Question on Community Codes

[stephanie1755]

I know exactly how frustrating dealing with roommates having boys over all the time. I lived with 5 girls last year and one of them had her boyfriend over ALL the time and no one in the house liked him. They would shower together (we only had 2 showers for 6 of us) He was there when she wasn't. It was very uncomfortable being in the same house as him I can only imagine how it would be sharing a room with someone. She wouldn't listen to us when we asked her to not have him over. I definitely think you need to figure something out and quick or it won't change. Like someone said earlier, tell her that if things don't change by next week you will turn her in, because you are not comfortable in the situation. If she does stop having him over and starts being a ***** to you about it I would move, its not worth the added stress!!
Good Luck!!!

 

[savannahjean85]

I would suggest maybe having an aparment meeting to put everything out on the table with all the roommates, informing them of how you feel and that you are wanting to go to whom ever (authority figure) to talk about the issue.
In the meeting I would bring up the possible issue of you roommates getting in trouble from this situation (under 21).
Also in this meeting you can discuss:
1. how they feel on the issue
2. to see if anyone would be more comfortable being her roommate and switching (if this is possible)
3. to see if they back you up on him not coming over and spending the night, if they will not back you up then I would ask straight up "are you going to be mad at me if she gets termed and treat me differently?" if they are then I would just look into switching apartments altogether

I feel for you
I am wondering about DF and I when we go down this Fall. I want us to live in the same complex so visiting is easy. We have lived together for 3 years now and have been together for 8 years so it will be weird not living together. I know I will want him to hang out with me during our down time but I will not make my roommate uncomfortable.

 

[SecondStartotheright]

I think, that as long as you're not breaking any rules, your roommates don't really have a right to tell you to not have your friend over. I would introduce him and let everyone get to know him, so it's less awkward for everyone.

My situation just stinks because the two are having sex right next to me (wild and crazy is a matter of opinion I guess) But it keeps me up all night. And they'll lock me out of my room in the mornings so they can do what they do, and I've been late to work twice on account of it.

And, I asked one of the CP Champions in my area about the policy on overnight visitors, and overnight visitors from ANYWHERE are prohibited. Though it's not likely we'll get caught...they don't do bed checks or anything like that. But if he ever gets caught here with alcohol, we're all going to get sent home.

I'm not trying to be the bad guy and say my roommate can't have fun. She has every right to. And while I find the situation irritating, I wouldn't make an issue of it at all if it didn't put me at risk too. One of my roommates and I talked about it, and we agreed to both talk to her, and let her know if this keeps being an issue, we will go to security.

I'm on this program because I want a future with Disney. And I don't want to jeopardize that. A lot of people are here just to party and have fun, and that's good for them, I think everyone should have fun here. But I'm not putting my future on the line for someone else's good time. That's just how I see it.

 

[MiaTurner]

They are locking you out of your room to have sex?!?!

Unacceptable. ABSOLUTELY unacceptable. There shouldn't even be a next time, but if it were to happen again, I'd pound on that door threatening to go to housing right that instant if they don't knock it off and let you in.

You are not "ruining their fun". They need to take that somewhere else, it's your room too. There is a difference between being accommodating and being a doormat. Do not let your roomie walk all over you like that!

 

[stephanie1755]

They are locking you out of your room to have sex?!?!

Unacceptable. ABSOLUTELY unacceptable. There shouldn't even be a next time, but if it were to happen again, I'd pound on that door threatening to go to housing right that instant if they don't knock it off and let you in.

You are not "ruining their fun". They need to take that somewhere else, it's your room too. There is a difference between being accommodating and being a doormat. Do not let your roomie walk all over you like that!

AGREED!

 

[namara87]

AGREED!

I second that. It all comes down to respect....bottom line.

 

[JPTexan82]

Your in a rock and a hard place, you should take pics of them and show them to the housing office.

 

[taigirl87]

Your in a rock and a hard place, you should take pics of them and show them to the housing office.

HA HA HA HA HA that is funny! If it weren't every night, and they weren't having sex next to me, then I'd be fine, but the situation you describe just seems irritating, and I know I wouldn't want to risk getting terminated at all!

 

[PrincessJordynx]

Your in a rock and a hard place, you should take pics of them and show them to the housing office.

I'll do you one better. Grab a video camera and next time it goes down say, "I'm tried of being a 3rd wheel, so can I get in on this action or what?"

hahahah see how fast the tides turn...
unless they're into that...

 

[jellipop]

When I talked to her about it (again) she said it wasn't against the rules and I was just jealous because I miss my boyfriend. So maybe I'm the one who's out of line.

And again, there's still the question of "will I get termed" if we're caught having him in our apartment =/

I'd go get her kicked out for having that attitude! I hate when you're bothered with something and their response is "you're jealous"

 

[jellipop]

I'll do you one better. Grab a video camera and next time it goes down say, "I'm tried of being a 3rd wheel, so can I get in on this action or what?"

hahahah see how fast the tides turn...
unless they're into that...

LMFAO!!! DO IT!!

 

[taigirl87]

LMFAO!!! DO IT!!

*nods head in agreement*

I'd go get her kicked out for having that attitude! I hate when you're bothered with something and their response is "you're jealous"

when she is saying that is seems like she is just trying to justify her actions.

 

[JPTexan82]

I tell you what, get a guy and lock the door on them, you dont have to do anything just make loud noises and mess up your hair. That way they may not come around if they think you are with someone and she see's how it is.

 

[taigirl87]

I tell you what, get a guy and lock the door on them, you dont have to do anything just make loud noises and mess up your hair. That way they may not come around if they think you are with someone and she see's how it is.

that could work, but she might then take that as more reason to be alright doing it. *shrugs* it all depends on how she is really i think.

 

[reborn120]

I keep having problems with overnight guests in my apartment.
My roommate is seeing this guy who comes over and spends the night. I asked her to stop, but she said it wasn't against the rules because he lives in the same complex as us.

I tried to find in our program guide somewhere where it specified that we can't have people here overnight even if they are in the same complex...but it doesn't say that specifically. Only "overnight visitors are prohibited"

I don't know what to do. I'm afraid of getting termed because of the situation. And I don't want to go to security about it, because I don't really want her to get sent home, and/or everyone in the apartment to hate me.

Does anyone have any advice? I don't think this guy is allowed to be in our apartment after 1am regardless of where he lives...but maybe I'm wrong. And anyway, I don't think he needs to be spending the night with us.

Oh, no. I feel bad for you. You shouldn't have to move yourself when you aren't the one breaking the rules. I can empathize with your situation. But, for your comfort I think you should move out. Sorry. and good luck.

 

[MaryPoppins86]

I keep having problems with overnight guests in my apartment.

how is the situation with your roommate going?

One of my roommates and I talked about it, and we agreed to both talk to her, and let her know if this keeps being an issue, we will go to security.

were you guys able to talk to her, how did that go? i'd imagine it would suck to be in that kind of situation. hope everything is going ok for you.

 

[MiaTurner]

It's interesting reading over how everyone has a different set of opposite sex rules... DL doesn't have a roomie notification system so they gave us a paper with discussion topics and let us duke it out the first day

My personal preference was once in a while didn't bother me, but there got a point where there were (several) boys over EVERY NIGHT and it was driving me up the wall. When I get home from a 9-hour shift I REALLY just wanna be able to walk around in a tank top, pajama bottoms, and bunny slippers ( ) But I feel like I can't do that when there's three freakin boys in the living room. Problem's since been resolved though...

I dunno, guests don't really bother me, but when there's so many that they've taken over your living room and confined you to your room (without your roomie even asking if that's okay, mind you), I think that's crossing the line.

(Guess it all depends on what you came here for, too. I came for career purposes, and had a hard time getting along with people who came to party. DL could really use a roomie notification service! )