Regarding Stealing... Am I Crazy?

[pearlieq]

Now the hard part... what do I do with this new found information! I feel bad for my friend, but she needs to get a clue and grow up. I see her so differently now... maybe because I work my butt off for my money.

Stop hanging out with her. She's a tool.

People tell you who they are. If the morally suspect enough to steal from work, she's not to be trusted. She may not steal from you, but she may have no problem rationalizing gossiping about you behind your back, making a pass at your husband, or any number of other insufferable things.

We ALL think about "sticking it to the man" but actually doing it is WAY far gone.

 

[AKL_Megs]

Stop hanging out with her. She's a tool.

People tell you who they are. If the morally suspect enough to steal from work, she's not to be trusted. She may not steal from you, but she may have no problem rationalizing gossiping about you behind your back, making a pass at your husband, or any number of other insufferable things.

We ALL think about "sticking it to the man" but actually doing it is WAY far gone.

Thanks for this... you are 100% right on... it is just sad.

 

[Sgt Mickey]

Stealing is stealing no matter how much your employer may be an ***

 

[Becky2005]

I expected you to be talking about a few paper clips or something.

That or the accidental pen that ends up in your pocket on the way home. That *technically* is stealing but it happens, sometimes innocently. However, to actually pocket CASH is so deliberately stealing I can't even fathom how you can even defend that even if "no one will notice" -- isn't that the excuse of all white collar crimes "oh we will only take a wee bit, no one will notice that $1 million missing when they have $50 billion to work with", it's just pocket change to them.

We just had a situation recently similar in regards to volunteer situation -- Same concept, different way it was done but funds ended up being short for what they were meant for. So, maybe I'm a bit more sensitive to this type of thing....no matter how little was taken YES...eventually it does matter & get noticed.

I don't think there is anything OP can do in regards to the job since it would just be hearsay for you since you didn't actually SEE her take the money but I would definitely look at my friendship differently and just wouldn't consider her trustworthy. I certainly wouldn't be doing anything with her where the costs have to be split, etc...

 

[Disney Doll]

Stop hanging out with her. She's a tool.

People tell you who they are. If the morally suspect enough to steal from work, she's not to be trusted. She may not steal from you, but she may have no problem rationalizing gossiping about you behind your back, making a pass at your husband, or any number of other insufferable things.

We ALL think about "sticking it to the man" but actually doing it is WAY far gone.

This is very good advice.

She is showing you who she "is"...so believe her and decide whether you want to hang around with someone who is of questionable moral character.

Today it's a few bucks from her boss, tomorrow it's other morally suspect things.

As far as what to do with the info...I'd probably do nothing because the fact is that eventually she will get caught...someone is going to notice the money is missing...

Your job is to decide about your friendship....

 

[WhateverLolaWants]

Your friend is not that brilliant. The country club industry is hurting and laying people off right and left (or even closing). Stealing income from her club could possibly lead to her or her coworkers getting laid off.

 

[brekin67]

Embezzlement.

 

[ma2jr]

Embezzlement.

 

[dalt01]

stealing for sure.......but get this....and i suspect it is not an isolated incident around the world..........i had a friend who owned a bar, the bar register is the easiest place to "skim" there is..........he told me one day that his bartender who had been there for years was skimming about a hundred a week........i said, why dont you fire him......the reply?........no way, at least i know how much he takes, the next guy might take more!...........also any loss prevention person will tell you that most of the shrinkage is internal.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Stop hanging out with her. She's a tool.

People tell you who they are. If the morally suspect enough to steal from work, she's not to be trusted. She may not steal from you, but she may have no problem rationalizing gossiping about you behind your back, making a pass at your husband, or any number of other insufferable things.

We ALL think about "sticking it to the man" but actually doing it is WAY far gone.

So true. Not a "friend" to have.

You (meaning she) can't massage the meaning out of words and actions. The world doesn't work that way. What's next? Life behind bars if she keeps it up.

 

[momrek06]

Oh my...OP, I am seeing this more and more on the News and reading it more and more in the Newspaper. No, you are not crazy.....your friend is.....

This is embezzlement. And this may not be the first employer she has done this too......wait until she does it at a business that has camera's on her.

Disturbing to say the least. Recently, I heard of a secretary stealing from her church and a bookkeeper stealing from a Boy Scout organization. Just disturbing.

 

[diznygirl]

Thanks!

Now the hard part... what do I do with this new found information! I feel bad for my friend, but she needs to get a clue and grow up. I see her so differently now... maybe because I work my butt off for my money.

I guess you just tell her that you hope she doesn't get caught - because the judge will most likely disagree with her!

 

[Stacerita]

I don't see how your friend thinks this isn't stealing. Wonder what she would say if someone pocketed money meant for her.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I would drop your friend like a rock.

I would be half tempted to report the crime but wouldn't.

She cannot be trusted. She is embezzling.

 

[Ember]

That or the accidental pen that ends up in your pocket on the way home.

Oh dear. I am an inadvertent pen thief! To try to stop I always say out loud, "And here is your pen back." People always give me a funny look, but it's a personal reminder to myself not to walk off with the darn thing!!

 

[JoiseyMom]

Yup, stealing. I had this with a co-worker at Staples, I had left over a year before she got fired. She used to complain that the kids who worked there couldn't count when the till we all shared was short. I used to believe her. Then they started only letting her use her register..and guess what was still short. The more I got to know her at work the less I liked her, and I distanced myself from here, even though we were the same age. Anyways.. when I found out she got fired I asked why, (I am still friends with one of the mgrs and a few other employees), adn I was told that loss provention came to fire her. She was using her Staples reward card to swipe for herself when poeple didn't have one or want to use theirs!! She also would take the ink cartridge rewards (3.00 per) for those that dropped them off that didn't have a card. Now she did this when I was there and was told to stop..guess she didn't. I am just shocked at how long it took them to fire her and that they didn't file charges.

As soon as she got let go, she called to see if my place was still hiring . Of course she didn't tell me why she was fired!! She immediately was deleted from my cell phone. She also asked if she could use me as a job reference . She had to know I would find out what happened.

I wonder what she told her husband!!