Restaurant etiquite

[CindyandBrice]

Lots of different opinions on this one. I do appricate everyones input. I am almost afraid to say what i might do one way or the other. And please, i am just talking about in the park (non-signature) restaurants, after a hot day of riding and walking. My hair might be having a good day and then again it might not. It may almost be more offensive and draw attention of others if i remove the hat. Or, maybe i should just consider cutting it all off. Then no worries of hat hair, right???

 

[Nennie]

I know I would rather look at a baseball hat as opposed to someone's sweaty head! LOL! Then again, I don't really check out what the other patrons are wearing anyway!

As for DH and I...we keep our hats on!! DS keeps his mickey ears on too!

 

[KigerKat]

In the scenario of a theme-park restaurant, I would not take my cap off. I think people might be more offended by the way my hair would look on a hot August evening - all sweaty, kinky and matted after being under a ball cap all day.

That being said, for everyone that thinks it's poor manners to wear one - are you okay with tank tops, swim tops, flip flops and daisy duke shorts?

Now if we spend the day at the parks and then go out to a resort for dinner, then I would definitely want to shower and change first. No ball cap there. And at the same time, I would not be offended if someone was wearing one. My food still tastes the same and if I can't stop thinking about why they wouldn't take it off, then I definitely need to address my priorities.

 

[tiggr33]

I constantly wear a ballcap in the parks. Unless sitting at an outside CS location I would never wear my cap while eating.

Since you asked as an etiquette question, proper etiqutte is to always remove your hat (unless for religious beliefs) when inside, unless the inside room is considered a public way (elevator or hallway leading in/out). The only exception is a woman's formal hat that is affixed by pins into the hair. Ballcaps are consider unisex. A woman's hat would be part of a dressy ensemble.

 

[Kay1]

That being said, for everyone that thinks it's poor manners to wear one - are you okay with tank tops, swim tops, flip flops and daisy duke shorts?

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A nice tank top on a woman is fine with me, but on a man - no. Ick. Flip flops can be quite dressy, too, so they don't bother me. The other two, not sure.

I see the "hat in restaurant" thing as more touristy than trashy and agree can sometimes be a cute look. We would never do it, though.

 

[PrincessKitty1]

Traditional-etiquette-wise, a woman never needs to take off her hat. It's part of her outfit.

The last time we ate at the Rose and Crown, the server placed a crown on my head, so I figure that's a signal that it's perfectly fine to wear a hat in a Disney themepark restaurant. (I took it off only because I hate the feeling of hats!)

 

[jfinke]

Part of the problem is that you are dealing with a place that has people walking around outside in 80-100 degree weather all day.

I have yet to see any enforce the dress codes at California Grill and other "signature" restaurants, so I would prefer people to cover up their heads. At this point, I just try to ignore what everyone else is wearing. In fact, I would much rather be near people not dressed properly than with people who are dressed to the nines but have screaming kids running around.

Cruiseboards have these discussions all of the time. Until management actually starts turning people away, not much you can do about it.

I just try to focus on having a good meal on my table.

 

[ilovecupcakes]

I just got back from Disney yesterday, so I was there during the torrential downpours, and I definitely left my hat on...as did just about everyone else! Let's face it, if you were there last week, you were lucky that you made it into the restaurant with dry or partially dry clothes. I was not offended in the least if I saw anyone with a hat on.

I did not, however, wear my hat to the California Grill (as it is a signature dining restaurant). But, yes, I did leave it on at the other counter and table service restaurants. Trust me, no one wanted to see what I was hiding underneath that ball cap this past week!

 

[ntsammy5]

Oh boy - another hat etiquette thread. This is personal preference - do whatever floats your boat. Sometimes I take mine off sometimes not.

There are more important things for me to worry about.

 

[valeriemouse]

I would agree that it's personal preference. Even though I don't wear hats, I would certainly not be offended if I saw anyone, man or woman, wearing a hat at a TS restaurant I wouldn't give it a second thought. After all, on vacation, isn't comfort most important?

 

[Atchley]

I would agree that it's personal preference. Even though I don't wear hats, I would certainly not be offended if I saw anyone, man or woman, wearing a hat at a TS restaurant I wouldn't give it a second thought. After all, on vacation, isn't comfort most important?

My thoughts exactly. Why do I care if someone else is wearing a hat while eating or if someone else cares that someone from my family is wearing one? It is not going to ruin my vacation, my day, or even my dinner if someone around me is wearing a hat. If it does ruin someone's meal, then I'm going to guess that the day already wasn't going that great for them.

 

[soupy11]

my thoughts exactly. Why do i care if someone else is wearing a hat while eating or if someone else cares that someone from my family is wearing one? It is not going to ruin my vacation, my day, or even my dinner if someone around me is wearing a hat. If it does ruin someone's meal, then i'm going to guess that the day already wasn't going that great for them.

+1

 

[teach22180]

I think there's a generational divide on this issue, too. We are "fighting" the flip flop question at the school where I teach. My principal, who is from the same generation as I am (late 40's), cannot understand why any teacher feels they are appropriate to teach in. However, the younger teachers have some nice, leather, fancy and expensive flip flops and don't see the problem.

 

[Nefferz]

Hats come off indoors on everyone, no matter how bad the hair looks.

Oh.. but you soooo don't want to see my hair after a day of sweating beneath the hot Florida sun.

A couple of years ago I was at Epcot for the Davy Jones concerts and he reached over to take my hat off for a picture and I stopped him. I figured my hair looked far worse than the hat did! I do, however, tease my girlfriends that Davy Jones once tried to undress me.

Truthfully though? I'm not going to worry too much about hats while I'm there. If the hair's not too bad, I'll probably take it off. If the hair is matted to my head and nasty looking, I'll probably leave it on.

 

[threeboysmom]

Hmm... I always thought it was perfectly acceptable for a lady to wear a hat indoors, but a man should always remove his. When did this change for the ladies?

 

[TheRustyScupper]

Hmm... I always thought it was perfectly acceptable for a lady to wear a hat indoors, but a man should always remove his. When did this change for the ladies?

1) For fine millinery or fancy hats (such as Easter Bonnets), yes.
2) Baseball or casual hats, absolutely not.

Direct Emily Post Quote:
"Assuming that you are asking about casual hats such as baseball caps, then the following applies: Although commonly seen in casual restaurants, it's really not proper etiquette to keep a hat on when eating. Some etiquette experts may advise taking off a hat when eating outdoors, too."

 

[OurMsBrooks]

I don't mind what other people do, but in our family we all take off our hats at the table, even at McDonald's. (We're not necessarily as good about taking them off indoors, in general. I didn't even realize until recently that this was polite. My parents never mentioned it, and I had to meet a southerner to learn that one.)

I do like to teach my kids some of these more formal manners. For example, we make sure to teach our kids to shake hands. The other day 9 yr-old DS met his pen pal for the first time, and I was so proud to see him immediately make eye contact and extend his hand to shake! A little bit of "civilization" is a good thing.

 

[maxiesmom]

Oh.. but you soooo don't want to see my hair after a day of sweating beneath the hot Florida sun.

No offence, but you are right! I would much rather look at a person in a ball cap in a restaurant than at sweaty, dirty, stringy looking hair that had been shoved under a cap all day. Nasty!

I too thought the hat rules only applied to men. But I have to say I don't think Post's rules apply in a theme park. Most dining at Disney isn't fine, fancy dining.

 

[kaytieeldr]

It's not casual dining in the way Post intends, either. Casual dining would be McDonald's, etc.

Hmm... I always thought it was perfectly acceptable for a lady to wear a hat indoors, but a man should always remove his. When did this change for the ladies?

When women started wearing casual, "mens'" style hats

With all the junk women haul around, no baseball hat-wearing female in this thread has room for a hairbrush and a covered elastic? Either/both would eliminate the sweaty, stringy hair problem - quick brush-out in the bathroom or nearby quiet (but hygienic) spot. Not being hypothetical - it's what I do.

 

[crazyfordisney2000]

I loved the comment "do whatever floats your boat" and tend to agree with it, although a hat at the dinner table is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. It's Disney. Do what makes you more comfortable and don't worry what others think!!