Question about young child in room/etc...

[kylara]

It sounds more like you would like the price not based on her age nor on what she can do but instead on what she is willing to go on or what you don't want to wait in line for. I have two nieces that I have been to Disney with since the first was 18 months. And both of them ride many of the rides you say your 3 year old will not go on. Both my nieces were on the haunted mansion by the time they were two. Somehow they got it in their minds that it is Casper's house (don't ask me where they got that) and always head right too it.

Many of the kiddie rides are not based on height. The teacups are for all sizes..if you are worried about her slipping, put her right next to you.

Many of the rides and shows you say she doesn't enjoy aren't necessarily do to age...lots of the ones you mentioned were loved by my nieces at the same age.

Oh and as for the TTA...my youngest niece loves this...it is her rollercoaster She is definately not a brave soul when it comes to fast rides, so she rides this and yells "weeee" each time the TTA rounds a corner. She still runs to this one.

As I said, each child is different so there is no "fair" way for Disney to decide pricing...anyway they do it, people are going to be disappointed and complain.

As for whether to say she is 3 or not, that is up to you. I know that many say Disney doesn't ask, and since she is small for her age they probably wouldn't question it. However, my sister and my niece got asked (probably because both are off the height chart for their ages). She might not realize that you are fudging her age, but I would think that the older ones would...after all they must know when her birthday is.

 

[I <3 Eeyore]

Frankly, I don't see how you can justify lying to your child. I also don't understand the concept of family vacation that excludes one member just because you think she 'might' not have as good a time as the others. Why not ask her if she wants to go? Maybe she'll say no and let you (and your conscience) off the hook. Then again, why not just tell her that you don't want her to go and be honest about it?

 

[CALIFLADY]

It appears that you're trying to get "permission" from folks on this board to do something unethical so you can justify your behavior. It won't happen.

Look into your own heart and you'll know the truth to your own question. You knew the answer before you asked it. But you've spent close to 1/2 dozen posts to get others to agree to your deceptiveness. Instead, do what you want. Period. And you'll have to answer to the consequences, eventually. But you won't be able to justify it by saying, "well, all the other DIS'ers said it was okay!". It isn't.

It's kinda like the refillable mug debate. While many discuss and argue about the use of these for trip after trip, resort after different resort, only YOU can determine what's right for you.

It seems that many of your posts are on the search for others to approve of your actions. Do what's right for you and answer only to yourself, your family, and your God.

 

[Eeyore2U]

I think I hear the keys clanking at the lock!!!

 

[lizzie64]

I could never leave my 2 1/2 year old home. He had so much fun and really enjoyed everything. He is now 4 and still talks about his 1st trip. Now we are going again this May. he will be 4 and will be joined by a new younger brother who will be 2 1/2. I would never dream of going to someplace like Disney without them. It is so much for them.

 

[The Sybah Shelstah]

You guys must just like to see the words you type because you are typing the same things over and over that others have already said even AFTER I said I am NOT trying to get reassurance to lie and even after I have already tried to explain why it would bother me to pay hundreds for a child to go that is not experiencing anymore than she did 6mo prior and even AFTER saying I would probably just not bring her.

Oh but then someone has to pipe in and say

]Sounds more like what's easy for you then what's right for your DD. i'm sure there will no scars but I'm sure she'll be upset when she sees the pictures of the rest family!

Nice. So it's 'right for my dd' to take her somewhere where she doesn't enjoy the characters (scare her and we have to avoid them at all costs with her- which means DH gets to run away with her while I take the older two to see them, get pics and signatures in their books), doesn't enjoy almost all the rides, and generally spends the entire time in the stroller or in our arms while we wait in a little hot room or hallway to pass her over to the other parent doing the parent swap thing. Oh yes, that's the "right" thing for her.

And then yet another person says ask her.
Ask a just turned 3yr old? The same age that you could ask them any question and no matter what it is the answer could be yes or no countless times in the same day even?

Listen, I asked my question and I got answers. I have already said what I will most likely do, if I don't end up going alone again. Whether or not you think it's "right" to not take a young child to WDW is NONE of my business and frankly I didn't ask for your opinoin on that. If you want to just bash someone for the fun of it, please do so on someone else. Because I just don't have time for that kind of nonsense.

 

[The Sybah Shelstah]

Lizzie- can you read?
I am QUITE sure there would be no question at all about taking her if she enjoyed it as much as your child did.
duh

 

[The Sybah Shelstah]

Oh Hi, Califlady!
Nice to see you again..... although not nice to see you are analyzing my posts inaccurately and stating that I'm posting trying to get approval for unethical actions. *shaking my head* I most certainly was not. But I think I already stated that. So I really shouldn't have to state it again.
GAWD..... some people.

 

[The Sybah Shelstah]

*wishing someone would close the thread before EVERYONE on this board gets to put on their bashing gloves and take a swing at me* sigh

 

[Eeyore2U]

Originally posted by The Sybah Shelstah
Oh Hi, Califlady!
Nice to see you again..... although not nice to see you are analyzing my posts inaccurately and stating that I'm posting trying to get approval for unethical actions. *shaking my head* I most certainly was not. But I think I already stated that. So I really shouldn't have to state it again.
GAWD..... some people.

You may want to run to the nearest Mod to close this. You shouldn't ask questions that you know you will get a negative response to.

GAWD... some people. Take a look in the mirror when you say that. You get what you deserve.

 

[Eeyore2U]

Originally posted by The Sybah Shelstah
*wishing someone would close the thread before EVERYONE on this board gets to put on their bashing gloves and take a swing at me* sigh

Do you have a cousin on the DIS? You can't take the heat, lock the thread.

 

[I <3 Eeyore]

If you don't want opinions, don't ask the question.

 

[Deb & Bill]

Go to Edit at the bottom of the post. Click on it. Then click on the box marked Delete. Then click on the delete in the same box. It's gone and forgotten and won't have to be locked or moved by the moderator.

 

[The Sybah Shelstah]

Really?
I asked a question and got several answers. Then I responded that I still don't think it's something I'd want to do (pay that much for her still not riding rides/etc) but that I'll probably IF we all go as a family (instead of me alone) just go with her at her Aunts since she won't enjoy it and cause us not to enjoy it as much either.
THEN more and more people come along saying the same thing that others had already said.. and also adding in little analysis jobs of how I must be trying to get people to agree to deceptiveness and what a horrible person I am to want to go to WDW without my youngest child (what does that make me going solo on my last trip? Most horrible mom of the year?)

I get what I deserve? I don't think I deserved racking over the coals for asking a question. There's a reason I have avoided the debate forum- because I'm not here to argue things and get into fights/debates/etc. Why does everyone have to be so MEAN here.
geesh

 

[The Sybah Shelstah]

Deb & Bill- thanks for the step by step advice- but tried it and it says I'm not authorized to do so. Just thought you should know that apparently not everyone can do what you just stated. Thanks.

 

[Eeyore2U]

Originally posted by The Sybah Shelstah
I get what I deserve? I don't think I deserved racking over the coals for asking a question. There's a reason I have avoided the debate forum- because I'm not here to argue things and get into fights/debates/etc. Why does everyone have to be so MEAN here.
geesh

People aren't mean, they are HONEST.

You know what types of things are hot buttons here. Like I said you get what you deserve. This is no different then 5 in a room or refillable mugs or the nonsmoking/smoking debate.

 

[lulugirl]

Originally posted by The Sybah Shelstah
Really?
I asked a question and got several answers. Then I responded that I still don't think it's something I'd want to do (pay that much for her still not riding rides/etc) but that I'll probably IF we all go as a family (instead of me alone) just go with her at her Aunts since she won't enjoy it and cause us not to enjoy it as much either.
THEN more and more people come along saying the same thing that others had already said.. and also adding in little analysis jobs of how I must be trying to get people to agree to deceptiveness and what a horrible person I am to want to go to WDW without my youngest child (what does that make me going solo on my last trip? Most horrible mom of the year?)

I get what I deserve? I don't think I deserved racking over the coals for asking a question. There's a reason I have avoided the debate forum- because I'm not here to argue things and get into fights/debates/etc. Why does everyone have to be so MEAN here.
geesh

Do you have a therapist?

 

[kylara]

Sybah,

I think some of the post crossed before you posted your post that you were not looking for approval to lie about her age but more trying to decide if you should bring her when you know she won't enjoy it.

Personally, I don't think leaving the child home will scar her for life. In fact, she may prefer it. There are vacations during my childhood that I stayed home with relatives. There were some where I just went with relatives. Do what you think is best for her.

As for her being afraid of the characters...are you sure that is still the case. I know that 6 months doesn't seem like a long time, but it can be. My niece came in late August when she was two and hated the characters...I mean ran screaming from them...even kicked her mom when she carried her over thinking that she would be okay if mom was with her...hehe. But then she was back the next June (first week), she had just turned 3 a couple of weeks before. And lo and behold on this trip, she loved the characters. It was a total 180. And boy was my sister suprised since she hadn't wanted to go anywhere near the Easter Bunny a couple of months earlier. We don't know what caused the change, but it happened very quickly.

Each child is different. If you know that she will not enjoy the vacation, I think that leaving her with her Aunt for some special time, is fine. I know that not everyone agrees with that, but I guess it doesn't bother me since I grew up with a mom that did family trips, trips without kids, and trips with either me or my sister but not both...and when we got older, she encouraged us to take trips without her (with friend's family's in early teen years and just with friend in the later teen years).

I hope you have a great vacation whatever you decide.

 

[The Sybah Shelstah]

You know what types of things are hot buttons here. Like I said you get what you deserve.

I do? You act like I've been here forever or something. Barely a month, dear. I daresay I do not know what type of things are hot buttons here but I'm learning very quickly that you should be careful of ANY questions and/or vents about anything for fear of getting treated like I have been treated on this thread!!!!!

And lulugirl, you know that was uncalled for. If you think that post means I need therapy, I think you need to look into it for yourself. I don't require therapy... do you?

 

[The Sybah Shelstah]

Thank you for your post, Kylara.

I think you are quite right, that things MIGHT change with her by that time. I'll certainly be keeping an eye on that because ofcourse I would love to include her if it would actually be enjoyable to her. At THIS point I know without a doubt that she'd rather be at her Aunts than forced on rides she would rather not ride or forced to be trooped around in a stroller or passed from parent to parent while we ride rides she can't or won't ride herself and being freaked out at every turn by another character that happens to be there.
But that's only at this point. You're quite right that by that time she might have matured enough that those things don't scare her anymore. I know she can't have grown enough to ride bigger rides- but perhaps she'll have "grown" enough maturity wise that she'll enjoy the rides she IS able to ride for her height. What a joy it would be for her to actually gain pleasure from seeing the characters rather than being frightened of them.

I would be jumping for joy if she did a complete 180 like you described. I'd want nothing more than for her to enjoy WDW even as much as I do! hehe