Reusing a wedding band

[englishteacha]

My father was a widower, and he used his same ring from his first marriage when he married my mom. His first wife passed away from leukemia. It was just a plain gold band. He was buried with it on when he passed away in 2007. My mom was OK with it. If the first marriage had ended in divorce, then I'm sure neither one of them would have even thought of reusing the ring.

 

[Andtototoo]

I thought the protocol was the bride buys the grooms ring.

Given that the guy plans on recycling rings and is talking about such on a first date, I'm not sure I'd be worrying about violating protocol with him.

 

[Queen2]

Weird on a first date.

speaking of reused rings. My parents died in 2000, 2003. Somehow I ended up with there rings, plan gold bands. Well hey have been sitting in a drawer for years. never knew what to do with them. Last week I took one & had it re-sized for my husband. I told him it was his 45th anniversary ring. They are shined up & look brand new. To my surprise he proud to wear it

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

No is not a strong enough word. I could think of a couple words to preface "no" but they probably violate the forum rules. How could anybody possibly think on any level that would be OK?

 

[Imzadi]

What's engraved inside?

"Warning: I'm the cheapest guy you'll ever date."

For criminey's sake, a plain band is inexpensive. If the guy isn't willing to spring for a new one, that's too cheap for me. Did he also pay for dinner on the first date using a coupon?

We've had that thread here on the DIS, too.

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2881060

 

[teacherforhi]

My husband was a widower. He has the rings from his first marriage (his and hers) in our safe. He wants to be able to offer them to our sons when they marry. I don't have a problem with that. I feel like our oldest will probably want at least his mother's engagement ring since he remembers her best.

I would have been at least a little upset had he wanted to reuse his ring. His ring isn't anything fancy, but it represents he life he has now.

 

[bdcp]

I voted other because 1, it's just weird, 2, it makes him out to be cheap and 3, who does that? LOL

I think that shows a lot about this person. Can you say squeeze a nickel til it screams? That's what it says to me. Not someone I would want to marry.

It also comes across as lack of respect for the new spouse.

A family heirloom is a totally different situation. No problem with that.

 

[DisneyBelle99]

If a guy on a reality show said this on a first date, people would likely say " that's crazy, no one would say that on a first date!" Truth is stranger than fiction!
Please stand clear of the doors on this one, in my humble opinion.