Really upset! bad Update - p. 3, post 35

[RadioFanatic]

So my dh's 39th birthday was yesterday. For his birthday I got this AMAZING present for him which I've had since December - suite tix to see the Boston Bruins, he gets to ride the zamboni in the first intermission and hotel nights in a 4 star hotel. All for this weekend - he normally doesn't work weekends. Well, because of his stupid work being late on a project, we may not be able to go because he will have to work this weekend. All that money wasted. I just really want to cry. And the worse part, the present was to make him happy because the zamboni is something he has always wanted to do; and really it's just making him feel guilty for not being able to go. I feel bad and guilty for giving him the present. Wow, what a lousy wife I am.

Okay, just wanted to vent. Thanks for reading.

 

[focusondisney]

So my dh's 39th birthday was yesterday. For his birthday I got this AMAZING present for him which I've had since December - suite tix to see the Boston Bruins, he gets to ride the zamboni in the first intermission and hotel nights in a 4 star hotel. All for this weekend - he normally doesn't work weekends. Well, because of his stupid work being late on a project, we may not be able to go because he will have to work this weekend. All that money wasted. I just really want to cry. And the worse part, the present was to make him happy because the zamboni is something he has always wanted to do; and really it's just making him feel guilty for not being able to go. I feel bad and guilty for giving him the present. Wow, what a lousy wife I am.

Okay, just wanted to vent. Thanks for reading.

So sorry! Don't know where you live, but is there anyway you can still get to the game? Maybe just forfeit or change the hotel nights? Or do you live too far away to do even that? Work stinks sometimes, doesn't it?

I sympathize with you, we have a Disney trip booked for the fall. we go every year, but DD & DSIL want to join us for the first time this year. Don't you know DH may have a big project start this fall. He's a boss, so he'd have to be there. May have to cancel/ change vacation. And we may not know until last minute. Wouldn't be sooo bad if it was just us, but we're feeling bad if we screw up DD"s vacation plans, too.


Good thoughts to you, hope it will work out. (Although as a Sabres fan, I can't imagine WHY you'd want to go to a Bruins game!!!)

 

[JimmyPicker]

Don't feel bad. You had no way of knowing it would turn out this way, and neither did he.

Sometimes life gets in the way. You had the best of intentions, and that's all that matters.

Maybe you could sell the tickets to recoup some of the money. Use that money to plan something a couple of weeks from now.

 

[Buckalew11]

Hmm...maybe there is another Bruins fan that would buy this off you? ChefBilly is a fan, I think.
Don't feel badly, you were being a nice wife. It is sad when these things happen. I sure your DH feels like crap for the waste of $ AND some self pity that a dream weekend is being snatched before his very eyes.

I'm sending my DH to Colorado as a 50th b-day gift to ride mountain bikes on one of America's biggest adventure trips. I'm worried too that something will happen and dash the dreams of this trip for him. I'll be worried until the day he is there and hops on that bike. Then I'll worry if he is safe or not.

 

[RadioFanatic]

So sorry! Don't know where you live, but is there anyway you can still get to the game? Maybe just forfeit or change the hotel nights? Or do you live too far away to do even that? Work stinks sometimes, doesn't it?

I sympathize with you, we have a Disney trip booked for the fall. we go every year, but DD & DSIL want to join us for the first time this year. Don't you know DH may have a big project start this fall. He's a boss, so he'd have to be there. May have to cancel/ change vacation. And we may not know until last minute. Wouldn't be sooo bad if it was just us, but we're feeling bad if we screw up DD"s vacation plans, too.


Good thoughts to you, hope it will work out. (Although as a Sabres fan, I can't imagine WHY you'd want to go to a Bruins game!!!)

We live three hours away. And I got the hotel from hotwire so no refunds. I've called to see if I can change the tix/zamboni, but there's only one more weekend homegame in the season so I would be shocked if they had availability or that they would even let me. It's funny you mentioned the Sabres bc, actually, my dh is from Rochester, so it's funny that the Canadiens and the Bruins are his two fave teams. Well, actually the Canadiens are his favorite and the Bruins second, but you can only be 12 and under in Canada to ride the zamboni there but here, you have to be older than 14! Funny how things are different re kids v. adults, right?

 

[focusondisney]

It's funny you mentioned the Sabres bc, actually, my dh is from Rochester, so it's funny that the Canadiens and the Bruins are his two fave teams. Well, actually the Canadiens are his favorite and the Bruins second,

LOL!! Well, even still, I hope it works out. And Happy Birthday to your DH! And you are a great wife to have thought of this!!

 

[EllenFrasier]

Is there anyone at work he can trade shifts with or something? I guess that's why I am a planner. If it had been me planning the weekend, I would have at least said to my husband "you cannot work the weekend of ......" so that he planned to have it off. Hopefully your plans can still work out.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Try to sell on Stub Hub, that's where people who want last minute tickets go to find them. I have friends who are huge fans of the site so I'd trust it myself.

Check your hotel's cancellation policy, some are more generous than others. If they won't give you your money back try to explain things to the hotel, maybe they will give you credit to get a room for next season. Some places will allow you to use the credit for another night

 

[RadioFanatic]

Is there anyone at work he can trade shifts with or something? I guess that's why I am a planner. If it had been me planning the weekend, I would have at least said to my husband "you cannot work the weekend of ......" so that he planned to have it off. Hopefully your plans can still work out.

I am a planner too. It's not a matter of him planning to have it off. Even if he had planned it off, he would still have had to work. It's hard to explain without getting into specifics, but this is a work issue that, no matter what dh or I had done, he still would have had to work.

 

[RUDisney]

If my DH were to have to work a weekend that he'd already made plans and paid for them, his employer would reimburse him for the hotel, tickets, etc., (or at least that portion of which he couldn't recoup himself.)

My DH doesn't work weekends unless he chooses to go in for something, so I'd feel safe booking something for a weekend without having him clear it through his boss.

That being said, this Saturday is my DH's birthday and he has to work from this afternoon through Sunday afternoon in the Poconos on a foreclosure auction. While we weren't planning anything special for his birthday, had I done that, he would have had to move the auction or they would have reimbursed us.

Have your DH check with his boss to see what the company's policy is on forced work during non-work hours. Hopefully, you'll be pleasantly surprised.

 

[lillygator]

I'm so sorry, hope it works out for you and DH.

 

[RadioFanatic]

If my DH were to have to work a weekend that he'd already made plans and paid for them, his employer would reimburse him for the hotel, tickets, etc., (or at least that portion of which he couldn't recoup himself.)

My DH doesn't work weekends unless he chooses to go in for something, so I'd feel safe booking something for a weekend without having him clear it through his boss.

That being said, this Saturday is my DH's birthday and he has to work from this afternoon through Sunday afternoon in the Poconos on a foreclosure auction. While we weren't planning anything special for his birthday, had I done that, he would have had to move the auction or they would have reimbursed us.

Have your DH check with his boss to see what the company's policy is on forced work during non-work hours. Hopefully, you'll be pleasantly surprised.

He's trying to see what happens, but he works for a governmental entity; and as such, things that work in the private sector (like where I am) just don't work the same in the public sector.

 

[ZeitgeistDuck]

Things don't work like that in the private sector either. Any employer I've ever worked for would have laughed in my face if I'd demanded they reimburse tickets, etc due to weekend work for a special project. That kind of silliness is noted and gets a person passed over for promotion, special projects, new opportunities, etc.

OP, I'm so sorry this happened. Hopefully you can sell the tickets and maybe you and a friend can spend a weekend in Boston enjoying the hotel room and visiting the city? I'm sure your DH really appreciated the effort and thought. You're a great wife.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

Uggg, how disapointing. I can feel for yo ua little. Last year my DH's beloved Lions (yeah, I said Lions) were playing a preseacon game against the Bills in Buffalo. It wasn't even a game that mattered but he hasn't seen the Lions play in what, 15 years or so, so he so wanted to go. We got tickets on the 50 yeard line for him and his best friend. Nght of the game his BF and I were sitting at our house (he was dropping his kids off here for me to babysit) and waiting, and waiting. We knew he was stuck at work with a total system failure but didn't know how long he'd be stuck. He finally told his BF to go without him and take someone else but he didn't want to and finally decided OK but on such short notice noone could go. His friend and I and all the kids orderd pizza and had dinner then walked to the park and the kids played and the tickets went unused.

The owners knew about all of this as it was unfolding, didn't care, didn't offer to replace the tickets (even though they get free suite tickets all the time) and in fast opening game they got free tickets and gave them to someone else in the office. It would have been a nice gesture to offer them to DH since he missed his game to work overtime but they didn't.

To the PP who the company reiburses you for missed tickets, WOW! That must be a nice place to work. MyDH would be so jealous.

I hope yo u are able to recover some of the money at least, and I am sure your DH doesn't think of yo uas a bad wife at all but a really thoughtful one. My DH turns 39 in 2 weeks and my "big, thoughtful gift" is a GC to Joe's Crab Shack. He's always wanted to go and we don't have one but we will be traveling a couple weeks after his b-day and there is one there so that's what I am getting him. Your gift beats that even if he can't use it, very thougtful gift!

 

[mtdevine615]

If he works for the Govt. then he should be able to call out sick with no repercussions or at least very little.
Good luck.

 

[RUDisney]

He's trying to see what happens, but he works for a governmental entity; and as such, things that work in the private sector (like where I am) just don't work the same in the public sector.

Ugh! That changes everything! Sorry about that.

Things don't work like that in the private sector either. Any employer I've ever worked for would have laughed in my face if I'd demanded they reimburse tickets, etc due to weekend work for a special project. That kind of silliness is noted and gets a person passed over for promotion, special projects, new opportunities, etc.

OP, I'm so sorry this happened. Hopefully you can sell the tickets and maybe you and a friend can spend a weekend in Boston enjoying the hotel room and visiting the city? I'm sure your DH really appreciated the effort and thought. You're a great wife.

I never said to DEMAND that the company reimburse for the inconvenience. My DH's employer would never look bad on someone saying that they had a trip planned before something major came up. A friendly, "this is what happened, is there anything the company can do for me?" is what I was suggesting and then taking its answer as a man whether it was in his favor or not. DH's employer would only look bad on the employee if he chose to use his tickets vs. being at work to get the job done.

It's too bad more companies don't extend this common courtesy to its employees. Too many employers believe that the only motivation an employee needs is their paycheck. How wrong is that? (Rethorical question.. no need to respond to that.)

 

[RadioFanatic]

Things don't work like that in the private sector either. Any employer I've ever worked for would have laughed in my face if I'd demanded they reimburse tickets, etc due to weekend work for a special project. That kind of silliness is noted and gets a person passed over for promotion, special projects, new opportunities, etc.

OP, I'm so sorry this happened. Hopefully you can sell the tickets and maybe you and a friend can spend a weekend in Boston enjoying the hotel room and visiting the city? I'm sure your DH really appreciated the effort and thought. You're a great wife.

thanks! and I wouldn't have asked boss it either, but I figured the PP worked for a great company and lucky they do which it sounds like they realize

So, as an update, I called the Bruins; and although I could have changed the zamboni to their last weekend home game, I cannot change the tix themselves. I don't think I can sell them because I have no way to get them to the person who would want them unless they are local. And considering where I live, I doubt anyone here would want to see a Bruins game.

So keeping my fingers and toes crossed, hoping things change.

 

[RadioFanatic]

Uggg, how disapointing. I can feel for yo ua little. Last year my DH's beloved Lions (yeah, I said Lions) were playing a preseacon game against the Bills in Buffalo. It wasn't even a game that mattered but he hasn't seen the Lions play in what, 15 years or so, so he so wanted to go. We got tickets on the 50 yeard line for him and his best friend. Nght of the game his BF and I were sitting at our house (he was dropping his kids off here for me to babysit) and waiting, and waiting. We knew he was stuck at work with a total system failure but didn't know how long he'd be stuck. He finally told his BF to go without him and take someone else but he didn't want to and finally decided OK but on such short notice noone could go. His friend and I and all the kids orderd pizza and had dinner then walked to the park and the kids played and the tickets went unused.

The owners knew about all of this as it was unfolding, didn't care, didn't offer to replace the tickets (even though they get free suite tickets all the time) and in fast opening game they got free tickets and gave them to someone else in the office. It would have been a nice gesture to offer them to DH since he missed his game to work overtime but they didn't.

To the PP who the company reiburses you for missed tickets, WOW! That must be a nice place to work. MyDH would be so jealous.

I hope yo u are able to recover some of the money at least, and I am sure your DH doesn't think of yo uas a bad wife at all but a really thoughtful one. My DH turns 39 in 2 weeks and my "big, thoughtful gift" is a GC to Joe's Crab Shack. He's always wanted to go and we don't have one but we will be traveling a couple weeks after his b-day and there is one there so that's what I am getting him. Your gift beats that even if he can't use it, very thougtful gift!

It's funny, but I know a huge group of Rochester citizens who love the Raiders too.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

It's funny, but I know a huge group of Rochester citizens who love the Raiders too.

Well, we are from Detroit so he grew up loving the Lions. We moved here for work 15 years ago.

 

[RadioFanatic]

If he works for the Govt. then he should be able to call out sick with no repercussions or at least very little.
Good luck.

well that was kind of catty. And my dh works VERY hard at his job and long hours too. Just this past week alone, he has been going in at 8 am and not coming home until midnight. In fact, my ds and I brought his birthday cake to work (got his bosses' permission) because otherwise, dh would not have seen either of us on his birthday. Past two months at work, he hasn't seen his son mon-thursday because he gets to work before ds is up and home from work after ds is in bed.