Question for blended families.

[Grammyof2]

Yeah, I've seen people hurt so many other family members by over compensating. A friend of mine's DH has three brothers. One of the brothers is a deadbeat, so the grandparent's are raising his son who is about seven now. They re-did their will recently and originally they were leaving everything to all four boys to divide equally. Now they are dividing it up five ways to include the seven year old. Friend's DH is trying to not get too bent out of shape. But it's annoying that favoring goes on because someone else screws up.

They are raising the child but he should not be taken care of in the event of their death? That is a bit worse than not getting a Christmas present that was the exact equal of everyone else.

The seven year old child did not screw up and his grandparents are trying to provide for him. How is he being favored? I don't get this argument at all. Just from the fact that the friends DH is trying not to get bent out of shape shows the child's needs are not being considered at all. That to me is pretty selfish.