Rehearsal — Is it really necessary?

[luandjustin]

Okay, so maybe this is a little naive, but my fiancée and I didn't think we were going to need a rehearsal before our wedding. Well, we had our first planning session (over the phone) with Jennifer, and she made it sound like the rehearsal was REALLY important.

We weren't planning on that, so now we're faced with a new set of logistical problems. We have tons of questions about rehearsals and dinners and stuff, but most of those are answered elsewhere on DISboards. What I want to know is this: Is it really necessary for us to have a rehearsal? What if we just met with Jennifer and gave her the stuff we'll need to hand off (favors, guest book, etc)?



Thanks, everyone!

 

[OceanGdss]

i would highly recommend running through the ceremony. It just helps everyone feel much more comfortable the actual day of. Dont skip it

 

[IndyBride]

I'm going to do a rehearsal because it will ease my mind. Just because you have a rehearsal doesn't mean you have to have a rehearsal dinner. Just saying hey, meet here at this time it'll take 30 minutes or whatever and then you can be on your way. It doesn't have to be a huge to-do.

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

i didnt, but i had an intimate ceremony, so there were no BMs,GMs, FGs...it was simple & sweet...so there was no point

but i think if you have alot of people involved in the ceremony, it might be a good idea

gl

 

[alissa2008]

I'm an escape bride and we don't actually get a rehearsal. So, I'm worried about it -- Has any escape bride arranged a rehearsal with their officiant? Did it cost extra?

 

[PrincessBride07]

Wishes bride here that didn't have a rehearsal. The wedding went rather smooth. The only thing that we messed up on was what way to go around the table after the lighting of the unity candle. It was no big deal. In hindsight, I still don't think it was needed. We did only have 1 BM and 1 GM. If you have a lot of them, I could see where you might see the need.

 

[DisneyBrideToni]

I am having a rehearsal the morning before the wedding and I am not having a dinner or anything. You can just go through the wedding with the bridal party and go about your seperate ways.

 

[PhilHarMaestro]

I'm an escape, so I'm not having one, but I have been in a lot of weddings and the rehearsal is great way for you to make sure that you and your officiant are on the same page with all the details and if you have children in the ceremony it helps them alot to know exactly what will happen and what is expected of them on the hectic wedding day. Weddings can be really overwhelming for kids, especially young ones. In fact the day before, I'm going to take my niece to the site and show her what she will do.

Good Luck!

 

[disprincessatheart]

We had an escape, so we didn't get a rehearsal. We had a MOH and BM, plus a flower girl and ring bearer. Right before the ceremony they told us where to go, how to do the unity candle, etc. It all went just fine.

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

I'm an escape bride and we don't actually get a rehearsal. So, I'm worried about it -- Has any escape bride arranged a rehearsal with their officiant? Did it cost extra?

I was an escape bride as well and we did not do a rehersal. It was NOT a problem at all. My planner Kathleen was there and she directed everyone and everything right in the moment. We had no problems at all. My only regret is that I didn't take more time out to talk to my flower girl. She's the only one who could have used a run through, lol.

 

[JandJ]

I think a rehearsal is good. It helps everyone know where they need to be and what they're expected to do - especially if you have a lot of attendants.

I was an Intimate (Escape) bride so we didn't have an official rehearsal, but the night before the wedding we did a little run-through. I've been in so many weddings that I knew I could handle the mini-rehearsal myself. My MOH (our only attendant) was nervous about poofing my gown, when to take my bouquet, and about handing Rev. Jack the rings, so it put her at ease to have a little rehearsal. And it was a good excuse to have the in-laws pay for a really nice "rehearsal dinner" The next day, between our coordinator and Rev. Jack directing us, it was seamless.

 

[Sleeping_Princess]

I am a wishes bride and we are going to have a rehearsal the night before, because I am a perfectionist and we have 3 attendants on each side! I figured it would also be wise, since we are bringing in our own pastor and he has never done a Disney Wedding before..

Like everyone said you don't need to have a big dinner or anything.. The way we are doing it -- is we have 25 people total in the Wedding Party (Including Dates) and DF's parents are paying for dinner that night at Ohana's.. Anyone else outside of the Wedding Party that would like to attend, can but I am wording it that they have to pay their own way -- I don't know if this is cheesy, but we are way over budget and trying to cut costs where we can..

So maybe you can do something like this, or maybe you can gather eveyone in your room and talk them through things just so everyone is on the same page..

Good Luck and Happy Planning

 

[B2B-2008]

There are only going to be 12 of us and we are not having one. I have had a run through already on the phone and they will also do this with my DF when he gets to the ceremony site. I have also told my BM's what they have to do. I'm a bit worried about not having one but I'm hoping that by concentrating on what I have to do will make it harder for me to cry on the day.

 

[babystar]

Oh I wasnt going to have one but I think I am being a bit niave as to what other peolpe need to do!! Will have to re think the rehearsal plan! When do you book you're rehearsal or will my plannerjust let me know when ive been slotted in?