Received an invitation

[mla1977]

Hi all!

I just received an invitation to my cousin's wedding (coming up in March). The outside envelope was just addressed to me, and the inside envelope didn't have any names on it. Well, I've had the same boyfriend for almost 6 years now and I'm not sure if he is invited. Since the inside envelope doesn't have anything on it, I don't know who is invited. If it had only my name on it, I could at least assume that only I was invited.

What do you guys think?

The RSVP isn't due until March 7, and the shower is next weekend so I can check with everyone there, but still...

All that being said, I'm sure that DBF won't go anyways, since he is not into that kind of thing.

 

[OceanGdss]

hmmm..I'd say its probably only an invite to you. When we made up our guest list we had a "Fiance/Spouse Only" rule. So BFs and GFs weren't included (due to very limited space) and made sure to put "& Guest" or the Spouse's name when we made the list. Those we were inviting as 1 person only (no guests) onyl had their names on the envelope. I would just ask at the shower

 

[Mermaid_Ariel]

I think it was a polite way to say that you're the only one invited. I would have to agree about the fiance/spouse rule, too. It kind of makes it weird for photos down the road if it doesn't work out.

 

[mla1977]

I understand about the fiance/spouse rule, and I would probably do the same thing, but every other invitation I've ever received at least had something on the inside envelope.

As much as I love my cousin, I'm already not too thrilled about how I've been treated re: this wedding. Save the dates went out a while ago, but I never got one. I then got an invite to the shower (sent to my current address that I have been at for almost 2 years), so obviously someone had my address. Apparently all of my other cousins got their save the dates (except for the one who still lives at home). All this crap is why I hope to have an Escape Wedding. I can only invite immediate family and friends. If anyone wants to throw us a party later, it is all up to them.

 

[SarahInMN]

I agree: it likely is for you only. We have a married/fiance rule OR a "together for 10 years or more" for our gay/lesbian friends. You could discretely ask the maid of honor but I suspect her answer will be the same.

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

did it have a spot for # attending & it was blank??

I hope she would allow you to bring a date & if you couldnt at least note it for you??

can you call a family member & clarify??

 

[mla1977]

My cousin is the groom, so I'm not sure if I'll be seeing him next weekend or not. His father just passed away a few weeks ago too, so asking anyone in his family is tough for me, because I don't want to create any drama. (I can do that here and you guys can talk me down though )

My mom said "of course he's invited". Well it isn't her family and I'm kind of surprised that she would assume that since she always preaches protocol (sp?) to me.

Has anyone sent out invites without anything on the inside card? I just think that alone is weird.

 

[disprincessatheart]

I sent my invites without an inner envelope at all - going way more casual than the standard wedding invite. But, I did make sure that the 2 single people I invited had & Guest on the outer envelope. (and on their original save the date so there was no question).

I really wonder if your original STD got lost in the mail. It really does happen - I had a card stolen out of the mail once that a friend sent me. Seems there was a postal employee stealing anything that looked like a birthday card because it might have money in it. It made it's way to me 2 years later after the trial! So, I'm just saying that since you were invited to the shower and the wedding, it could have gotten lost.

 

[meelee514]

I just noticed you live in Eagleville, haha that's like down the street from me.

I hope everything works out well for you, family can be such a pain sometimes

 

[GlobalDiva]

Hey mla1977

Yeah it looks like just you alone are invited. Don't listen to your mom and bring DBF along.

Your save the date probably didn't get delivered, or got delivered to the wrong address. Just do your best not to be bummed/annoyed about the invite thing; weddings so often involve major guest list triage and brutal- and- embarrassing-but-necessary-decisions on the part of the happy couple; alienation is hardly ever their intention. Now that I'm engaged and planning my own wedding, I may disagree with many oddball wedding planning actions, but I can certainly sympathize more than I did before.

You said it yourself--an Escape wedding looks SOOOO attractive much of the time...

 

[mla1977]

Yup. I was going to say something in your PJ. I have some friends that live in Sanatoga.

Maybe we can plan a DIS meet when the open up the Disney outlet this spring!

 

[meelee514]

They going to have a Disney outlet in the new place they just built?? Awesome haha

 

[mla1977]

They going to have a Disney outlet in the new place they just built?? Awesome haha

Yup!!! The website says spring 2008. It is already on their maps too! I can't wait for it!

 

[caryndisneydiva]

ooo the disney outlets are great! there's one in austin that we go to!

as far as the invite question, i might be in the minority, but you should definitely have someone inquire as to your dbf situation. i was always under the understanding that if you are in a relationship and are over 18, then you are supposed to be invited with a guest. this is also the purpose of the inner envelope.

i'm sure your std got lost in the mail. the stupid post office lost several of my rsvp's and invitations and in general, they are just bad.