Relationship vent....yes another one :) Update Post 54

[azgal81]

You are better off without him one day you will see that! There is someone better out there for you who doesn't need you and another girl just you. Have fun at disney!

 

[CathrynRose]

Well here's a bit of an update...He dumped me today. Over text messaging.

Enough said I guess??

He asked if he could keep in contact with me and call me IF he ever moves back to NY.

I know I can do better, but I can't help but be upset about this. He did a lot of crappy things, but I feel this tie to him that I can't explain. Never really thought it would end this way.

He said long distance is too hard and that I expected too much from him.

Disney here I come.

Im sorry to hear this - but dont feel alone.

I dated someone long distance for 2 YEARS, he broke up with me the DAY BEFORE a Disney trip we were both to go on, together beacuse he "didnt know anymore" whatever in the heck THAT means.

And the real kicker? He got married a month later - and it wasnt to me.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

Have fun in Disney! I had someone break up with me over email once. You win...text messaging is worse!

 

[Disney Doll]

If someone has no integrity, you don't want them in your life anyway.

 

[PrincessTiff]

Lol you are so right.

Story is we started talking while my ex and I were go ing through divorce/seperation. Me and this guy were never really serious and he didn't tell me he was living with someone. They have since broken up and she was supposed to move out this month. They haven't been dating since August.

I am so confused because deep down I think he's a good guy but it's a crappy situation....then I start to think I am just making excuses for him since I have such strong feelings for him.

Are you just holding on to him because perhaps he was a rebound?
Another question....Is he going to WDW with you??

ETA- I apologize, didn't see your update.

 

[LBelle]

Things will only go UP from here!!!! You are soooooo much better off!!

 

[Carys]

LBelle, you stole the words right out of my post-to-be!

MainStMandy, you have had a lucky escape. My flatmate was dumped by text in December, and tried to rationalize it by saying that at least the dumper's message was over several texts, thereby qualifying as a goodbye letter with effort put into it. Don't waste your life expending "stupid" energy on him. To hazard a guess, the tie you feel is to what you wanted him to be, not who he really was. You can put that energy to better use on someone who appreciates you for the special person that you are! Have an awesome time at Disney!!

For an added bonus feature to my post (kind of like the "special features" section on a DVD with the deleted blooper scenes), Here are two good things about what just happened to you:

1. It happened Before the trip, not after
2. You are now free to seek and seduce that piratical Depp lookalike

 

[MainStMandy]

LBelle, you stole the words right out of my post-to-be!

MainStMandy, you have had a lucky escape. My flatmate was dumped by text in December, and tried to rationalize it by saying that at least the dumper's message was over several texts, thereby qualifying as a goodbye letter with effort put into it. Don't waste your life expending "stupid" energy on him. To hazard a guess, the tie you feel is to what you wanted him to be, not who he really was. You can put that energy to better use on someone who appreciates you for the special person that you are! Have an awesome time at Disney!!

For an added bonus feature to my post (kind of like the "special features" section on a DVD with the deleted blooper scenes), Here are two good things about what just happened to you:

1. It happened Before the trip, not after
2. You are now free to seek and seduce that piratical Depp lookalike

Lol, Thank you all for you well wishes, but I have to say that this made me laugh, which I haven't done a whole lot of since yesterday.

I'm not sure why I'm holding on so hard, but he seriously broke my heart yesterday. And I can't stop thinking about the why of it all. I mean 3 or 4 weeks ago, things were completely different. But I just keep telling myself he really didn't treat me right and if he walked away so easily...that should tell me something.

 

[CheshireVal]

I'm sorry that happened to you. I suspect that you were starting to realize he wasn't "the one" for you, but it still hurts to be dumped first before you had the chance to end things.

Ultimately, I think it's a good thing for you, but it's not the best feeling in the world right now.

Luckily you have your trip to look forward to!!

 

[MainStMandy]

Thought you guys could use a laugh. I got an email from him this morning and it looks like it was all my fault...Here are some excerpts...

...My life is difficult and busy right now....I know this is not really an excuse, but I feel pretty overwhelmed at work and all I can think about is getting another text from you expressing your dissatisfaction with "us" and me.

...I'm sure that was just as much my fault, but I could not take another text message from you doubting us and I did not have the time at work or at home to try and talk you out of it.

...I wanted to be able to call you or email you to keep in touch because you still mean alot to me and I want to know how your doing, but that does not seem like something you are interested in, now. Am I right? I am sorry for the timing of all this, but I could not go on this trip feeling this way.

 

[LBelle]

LBelle, you stole the words right out of my post-to-be!

MainStMandy, you have had a lucky escape. My flatmate was dumped by text in December, and tried to rationalize it by saying that at least the dumper's message was over several texts, thereby qualifying as a goodbye letter with effort put into it. Don't waste your life expending "stupid" energy on him. To hazard a guess, the tie you feel is to what you wanted him to be, not who he really was. You can put that energy to better use on someone who appreciates you for the special person that you are! Have an awesome time at Disney!!

For an added bonus feature to my post (kind of like the "special features" section on a DVD with the deleted blooper scenes), Here are two good things about what just happened to you:

1. It happened Before the trip, not after
2. You are now free to seek and seduce that piratical Depp lookalike

 

[helenabear]

Well here's a bit of an update...He dumped me today. Over text messaging.

Enough said I guess??

He asked if he could keep in contact with me and call me IF he ever moves back to NY.

I know I can do better, but I can't help but be upset about this. He did a lot of crappy things, but I feel this tie to him that I can't explain. Never really thought it would end this way.

He said long distance is too hard and that I expected too much from him.

Disney here I come.

I just now saw this... I am sorry that he didn't even have the guts to talk to you on the phone or face to face! I am sorry you have any hurt as well.

It does sound like you are better off with out him though. I do hope you have a blast at WDW!!!! Some day your prince charming will come!

If I were you, I'd dumb his contact info from your phone/computer (whatever) and don't give that guy a second thought. Sounds like a person who isn't very capable of dealing with a real relationship.

 

[CathrynRose]

Thought you guys could use a laugh. I got an email from him this morning and it looks like it was all my fault...Here are some excerpts...

...My life is difficult and busy right now....I know this is not really an excuse, but I feel pretty overwhelmed at work and all I can think about is getting another text from you expressing your dissatisfaction with "us" and me.

...I'm sure that was just as much my fault, but I could not take another text message from you doubting us and I did not have the time at work or at home to try and talk you out of it.

...I wanted to be able to call you or email you to keep in touch because you still mean alot to me and I want to know how your doing, but that does not seem like something you are interested in, now. Am I right? I am sorry for the timing of all this, but I could not go on this trip feeling this way.

Tell him to bite your ....*butt*....

Jerk.

Then tell him he did you both a favor, and thanks!

 

[MainStMandy]

He really is amazing...I emailed back and basically told him there wasn't a chance of us getting back together and I wished him the best. I tried to stay calm, I really do want to be the bigger person here. He has some nerve though...

 

[ericamanda01]

What a coward he is! He doesn't have the respect for you to call you and at least talk to you about this? Instead he sent you emails and text messages! What a jerk! You really dodged a bullet by getting out of that relationship. And repeat after me, IT'S NOT MY FAULT! If he really wanted the relationship to work, nothing would have got in his way. You will find someone better. I understand that your heartbroken, but believe me just from the way he was ended the relationship your better off. I hope you have a great time in Disney!

 

[Hercules10]

He really is amazing...I emailed back and basically told him there wasn't a chance of us getting back together and I wished him the best. I tried to stay calm, I really do want to be the bigger person here. He has some nerve though...

My suggestion...block his email address. Block his phone #'s. Block his existance from your life. Put him on permanat ignore. Don't acknowledge him.

Good luck

 

[FSUGrad97]

Thought you guys could use a laugh. I got an email from him this morning and it looks like it was all my fault...Here are some excerpts...

...My life is difficult and busy right now....I know this is not really an excuse, but I feel pretty overwhelmed at work and all I can think about is getting another text from you expressing your dissatisfaction with "us" and me.

...I'm sure that was just as much my fault, but I could not take another text message from you doubting us and I did not have the time at work or at home to try and talk you out of it.

...I wanted to be able to call you or email you to keep in touch because you still mean alot to me and I want to know how your doing, but that does not seem like something you are interested in, now. Am I right? I am sorry for the timing of all this, but I could not go on this trip feeling this way.

What a flippin' TOOL!
Between this text and the ex-girlfriend who may or may not still live with him, I think you are better off without this guy.

When I was in college, a guy I had been seeing exclusively hooked up with another girl at a party. Since that was a deal breaker for me, I ended the relationship.

Now, the best thing about this whole story was that I met my DH a few months later. We were friends at the time, but the ex didn't know that and saw us out once. My DH is SMOKIN' hot compared to the other guy, and the look on his (the ex) was priceless!

Hang in there.