Rude coworkers

[deedeetoo]

It sounds like this woman was given the task of handing out tickets, and has turned it into a power trip where she is the queen of handing them out. She has no right to make people jump through hoops before doing the task that she was assigned to do. I would not put up with it. Either she gives me the tickets without the nonsense or whoever she reports to will find out.

 

[NC State]

I would "kill her with kindness" and hope that some of it will rub off on her.

 

[BadgerGirl84]

She sounds like a total beast. I'd dread interactions with her as well. Do you have the type of office environment where it would be okay to send a note to her manager? At some places I've worked at, it wouldn't be worth the effort of "tattling"...but at other places that type of feedback would be welcomed. I'm sure she doesn't act like a sweetheart to everyone and rotten just to you, so if you can somehow mention this to her manager without making your own work life worse, I would.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I am with the OP here...
The OP was not asking for a favor, just going about her day, and going to coworker in the course of doing their jobs.
One shouldn't have to beg, plead, say 'pretty please with a cherry on top'.

I also don't have very much patience these days with grandiose narcissists.

 

[Wishing on a star]

And, yes, seeing this person for how 'pathetic' they are being can help to deal with it!!!

PS: I think that in most every case, 'killing' this type of personality with kindness just feeds the beast.
That is what they are looking for and feed off of others.
They have this need to see just how far they can get others to go, to try to appease.

People who try to be nice and act appropriately, etc... are their prey.

Not a game I try any more.

 

[Dentam]

Her supervisor was in the room as well (that department is all in one big room at different desks) but I don't know if she was paying attention or not. I was very tempted to send an email to her about it and will do so if Miss Cranky Pants continues this attitude toward me the next time I have to deal with her. I agree that I shouldn't have to jump through hoops or say pretty please to get her to do her job. I told her as I was leaving that the fewer times I have to go over there to get tickets from her the better so yeah, I don't just roll over and take crap from people anymore. I used to be that nice girl who never stuck up for myself but that got old a long time ago.

 

[Dentam]

Maybe throw in a "bless your heart" or two for extra points.

Ha! I like that suggestion!

You know, there is a woman at my office who likely has the same attitude as that lady. Unfortunately, not even being nice works for her. She's just got a serious chip on her shoulder and treats everyone (who isn't her boss) like they stink or are stupid or something. It's just not going to get better. Just let her be her miserable self and don't do anything different than how you'd treat anyone else. It's her problem, not yours.

Yep, this is her in a nutshell. The looks she gives me imply that I'm an idiot. Doesn't matter what I do or how I approach her that's the attitude I'll get. And yes, I agree that it's her problem. I just need to shrug it off and not let her get to me.

 

[Dentam]

After reading the updates, I agree that going above and beyond on the sweetness might help. We had a pastor at our church who was noted for being a sourpuss. I would walk in on Sunday morning and go right up to him with a big smile and say good morning. He would mumble under his breath but over time I was one of the few he would talk to. So next month, walk over and say something like "Good morning Judy. How ARE you today? If it isn't too much trouble can I please get my tickets for this month's event?" She might still be a grouch but I think it will bother you less.

I guess this would be taking the high road but there's a stubborn part of me that doesn't want to suck up to someone who can't be bothered to act professionally.

 

[lovetoscrap]

Maybe throw in a "bless your heart" or two for extra points.

Dentam: Hi Rude Co-Worker, I am here to pick up my tickets. (said in a pleasant voice)
RCW: PLEASE?
Dentam: Well bless your heart! (said in a condescending voice-- throw in a slight southern twang for bonus effect) I am here to pick up my tickets. (in the same pleasant voice as before)
If she continues to "stare" or says "Please?" :
Dentam: (louder) I SAID I AM HERE TO PICK UP MY TICKETS. (still pleasant but with an obvious tone that assumes she can't hear you )

And if she persists:
RCW: PLEASE?
Dentam: Oh, I am so sorry. PLEASE do your job. I am here for my tickets.

OR turn to the other desk but remain at RCW's desk:
Dentam: HI RCW Supervisor. I have a question-- is there a specific script we are supposed to follow when coming to pick up our tickets? (still in a very pleasant voice)



( I don't feel well so I am a little extra snarky tonight)

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

Dentam: Hi Rude Co-Worker, I am here to pick up my tickets. (said in a pleasant voice)
RCW: PLEASE?
Dentam: Well bless your heart! (said in a condescending voice-- throw in a slight southern twang for bonus effect) I am here to pick up my tickets. (in the same pleasant voice as before)
If she continues to "stare" or says "Please?" :
Dentam: (louder) I SAID I AM HERE TO PICK UP MY TICKETS. (still pleasant but with an obvious tone that assumes she can't hear you )

And if she persists:
RCW: PLEASE?
Dentam: Oh, I am so sorry. PLEASE do your job. I am here for my tickets.

OR turn to the other desk but remain at RCW's desk:
Dentam: HI RCW Supervisor. I have a question-- is there a specific script we are supposed to follow when coming to pick up our tickets? (still in a very pleasant voice)



( I don't feel well so I am a little extra snarky tonight)

I'd throw in just one more "Bless your heart" once she hands the tickets to her just for giggles.

 

[Dentam]

For some reason I am having more trouble with quoting but I LOVE your suggested dialog, lovetoscrap!! I was so close to telling her that I didn't realize there was a script we had to follow and I must have missed the memo on that. Or maybe I could just drop to the ground in reverence like this? "I'm not worthy!"

 

[Dentam]

I'd throw in just one more "Bless your heart" once she hands the tickets to her just for giggles.

Got the quote to work this time! I am very tempted to do this!

 

[ToddyLu]

Can you just plop down in a chair across from her and start a conversation...like..."so you really don't like giving out the tickets huh? You know I don't really like coming over here either. Is there anyway we can get through this together? ( at this point she is dumbfounded and can't really say anything)..."OK well I can see you don't like talking about so I will just go now...have a nice day!"

Then the next time I come through the door I say "What's up girlfriend...I can't wait to use these tickets...I'll see you there!" Can you imagine the shear gripe in her being that would cause. " So do you know what you are wearing?" You know anything that kinda goes beyond the simple ...

Of course you can always do the best one and that is to stand there like Neo from the Matrix and do the little finger bend thing ( you know the come-on half hand wave)...in essence saying hand them over before I go Trinity on you!!! Yah, it was that kinda Monday for me too.

 

[ToddyLu]

Or better yet....slip an envelope across her desk that says...."don't say a word, place the tickets in the envelope, and no one gets hurt". You are wearing sunglasses and just stand there until she does it. You retrieve the envelope, turn around, remove your glasses and walk out. We she complains to someone higher up---you just deny it and state that it never happened...that you always chit chat when getting the tickets and just say, why would she say that....Mawhahahaha!!

Yes, I am going to bed now...tomorrow is another day.

 

[ToddyLu]

You could also go over there as a group of twelve and get them all at once...We would like our tickets ( then all together) PLEASE!!!

 

[Dentam]

My coworker managed to get my tickets for me this week - apparently the woman didn't want to do it but my coworker begged. Usually we have to sign for them in person. I owe my coworker big time!

 

[Dentam]

Or better yet....slip an envelope across her desk that says...."don't say a word, place the tickets in the envelope, and no one gets hurt". You are wearing sunglasses and just stand there until she does it. You retrieve the envelope, turn around, remove your glasses and walk out. We she complains to someone higher up---you just deny it and state that it never happened...that you always chit chat when getting the tickets and just say, why would she say that....Mawhahahaha!!

I think we have had similar Mondays!

 

[ToddyLu]

Why can't I leave this thread alone....

She hands you the tickets and you hand her a rose..."Thanks, your a doll!"