Question for the wives....

[stinkerbelle]

how do you get your DH's to do stuff around the house?
I mean like hang a picture or take out the trash - do you just ask and he does it - or does he need prodding?

My DH needs some prodding sometimes. But I like to be subtle.

I've been telling him for a few days that the dog needs her claws clipped. (She doesn't sit still for me and I would be scared to hurt her - DH does an excellent job.)

Well he still hadn't done it by last night...so what did I do? I painted the dogs nails! heheh No lie...she has 4 claws that are BRIGHT **** FUSCHIA PINK right now. Maybe that will get the point across.

 

[WeirdEyes]

Good move!!! I usually just start doing it myself or threaten to hire someone to do whatever needs doing. I've learned to do a lot of "manly" things around the house because I get tired of waiting on my DH. He is a BAD procrastinater!

 

[Celluloidgal]

Originally posted by stinkerbelle
Well he still hadn't done it by last night...so what did I do? I painted the dogs nails! heheh No lie...she has 4 claws that are BRIGHT **** FUSCHIA PINK right now. Maybe that will get the point across. [/B]

Hee Hee, I like how you think stinkerbelle!

I think it was around year three when we actually sat down and wrote lists of our "duties". It is still flexable, but that way we are not always nagging on each other. IMHO Men like to conquer something. So maybe you should re-word it:, "Wow, "doggie's" nails are getting so long. How can we keep her/him from snagging the carpet/scratching the floor?" Let him come up with the "solution".

Or maybe you could paint your kitchen BRIGHT **** FUSCHIA PINK to match her nails...

 

[Mishetta]

I've got the "one in a million" type husband. As soon as I mention something that needs to be done or something broke, he gets up right then & there & takes care of it. I'm a lucky woman ~ in many ways with my DH!

 

[Pooh67_68]

I have to keep repeating myself all the time.
Other times I will attempt to do it myslf and that gets him moving.

 

[coliebird]

I have to say, I am really lucky. My husband does more around the house than I do. If I dust and do all the cleaning, he will vacuum(sp) (I hate vacuuming). I hate cleaning bathrooms more than anything so he does that too. As for the garbage, he has it all down to the street by the time I get home from work so I never have to ask. I do take care of the laundry and cooking though so I am not completely lazy lol. It helps that he is a complete neat freak so any kind of mess just throws him over the edge and drives him to just clean it himself.

Can you post a pic of your dogs nails? I bet they look so cute.

 

[stinkerbelle]

Originally posted by Celluloidgal
Hee Hee, I like how you think stinkerbelle!

I think it was around year three when we actually sat down and wrote lists of our "duties". It is still flexable, but that way we are not always nagging on each other. IMHO Men like to conquer something

Thanks!

Our list is
Me - inside work
Him - outside work

If he wants me to rake - he has to scrub a toilet (which he won't do)...I LIKE to clean though - but for the 'manly' jobs - ie, hanging stuff, fixing plumbing, etc...he gets called into duty.

coliebird If her nails are still pink when I get home tonight - I PROMISE I'll post a picture! heheh

 

[Gwene65]

Well since we live in an a apartment complex and tha garbage recipticle is on the other side of the complex, I always ask my husband to do it. He does do it-the next day on his way out the door to work. He throws it in the bed of his truck.

Anything else is up to me. Anything electronic or having to be done with our computer, he will fix no problem. But thats about it.

Then again, I really hate cleaning and don't do that much either. So it's fair.

I did come home from work the other day to find him cleaning the kitchen. That made my week.

 

[mickeyboat]

During our third year of marriage, DH would not bring the Christmas tree to the dumpster. It stayed pretty green, and undecorated in our living room until MARCH! Finally, I dragged the tree to the front door. He could not get in the door unless I moved the tree back. He took it to the dumpster.

Does that answer your question?

Denae

 

[Celluloidgal]

I did have a friend who, when her hubby didn't get around to fixing something, hired a man to do it.

When it hit his pocketbook...he noticed He has been pretty quick to fix things since.


Hey stinkerbelle - Would a dog qualify as an "inside" job or an "outside" job? You feed her, he gets to be on poop patrole!

 

[grinningghost]

My DH is the King of Procrastination. There's always something else that has to be done "first". I sure wish I could subscribe to that train of thought.

"Sorry honey, you DON'T have any clean socks. I had to watch all 4 hours of Gone With the Wind first".

 

[stinkerbelle]

Originally posted by Celluloidgal
Hey stinkerbelle - Would a dog qualify as an "inside" job or an "outside" job? You feed her, he gets to be on poop patrole!

well - we're both good about keeping her food and water fresh and filled...

if she poops in the house - I get to clean it (not a fun job, thankfully doesn't happen that often)
if she poops outside - he gets to fling it into the woods. (heheh - he gets a tiny shovel and literally flings it into the woods behind our house - it's so funny to watch!)

 

[Annette_VA]

LMAO over painting the dog's nails pink! Wonder how long it will take your dh to notice?

If he's anything like my dh, he won't! I had my 1st ds in a "I'm the big brother" t-shirt when my dh came home from work as my way to tell dh I was pg. He was home for like 10 minutes & I finally had to tell him to look at ds's shirt! Then, ds kept spinning around so dh couldn't see the shirt - it was too funny.

 

[MelCald]

We have a ton of little projects that need to be done around the house. I try so hard not to nag, because I don't really don't want to be known as a nagging wife. When I finally "remind" my dh what needs to be done, he always smiles and says he has been waitig for me to nag him about it...if I nag, he figures it must be important to me. Go figure.

Melissa

 

[Cindy'sCastle]

I have one of those "procrastinating husbands" too. I feel like his mom sometimes instead of his wife, as much as I have to constantly "nag" him about doing something. I'm trying to watch myself because I don't want to become a pushy & demanding wife, but since I do take care of everything else in the house, I would like a little help here and there. He usually does do it, just in his time and not mine. Oh well, other than that he's a great husband and I love him and I'm gonna just put up with it. I keep reminding myself he has to put up with me too

Cindy

 

[NMAmy]

I'm pretty lucky with DH--he does all the laundry and since I've told him there's nothing sexier than a man doing the dishes, he takes care of that quite a bit as well.

He takes out the trash and most of the time he's pretty good although he does like to play the trash game. I'll say it's full and he'll mash it down so you have maybe a couple of inches to balance something on top. When I get irritated with that game (which doesn't take long, I just want to toss something not play Jenga!), I'll wait till he's sitting in the living room and then pull out the bag myself--which by now you need a big ole shoehorn to get out of the can. He'll see me struggling with it and rush over to take it out. Just takes a little persuasion sometimes!

 

[Celluloidgal]

if she poops in the house - I get to clean it (not a fun job, thankfully doesn't happen that often)
if she poops outside - he gets to fling it into the woods. (heheh - he gets a tiny shovel and literally flings it into the woods behind our house - it's so funny to watch!)

Poop Toss! Is that a competetive sport? I've got a Great Dane, and the thought of using a tiny shovel cracks me up

 

[catsrule]

Hide the remote.

 

[Snowysmom]

I have been trying to get DH to start getting things out of storage so we can stop paying for it. I am at the point where I will trade things with him. I will shorten his pants when we make one trip to storage. I will help him rake if we make another trip to storage, and so on. So far his pants are still too long and the yard has not been raked so it hasn't worked! I would go myself but he claims he wants to go.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh... LOL!

Rule number one: Give them SPECIFIC directions! If you keep it too generalized, they don't know what you want them to do.

There's the old story that a man will ask his wife what she wants him to do while she's standing there thinking...why doesn't he just look around and pick something! They don't see it the way we do.