Rudest twins comment!

[mickeysaver]

Just before following the nurse into the back office, my response would have been....
God blesses certain people with twins, now obviously you are special in God's eyes too, but in more of a "short bus" kinda way. Maggie

 

[BuckNaked]

The only thing that makes it rude, is the fact that he butted into your conversation uninvited. Asided from that it was just an "Al Bundy" weak attempt at humor.

I totally agree. The comment itself I don't see as being a big deal.

 

[Ratpack]

I have enjoyed all of these "comebacks" to say to such rude people.

We just had our third, and we got "Don't you know what causes that?" .....

My answer..."Yes, and practice makes perfect!"

Honestly, God knows what he is doing in blessing these families with single, twins, multiple, etc. The others...they can't possibily understand..they are not in your shoes! Enjoy those little ones!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Not if it replaces one of the existing ones! Just kidding with you. It was a really good response!

The tag fairy did take away a few of my "homemade" tags to give me my peri-menopausal tag, but then I whined loudly and they gave one back. The tag fairy is now scared of me... Hmmm, peri-menopoausal woman who whines loudly.

 

[tw1nsmom]

Thanks for the support and suggestions for snappy comebacks. I'm great at thinking of things to say, just way to late.

I really don't usually let these things get to me. I was most upset that DS had heard it.

Oh well, it's over, I didn't say anything, and I'm unlikely to see that guy ever again.

 

[DisneyPhD]

I wouldn't have been offended, the comment was about himself, not you or your DDs. He was basically telling you that he would have been overwhelmed with the responsibility of two babies at one time.

I agree, people who make dumb remarks like that are really talking about their own inadequaties then anyone else's.

I would most likely say something like "well let's thank God your wife didn't have twins, I think it is double the blessings and wouldn't have it any other way." To let your son know how much you love having them both.

Of course how do you prepare yourself for comments like that because you don't really expect people to be that dumb and rude.

 

[FreshTressa]

My younger daughter had a twin in utero that never fully developed.

But, I remember at the dr's office when they were doing the U/S and the doctor (my ob-gyn, not tech) saw twins she busted out laughing uncontrollably.

I thought it was rude!!

I guess we did look kind of funny...DH (age 24, looked about 15) standing there holding my 5 month old son who had just had a blow-out and had poo coming up his back and was crying uncontrollably while DH frantically bounced him. We already looked frazzled and too young for a 5 month old.....and now twins!!!

I was actually happy...twins are a blessing and I love babies and mourned when we discovered only one baby was developing.

Anyway...people are rude!

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

i too would just let it roll of my back, i have 2 kids and they are 11 months apart but my DD is petite and DS is normal so they often ask if they are twins and i say no the boy is younger and then i ALWAYS have people say wow he's a LARGE boy!!! AUGHHH!!!! some people just don't have any tact.

 

[babytrees]

My girls are exactly 4 years apart (10 and 14 now). They have looked like twins often in their life. I get the question all the time are they twins? Yup 4 years apart!!

I also get "Are you sure?", "How'd you manage that?", ""Great timing!!" Yup I am sure of when my childrens birthdays are !!!
I always ask if they want the long version or shorter long version of the story. Shuts them up quickly....no one wants to hear me go on!!

 

[tiff211]

I hope no one gets offended by my statement but when I see someone with twins, I just imagine anyone of mine times two and all I can say is "God Bless you!" I know I need it with singles, so I can imagine how it is with multiples. Also makes me think if you can handle more than one, let me shut up and handle my single!! You are alright in my book!

 

[amy4bruce]

I don't have twins, though I really wanted my last DS to be twins...he wasn't. But with 4 of them, all really young, I've heard worse. But one in particular takes the cake. I was in the grocery store, I had 3 at the time and was pregnant with the 4th. This man and woman passed me, stoped, looked at the boys, looked at me. Asked me if they were all mine, and then the man said, "You know, s@x is like a good cigar, sometimes you just have to take it out." My jaw dropped, I didn't know what to say, I just walked away. I couldn't believe he had the nerve to say something like that to me. But I realize that people come in all flavors and I just thankful that my flavor isn't sour.

Just to set the record straight, the man was quoting (or ripping off) Groucho Marx. On "You Bet Your Life," once, Marx said to a contestant, "I see you have nine children." The contestant said, "Yes, Groucho, I love my wife very much." Groucho said, "Well, I like a good cigar, but I take it out of my mouth once in awhile."

Or so the story goes. I've only had it relayed to me, so please don't send me any Snopes URLs telling me it was a myth.

The point is, Groucho was in a position where he was supposed to insult his guests for the humor value. Groucho was good at it. This gentleman was not.

 

[Sandy22]

I get the opposite from a lot of the previous posters. I have 2 DD's - one month apart in age - and I'm always asked if they're twins. I say no, and then they ask if I'm sure because they look identical. Yes I'm sure, they're adopted and not biologically related. It bothers me because they don't look the same at all. I live in a predominately white community and I think people just see the color of their skin and think they look the same. Then it sometimes gets worse: "where is their real mom?" Umm, that would be me! "so they're not even sisters? Well they are now!

I just hope people have enough sense not to ask these questions when the girls are old enough to understand what's being said.

 

[camreesmom]

People seem to think that they can say whatever they want when it comes to kids and especially when you're in the dr.'s office. DH and I have 8 kids, yours, mine and ours, including a set of boy twins and people are always making comments to us about needing to stop having children. We've been asked if we need a VCR to keep us occupied. The worst folks seem to be the ones I'm related to.....uncles, cousins, etc. They really think they have the right to say anything that pops into their head. I'm with you, I would probably have been offended that they said something in front of my children, too. Although, the guy probably is just someone who doesn't have any tact.

When people make a comment to me about having too many children, I usually ask them, "well, how would I have ever chosen which one to give back???" ALL of our kids are blessings and I can't imagine life without any of them!

 

[cteddiesgirl]

Don't take it to heart.

Actually, it's better to have twins. Especially as your first pregnancy/children. I know that's what I would want.

You more than likely didn't know exactly how difficult it is having one, so you get used to the more work without thinking that it's more work. And if you ever have a single child afterwards, you'd be like "oh this is easy!".

Plus, you would have to go thru one less pregnancy if you wanted more than one child.

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

here's a good one for you - my cousins (who are white) adopted an african american newborn baby. They had been trying to get PG for years..........a few days after the adoption, they found out they were PG! So for awhile, she had two infants in carriers - and they were about the same size.........one white and one african american. And she said she got some crazy CRAZY things said to her....and a lot of double takes.

 

[donnajon]

I have four sisters. My mom used to have people tell her all the time, "Thank God I don't have five girls." My mom would reply, "I thank God everyday that I DO have five girls!"

 

[daughter_of_amid_chaos]

Yeah, I've got to go with the don't take it personally line. My favorite was that if I got pregnant again, I'd head to the Bourne Bridge. You Massachusetts people will know what I mean.

Honestly, I don't think that guy meant anything against you, your twins or pregnancy in general. Just that it was not for him.

If I got pregnant now, I'd be rich and famous!

Oh but the Bourne Bridge would be no help to you now...They put up suicide gates..and thats what they're called.

 

[Mermaid02]

My dh is a twin and my MIL said she cried every day for 5 years (until they went to school) They once smeared the bathroom in vaseline and then "poofed" it with baby powder, remember when telephones had cords???

If I get pregnant again, they'll be talking me down off a bridge.

 

[Cool-Beans]

...Someone once asked her if they had the same father!!!!!!

Fraternal twins can have different fathers. I forget the technical term for it. Heteropaternal superfecundation, I *think.* Rare, but it has happened!

I think the guy, while rude, was harmless. I don't think his intent was to be mean. I'd have been upset for my son, too. I think you handled it well.

 

[jimmalru80]

I could care less what anyone would say about my twin DD's. Along with my DS, they are the most precious gifts I have ever been given. Say what you want, but they are mine and you can't have them. And I will thank the Lord every day that we have been given the chance to devote our time to bring them up. We have been truly blessed.