Hey-
We were doing a ehearsal dinner as a Wishes dessert party until we found out about our awful inclement weather plan! We were so excited about it, too!
We just moved up to the Napa Room at the California Grill. We still get to see the fireworks, the music is piped in for free, and the view cannot be beat! We're at 36 people- not as large as your's by any means. The meals are served California (aka family) style. There is a private bar in the Napa room, too.
If you wanted further information on either event, please feel free to PM me. I've managed to accumulate a lot by way of pricing, miniumums, etc. moving it!