to say, that is my favorite comment from people. I almost always get the, "better you than me" type so when I get a "what a blessing" comment it throws me off for a bit and always makes me smile.

I also have to smile at the, "I always wanted twins" comments because I never had that inclination myself, and am not completely sure I have the temperment for it. But I was blessed with twins and am happy to say that now that they are 2 it really is a lot easier.

And if truth be told, I really wanted three girls and no boys. I had a DD first, so I started out ok, but then a boy, another boy, and then another boy. Hmmm, that plan was out the window. But for some reason, even though I always wanted three girls, I wanted twin boys, not girls. Don't know why I never had the desire for twin girls. Of course I never got twins of any kind, so it didn't matter.

My favorite comment from people when pregnant with my third child (they'd given up by my 4th child) was, "Don't you know what causes this?" and I'd say, "Yes, and I like it!". The one that bugged me was I'd had a girl first and then a boy and people questioned why I'd want a third child since I already had "one of each". I think that people didn't give me a bad time about my last child because there was such an age gap between him and his next oldest sibling and people assumed that he was an oops. The ironic thing is that he was the most planned with several miscarriages, etc. We really had to work for him!

 

[RitaZ.]

My favorite comment from people when pregnant with my third child (they'd given up by my 4th child) was, "Don't you know what causes this?" and I'd say, "Yes, and I like it!".

That would make a great tag!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

That would make a great tag!

Thankfully my tag bandwidth is all filled up!

 

[RitaZ.]

Thankfully my tag bandwidth is all filled up!

Not if it replaces one of the existing ones! Just kidding with you. It was a really good response!