Restroom question/issue...

[ChrisnSteph]

I did read your post. And I apologized for how I perceived it. I'm sorry you were offended. I was just defending my opinion as you were yours. Assuming I didn't have children, let alone boys, was also a little pretentious, was it not? If I came across as snippy, then maybe I will choose my words a little more carefully when responding to posts such as yours.

And I wasn't insulting anyone without a dad. It was a suggestion, nothing more. Wow, this board just blows me away.

 

[bratray]

no, you are not alone- my DS5 comes into the ladies room with me when DH isn't around, and believe me he doesn't like it but i don't care! i let him know that i want him to be safe and its no big deal, just do what ya gotta do in the bathroom and leave!

i wouldn't be offended if some other women brought their son into the ladies bathroom, i would smile to myself and know there is another person out there who thinks like me

better safe then sorry!!

 

[jgmklmhem]

This type of thread comes up all the time....For those who are offended at the Opposite sex in the wrong bathroom....WHY??? I could see in a men's room there being more problems due to urinals but in a bathroom of all stalls where nothing is seen why does it really matter as long as the kid is controlled and not peeping under the walls. When we were in Europe we ran into many restrooms that were unisex (multiple stalls...anyone can use them). There was never really a problem. If it makes people feel safe then who cares...again as long as their child is behaved.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

It's so much easier being a mom of boys and bringing them in the women's restroom than being a dad with a daughter and needing to bring her into the men's restroom. I wish that more places had family restrooms.

My 5yo always going with me into the restroom and usually into the stall with me. If he needs to go, too, and it's a very quiet bathroom I sometimes let him go into his own stall. My last WDW trip was with my mom and sister so there were extra eyes watching him.

My last WDW trip was with my 11yo. We had no bathroom issues, but always a meeting place outside the restrooms. I didn't worry about my son, and it's nice to have him old enough that I don't have to be too concerned.

Parents have to do what works for them, which sometimes means bringing little boys into the women's restroom. It never bothers me to see boys in there, as long as they are respectful of others (I've never seen any that weren't). I do remember my little children (toddlers) trying to peer under the stalls, but I quickly put a stop to that.

T&B

 

[shoppingnut]

I have been taking my nephew out since he was 2 1/2 and when he started getting older, it became difficult because he didn't want to go into the ladies room. This past summer I took him to WDW by myself and I was nervous about letting him go into the men's room alone, even though he was 10, so where ever I could find a handicapped/family bathroom I would have him use that. It doesn't matter where you are you need to be careful, there are bad people everywhere, including WDW.

And the comment as far as having a man take him into the bathroom, that's just plain ridiculous. I want to know who has a man with them all the time. And there are also single mom's and aunt's like me who take their nephew's out to see new and exciting places that mom and dad can't. Should I have had to hire a man to come with me to take him to the men's room, just so my nephew at 8 yrs. old doesn't have to stand in the ladies room outer doorway and talk to me (I didn't make him come all the way in, but just enough so I could talk to him). Mother's that have all girls are sometimes insensitive and ignorant because they don't and never will have to deal with that situation. All I can say is wait until your boys get older, you will see this issue in a whole new light when it is your sons.

 

[minniemouse1]

I don't understand the issue with the male children in a female restroom. I have 3 girls but I would not care, its not like we walk around naked in the restroom. Its all stalls. Can someone explain this????

Now a 12 year old boy in a womens locker room I would definatley be uncomfortable with.

 

[TheWog]

I said "Too bad". You can go into therapy when you are an adult, like everyone else. But, while I have you, you are alive and well."

I'm with ya sista'!

 

[zakatak]

Boy, this sure did explode! I didn't mean to start the debate thread about boys in ladies rooms. I asked specifically about the restrooms NEAR the pool areas on the ship. I know we can always run back to our room, except that entails dragging two little girls who might not be happy to leave what their doing.

Getting back on the original topic so we don't turn this into a heated debate... how many "person" restroom are the boys rooms near the pools and ARE their family restrooms available there?

Thanks...

 

[ChrisnSteph]

For crying out loud, I was talking about NINE year old boys, not 5 year olds, not moms with toddlers boys, and I wasn't asssuming every one had a dad!!!! I made a suggestion that "or dad can take him....". I specifically wrote the word "OR"! Some people are in a fit because they think I'm being insensitive. But it's ok for the other poster to "assume" by my post that I don't have children to know what I am talking about?! I was simply stating that I thought a nine year old in the ladies room is weird. Not that I was uncomfortable with, just that it's weird. Can't anyone have a different opinion? Give me a break ladies! This is getting riduculous. I think the OP has heard enough.

 

[zakatak]

ChrisnSteph... I don't know what the problem is about a 9 year old in a womens room. Sometimes, I make my son stand in the doorway area, usually not anywhere near the stalls, that is IF he even dares to come in (he is 8). I'm usually wrestling 3 little kids so having them stay together to be safe is important to me.

My Original question was about the restrooms near the pools on the ship. I just wanted to know if anyone felt safe enough to let the boys go alone or if it is like WDW or the airport BIG where anyone could get away with stuff...

Just feeling a little jittery travelling solo with three kids...

I'm sorry this turned into a debate. It wasn't intended to.

 

[Lynderella]

To answer your questions. The bathrooms by the pool area are small. There isn't a family rest room. The ladie's room had two stalls. I cannot comment on the men's. The bathrooms are located right next to each other. Good luck!

 

[married2grumpy]

I have three boys. 2, 3, and 15 months. And I don't think its appropriate for a 9 year old boy to be in a female restroom. I'm sure I'M not alone. I'm just not afraid to post it for fear of getting flamed.

I like the idea of waiting outside, or dad taking him in the mens room. Seems reasonable to me. Flame away.

I'm not going to flame away but I will say that you may change your mind when your boys are older. When they are the ages of your sons you obviously must accompany them to the restroom. When they become a little older it is a difficult decision.

I have 2 girls and a boy. My 6 year old son comes into the restroom with us girls. If the girls gotta go, I have no choice. He must come in with us. I would never leave him alone outside at his age and I'm not sure at what age I would. I'll cross that bridge when I get to it just like you will have to when the time comes.

Sorry but I have no info on the bathrooms since we will be taking our 1st Disney cruise this April!

 

[dis-happy]

I'm always haunted by the news report of the 9 year old boy who was killed at a San Diego beach. His aunt walked him to the men's restroom and stood just outside the door. Just a minute later she watched a man exit the restroom. Inside, the 12 year old had been killed. She was able to ID the man and he was arrested. There are sickos out there. I see nothing wrong with a 9 year old going in to use the women's rooms---as someone said, what is there to see anyway? In and out. Depending on the situation, I would not hesitate to bring my 9 year old in (as I did last month at Epcot).




edited for accuracy..thanks to another poster!

 

[budwmn]

In response to the original question. No, there are no family restrooms located by the pools. The only ones I'm aware of are the family/disabled ones outside Parrot Cay, Animator's Palate, and one on either side of the Walt Disney Theater.

In response to the other comments regarding older boys in the Ladies Room. It's not only a problem of worrying about them alone in the Men's Room, but also leaving them alone outside while you're using the restroom. I'm not talking about onboard the ship (I feel okay with my DS 8 waiting for me in the hallway of the ship). But I don't when I'm at Target, the supermarket, etc. No way am I going to allow someone the chance to kidnap my child. If it makes someone uncomfortable, tough. I wish more public facilities offered family restrooms!

 

[TootyJane]

I'm always haunted by the news report of the 12 year old boy who was killed at a San Diego beach. His aunt walked him to the men's restroom and stood just outside the door. Just a minute later she watched a man exit the restroom. Inside, the 12 year old had been killed. She was able to ID the man and he was arrested. There are sickos out there. I see nothing wrong with a 9 year old going in to use the women's rooms---as someone said, what is there to see anyway? In and out. Depending on the situation, I would not hesitate to bring my 9 year old in (as I did last month at Epcot).

This thread reminded me of this story. It happened in Oceanside, California in November 1998. However, Matthew Cecchi was only 9 and was killed in a restroom by a knife slash to the neck. Brandon Wilson, a drifter from Wisconsin, was picked up within days, was identified by Matthew's aunt who had been standing right outside the restroom, and admitted to the murder. I, too, have no problem bringing my youngest ds into a women's restroom.

Lisa

 

[chrisn]

And if Dad can't take him, he goes with me and/or sister (16). I just realized something really strange. We've done two seven night cruises and never once did we use any restroom except for the one in our cabin. If it's close, I'd just rather go there but I would and will definitely take him into the ladies room with me on the cruise, at WDW, at the mall etc. Someone else said it beautifully. My child is my life and his safety is more important to me then someone elses embarassment or annoyance.

 

[zakatak]

This is not helping my nerves...

 

[april riddle]

I never had any problems forcing my sons to come into the ladies restrooms - now that they are 11 and 9 they go together but I still don't like them going on their own. When my oldest was 9 we were in Detroit airport and I made him come into the women's bathroom - he was pissed off with me but he was also safe - what can I say.

 

[crisi]

This is not helping my nerves...

There are 60 million children in the U.S. between the ages of 0-14. In 1998 one was killed in a bathroom. There have been a few others (I recall a young girl in Las Vegas), but I don't think the number hits double digits for the past ten years. I wouldn't loose a lot of sleep over a one in 60 million chance. On the other hand, several hundred children die each year riding their bike.

This doesn't mean you shouldn't be viligent.

 

[aprilgail2]

There have been a few others (I recall a young girl in Las Vegas), but I don't think the number hits double digits for the past ten years. I wouldn't loose a lot of sleep over a one in 60 million chance. On the other hand, several hundred children die each year riding their bike.

This doesn't mean you shouldn't be viligent.

And the one in Las Vegas was brought into the bathroom by her killer, she did not go in there and then meet him.