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- Apr 2, 2008
Good Evening all.
I have read but too much to remember other than the custody issues. They bring up so many memories of my son. He was the rare dad that was actually fighting for his son because the ex wasn't as responsible. To be fair she was 15 and my son was 16 when my Jay was born, they were kids themselves. My son fought to stay in his son's life, and it wasn't always easy. We had to get a restraining order against one of her new boyfriends after he threatened my son. I had to act as a go between for custody exchanges and that same boyfriend threatened me and did over $600 worth of damage to my car when he ripped my side view mirror off at one exchange. She kept my grandson from my son for 3 months when he was just 2 1/2 because she decided my son was no longer his father. She did it at Christmas and it was the most heart breaking holiday ever. By time the courts ordered her to honor the custody agreement my grandson was afraid of us. Thankfully once he saw all his presents waiting for him, he was happy again. The final attorney we hired was the pit bull we needed. My son got everything he was supposed to have, and she was warned that the ONLY reason she didn't lose custody was because they asked my 8-year-old grandson what HE wanted.
It's funny, Jay is now almost 24 and he remembers most of that time, and remarkably accurately. Thankfully his mother got the wakeup call she needed and became a little more involved, a LITTLE being the key. She wasn't great about some things, but she does love my grandson. He chose her because she was on a path of self-destruction and he needed to protect her. I have forgiven her for the past and we now have a good relationship. My son can't forgive her but the one thing I will not tolerate, and he knows it, is his disrespecting Jay's mother to Jay. I know that hurts my grandson. That's the one thing I tell anybody who asks for any input. No matter how hurt and angry you are the ex is still the other parent. Kids are remarkably intuitive and see the truth.
I am getting anxious about this trip and the bathroom remodel. My grandson was supposed to go with me today after church to get all the fixtures, of course he didn't feel good. He wants to go thursday and I told him that will not work. Hopefully tomorrow before we go to his dad's for a BBQ we can get everything. I have it all picked out so that should make it easier, and quicker.
@flyingdumbo127 - Most all phones come with the C charger and my new phone didn't come with a charger either. Thankfully they are all USB and I have plenty of those chargers around. If you have a $5 Below around, you they are great for picking up chargers and cords. My cat likes to chew on the wires so I go through them every couple of months. What I like is that I can get various lengths for under $6. I like a long cord for when I read in bed or for trips.
Since the Phillies are on National TV tonight I am going to try and go through some of what I need to pack to see if I need to get anything. Travelling with someone that has health issues means I have a pharmacy in one suitcase. I have to prepare for every contingency. He has had blisters that turned into toe ulcers, scrapes that needed HUGE bandages, stomach issues, migraines, etc. I would rather over pack and be prepared than not have what I need. Thankfully he went to Urgent Care finally the other day and got his ear taken care of. Turned out it was just impacted wax, but he was driving me crazy. He never once said he was in any pain, so I thought the issue had resolved. In 95 degree heat he decided he was going to walk to Urgent Care. Of course, he has no clue what meds he takes so that would have been interesting.
Hope everyone has a nice holiday tomorrow.
I have read but too much to remember other than the custody issues. They bring up so many memories of my son. He was the rare dad that was actually fighting for his son because the ex wasn't as responsible. To be fair she was 15 and my son was 16 when my Jay was born, they were kids themselves. My son fought to stay in his son's life, and it wasn't always easy. We had to get a restraining order against one of her new boyfriends after he threatened my son. I had to act as a go between for custody exchanges and that same boyfriend threatened me and did over $600 worth of damage to my car when he ripped my side view mirror off at one exchange. She kept my grandson from my son for 3 months when he was just 2 1/2 because she decided my son was no longer his father. She did it at Christmas and it was the most heart breaking holiday ever. By time the courts ordered her to honor the custody agreement my grandson was afraid of us. Thankfully once he saw all his presents waiting for him, he was happy again. The final attorney we hired was the pit bull we needed. My son got everything he was supposed to have, and she was warned that the ONLY reason she didn't lose custody was because they asked my 8-year-old grandson what HE wanted.
It's funny, Jay is now almost 24 and he remembers most of that time, and remarkably accurately. Thankfully his mother got the wakeup call she needed and became a little more involved, a LITTLE being the key. She wasn't great about some things, but she does love my grandson. He chose her because she was on a path of self-destruction and he needed to protect her. I have forgiven her for the past and we now have a good relationship. My son can't forgive her but the one thing I will not tolerate, and he knows it, is his disrespecting Jay's mother to Jay. I know that hurts my grandson. That's the one thing I tell anybody who asks for any input. No matter how hurt and angry you are the ex is still the other parent. Kids are remarkably intuitive and see the truth.
I am getting anxious about this trip and the bathroom remodel. My grandson was supposed to go with me today after church to get all the fixtures, of course he didn't feel good. He wants to go thursday and I told him that will not work. Hopefully tomorrow before we go to his dad's for a BBQ we can get everything. I have it all picked out so that should make it easier, and quicker.
@flyingdumbo127 - Most all phones come with the C charger and my new phone didn't come with a charger either. Thankfully they are all USB and I have plenty of those chargers around. If you have a $5 Below around, you they are great for picking up chargers and cords. My cat likes to chew on the wires so I go through them every couple of months. What I like is that I can get various lengths for under $6. I like a long cord for when I read in bed or for trips.
Since the Phillies are on National TV tonight I am going to try and go through some of what I need to pack to see if I need to get anything. Travelling with someone that has health issues means I have a pharmacy in one suitcase. I have to prepare for every contingency. He has had blisters that turned into toe ulcers, scrapes that needed HUGE bandages, stomach issues, migraines, etc. I would rather over pack and be prepared than not have what I need. Thankfully he went to Urgent Care finally the other day and got his ear taken care of. Turned out it was just impacted wax, but he was driving me crazy. He never once said he was in any pain, so I thought the issue had resolved. In 95 degree heat he decided he was going to walk to Urgent Care. Of course, he has no clue what meds he takes so that would have been interesting.
Hope everyone has a nice holiday tomorrow.