Maybe I give up too easily, but with our noon SBP wedding, I just found the whole process of doing a lunch to be too much stress and hassle. We are doing a pay-your-own-way welcome dinner the night before, and are having a dessert party at EPCOT the night of, so I don't feel too bad about it. My Dad is also paying to have Mickey and Minnie come to our cake cutting as a special treat for DF and I as well as our guests.
We thought about doing dinner, but the timing was going to be bad with the dessert party and with me wanting to wear my dress to the meal. The first seating is generally at five, so I would have had to get out of my dress after the wedding, get back in my dress for dinner, and then get back out of my dress before the DP. It was too much stress and hassel, so now we will provide the cake and cider reception and the DP but no meal in between!
I feel much less stressed about this and we aren't even there. I also think haveing M&M at the cake cutting is a good replacement for the meal, and more memorable.
HTH someone!