Really missing my dad today.

[Laura]

On the 15th, it will be 12 years since my mom died. I've gotten used to it, but sometimes I think about all that we've done without her over the years, how much she's missed. She died when I was a teenager, and it's hard to think I'm going to live most of my life without her.

I hate people who think you should just "get over it". I'll never get over it. If you love someone, you don't just get over their death. It's more like you learn to live with the grief, but it's not gone. Just under the surface. Something very simple can set me off, and I just try not to think about it.

A big group hug for everyone here. It's not easy losing the people we love.

 

[nordkin]

It has been 12 years since I lost my youngest brother and I still cry when I have one of those "Jimbo would love this" moments. It has been 4 years since I lost my father and this past Father's Day I was having a very difficult time. I decided to go to the card store and buy him a Father's Day card and take it to his grave. I found the perfect card that talked about the effect he had on my life and no matter where we were, we would always be together. Well, when I got to the grave one of my brothers had already been there and had left the exact same card. We saw each other later that day and after we had a good cry together we both commented on how much better we felt after leaving the card. I miss both of them everyday, but the good memories carry me through.

 

[Rajah]

I'm right there with the rest of you who are grieving. Almost been 2 years for me.

 

[crz4mm2]

I hate people who think you should just "get over it". I'll never get over it. If you love someone, you don't just get over their death. It's more like you learn to live with the grief, but it's not gone. Just under the surface. Something very simple can set me off, and I just try not to think about it.

A big group hug for everyone here. It's not easy losing the people we love.

This is so true. I tell people this all the time. A death is not to be "gotten over". You never get over it. You LIVE with it. Every day, every month, every year. It gets a little bit easier as time passes, but you NEVER get OVER it.

Big hug for you too. Dang, I am crying again.....

 

[Tinkerbell_Girl]

I lost my grandpa about 2 months ago. I was just making a list of everyone I need to get Christmas gifts for and was writing names down and almost wrote down my grandpa's name and then remembered he's gone. Now I'm almost in tears. I really miss him.

 

[4nana]

I feel your pain, seems there are many of us who know this heartache.

I hate people who think you should just "get over it". I'll never get over it. If you love someone, you don't just get over their death. It's more like you learn to live with the grief, but it's not gone. Just under the surface. Something very simple can set me off, and I just try not to think about it.

I totally agree with you. My sister in law can be so unsympathetic . She believes when one passes you should move on as fast as you can as that's what they would want. She often lets me know that my Mom and myself need to stop torturing oursleves by constantly going to grave site. I consider the source, kindly tell her we surely have different beliefs, but it hurts. How can one judge anothers heartache and be so vain? We feel extra close to my Dad and brother when visiting their resting place...often taking flowers, balloons and cards for holidays. We even have an engraved bench to sit on, maybe chat with them or meditate. Some may think we're crazy, but I doubt that will ever change.

It has been 4 years since I lost my father and this past Father's Day I was having a very difficult time. I decided to go to the card store and buy him a Father's Day card and take it to his grave. I found the perfect card that talked about the effect he had on my life and no matter where we were, we would always be together. Well, when I got to the grave one of my brothers had already been there and had left the exact same card. We saw each other later that day and after we had a good cry together we both commented on how much better we felt after leaving the card. I miss both of them everyday, but the good memories carry me through

This really pulled at my hearts strings {{hugs}} and we're so fortunate we have our memories in our hearts forever to help guide and carry us through. I too still search for the perfect card to buy Daddy for Father's Day and his B/D to take to his resting place. What a conincidence you and your brother bought the same card. Kindred spirts for sure! That has happened often for my B/D or M/D with my daughters who live in different states and is just so touching both were having the same thoughts.