PollyannaMom
I was a click-clack champ!!
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- May 16, 2006
I agree that the roommate sounds like an introvert, but that doesn't mean she isn't also playing a part in this. Preferring to shop by yourself might be "just being an introvert" (it definitely is for me) but leaving the OP out of a team event is outright rude - no matter what your personality type.We are hearing one side of the story, and of course the OP is going to slant things to make it sound like she’s the one in the right.
From what the OP says the roommate isn’t very social and is probably an introvert. Yet the OP calls her standoffish and accuses her of purposely sitting across the room and has issues with “how she is acting” That’s the problem with people who aren’t introverts or who are a little more social, they feel everyone has to be that way and if they aren’t they are the bad guy in the situation. Not wanting to be friends doesn’t always equal hostility towards someone.
TBH OP it sounds like you may be a little overbearing when it comes to being friends with this roommate.
It’s clear your personalities don’t gel together, don’t try to force them too.
Teasing apart temperament differences versus actual problems here is important, but I do think both are happening.