Rhianna back with Chris Brown

[tinatark]

There has to be more to the story - with the photos posted online of Rhianna, why wasn't Chris Brown arrested?

I know there are legitimate cases of domestic violence, but I also know that in many cases women are as bad as men, then expect to be treated as a victim when they're as much the assailant as the man was.

Were her injuries caused by his self defense? Self inflicted? Did he get physical with her to stop her from injuring herself? A little of all?

 

[Nik's Mom]

I had a very good friend who got married at 18. I was against it, but she was determined to escape her abusive mother and ran off with the guy. Well, a couple of years later, I started receiving hysterical calls from her to come pick her up. I'd show up and she'd be bruised and battered. A day later, she'd be right back with the guy.

It got to the point that I had to remove myself from the situation. I just couldn't deal with it anymore, and she really didn't want my help. She just wanted to suck someone else into her miserable situation. Years later, she divorced that guy and is now married to yet another idiot! Some people just never learn, I'm sorry to say.

I hope Rhianna comes to her senses before she finds herself wasting her life with this guy.

 

[brockash]

If someone's mother put up with spousal abuse and allowed her children to live the life too, I will say and OWN it. Stupid.

ITA. Domestic violence is very close to my heart, but I completely agree it is very stupid, especially when there are children involved. I'm completly serious when I say that if there's proven domestic violence going on in a home, and there are children involved; the victim should have 2 choices, one get out get help (I recognize that this would take A LOT of help from the state, but there needs to be a solution) or two to stay, but the children are taken out of the home. When there are children involved; they are the 100% innocent victims. Don't get me wrong, I feel horrible for the victims of domestic violence and I know they are victims, but there has to come a time where you stop accepting being victim and step up with the help of family/friends and government and refuse to be a victim any longer.

As far as the Rihanna thing; I get that she doesn't care and it doesn't matter to her, but what a horrible, horrible message to send to other victims. Very sad.

 

[luvmy3]

1st time shame on you
2nd time shame on me.

ITA, if it is true that she is staying with him. It is not like they are a married couple with years together. Its not like she cannot support herself on her own if she left him. If it happens again to her, which I'm sure it will I will not have sympathy, this was her chance to leave and she chose not to.

 

[Piecey]

I read somewhere that she's pregnant. Anyone else hear that?

I heard it on the radio yesterday, too.

She only *just* turned 21. Last week if not more recently. So no, not a teen, but still it's not like she's 35, ya know?

She grew up quicker than most 21 year olds... she had to in the industry she is in.
I'm 21. I've been married almost a year and my DH (Veteran) has some issues (not domestic violence, but it could have possibly progressed to it, I guess). I wasn't stupid enough to think they'd go away on their own- I MADE him go get help. I monitor his appointments and KNOW that he goes to them. The difference has been amazing and he knows if he doesn't go, he doesn't get to stay. I was very clear about that.

21 year olds should know better than that.