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I texted a long time with Luke and Mary (his mother) this morning. They were both as upset with Summer as I was. All of a sudden out of the blue, Summer just texted me saying she was sorry if she did or said anything to hurt or upset me. I told her thank you, but that I wasn't ready to talk about it yet.
Her mother only told her that she was upset with her for the way she acted at her house at dinner the other night. And that she needs to watch what and how she says things to people right now. That we need time to grieve. I think Summer might have thought about some of what she said and did, and realized she needed to say sorry to me. I accepted it, but my guard is still up.

Don's brother and his wife (the local ones) , called me this morning and asked if in instead of flowers, they could arrange a luncheon afterwards at their church. I gratefully accepted. Earlier in the morning, I had texted Mary and invited her to the service. She offered to do something for the family at her house afterwards, but I thanked her and refused. I did ask her to come to the luncheon with the rest of the family afterwards. People keep saying I'm gracious and brave, I'm just doing what I think is the right thing to do. She was married to him for 20 years and is the mother of his children. I wanted her to have the opportunity to come if she chose to.

My other sister in law is coming over shortly just to sit and talk. It's do quiet in here, I have to teach the cats to talk, instead of just meow for food, lol
 
Lynn It sounds like Summer is aware she was inappropriate even if her mother had to tell her that. It is gracious of you to include Mary in the plans. She was a a part of Don's life and you are kind to acknowledge that. I hope you have a peaceful visit with you sister in law.
 

Don's brother and his wife (the local ones) , called me this morning and asked if in instead of flowers, they could arrange a luncheon afterwards at their church. I gratefully accepted.
Very nice of them, and I'm glad you took them up on the offer. :hug:

@Snowysmom, sorry you're having more water troubles.

I'm safely back in Massachusetts. Will post more another time.
 
I texted a long time with Luke and Mary (his mother) this morning. They were both as upset with Summer as I was. All of a sudden out of the blue, Summer just texted me saying she was sorry if she did or said anything to hurt or upset me. I told her thank you, but that I wasn't ready to talk about it yet.
Her mother only told her that she was upset with her for the way she acted at her house at dinner the other night. And that she needs to watch what and how she says things to people right now. That we need time to grieve. I think Summer might have thought about some of what she said and did, and realized she needed to say sorry to me. I accepted it, but my guard is still up.

Don's brother and his wife (the local ones) , called me this morning and asked if in instead of flowers, they could arrange a luncheonL afterwards at their church. I gratefully accepted. Earlier in the morning, I had texted Mary and invited her to the service. She offered to do something for the family at her house afterwards, but I thanked her and refused. I did ask her to come to the luncheon with the rest of the family afterwards. People keep saying I'm gracious and brave, I'm just doing what I think is the right thing to do. She was married to him for 20 years and is the mother of his children. I wanted her to have the opportunity to come if she chose to.

My other sister in law is coming over shortly just to sit and talk. It's do quiet in here, I have to teach the cats to talk, instead of just meow for food, lol

Lynn, you are doing the right thing by inviting Mary.

Great that the luncheon is being taken care of and of course family and friends have always stepped up for these things in my experience.

I get the quiet so I just keep the TV going, and rarely actually sit to watch it when I'm alone. Those darn cats will just sleep the day away! On the other hand, this yippy Yorkie is driving me nuts. Next door has some visitors and the guys are outside playing soccer in the back so he wants to go out and bark at them.
 
@Snowysmom We have a piece of pvc pipe running from our furnace too, but ours goes into a drain that was already in the cellar. I've never seen water going anywhere else except down that drain. Maybe a piece of something fell in it when they were installing yours and it's blocking something. That's on them to fix it. Hope they do it soon. You don't need more water issues
 
Good morning. I think it's morning. I've been awake since 2:30. Got about 2 hours sleep and then woke up with a million things going on in my mind. With everything I remembered to do, I forgot to order flowers. I did it online, got a confirmation #, but checking paypal and my bank, the transaction doesn't show. I have to call the florist at 9 and double check. I have to go to the funeral home today to get picture boards and give them the info for life insurance policies. I have to apply for a new car title in my name, and do a few other errands. I need to find something to wear, but don't feel like trying anything on.

Summers youngest, Gracie, wants to sing a song at the service. She was practicing it last night (Dancing in the Sky), and Summer taped it, and it made me cry. Then Summer sent me a recording of the last voice mail message Don left her exactly 10 days before he passed, making me cry again. I don't know if I will ever run out of tears. This isn't a club I want to be a member of, I wish I could cancel my membership.

Have a nice Monday


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Lynn I hope you had a soothing visit from your sister in law. It is very nice the family members taking care of the lunch for you. Gracie sounds like a sweet young lady, I know how you feel. This is not a club anyone wants to belong to. Tears come and go and sometimes stay for a while. I remember being so busy in the beginning with preparations and all the paperwork you need to do. It can be daunting sometimes. I found that making a list of what I wanted and needed to do each day helped. It also helped me not to feel as overwhelmed. :hug:

Good morning. It is a bit colder here than yesterday, 23 degrees. Kenny came and looked at the furnace yesterday. The condensation drain seems to be working. He took the panel off the furnace and we could see water dripping off fittings and connectors. Obviously there is a blockage somewhere that needs to be fixed. I never heard back after I sent the picture so at 7 this morning I am calling the number the guy called from and letting him know it is not groundwater but the furnace. They need to get here and fix it. I cannot worry about the furnace not working. And it appears to be covered under the warranty. I just looked. I had a quiet visit with Jeff and Luke. Since Ellie and Charlotte were at a movie, I was not called upon to read books or play games. Luke played with Ethan and Owen. Jeff, Kenny, and I got to chat a bit. Poor Kenny. I made him anxious when he was looking at the furnace. I was just being my now usual anxious self. He actually told me to stop that I was making him anxious. I texted him afterwards to apologize. He said he understood and apologized for being short tempered. He is tired from working in the ICU for long days plus the kids have been a handful lately.

Off to work. I am supposed to go to a book club meeting at the clubhouse this evening but I am not sure I am up to it today. The cold is still making me tired and coughing.

Have a good day.
 
Good morning, we travel today to Pigeon Forge for Dollywood. We have always enjoyed Dollywood’s Christmas celebrations. We will be with four friends, three have never been before.

Saying prayers for all here.
Dollywood is definitely on my future travel list. Have fun!

I was so tired yesterday, I fell asleep on the couch watching TV :laughing: - but I eventually got up and went to bed, and I feel almost normal this morning.

@Pea-n-Me, we changed planes in Baltimore. - Is that the airport you mentioned in the bathroom thread? I noticed the lights - very efficient! It looked like they had installed some in Logan too, but not yet connected them to anything.

It's very frosty outside, but I don't have to go anywhere until this afternoon, so I'll just look out the window at it.

Lynn, more hugs, whenever you need them, and thank you for sharing the cute graphic in your post. I think it's OK to "lean in" a little when things make you cry, that we're designed to let the tears out in small bursts instead of all at once, so we don't drown.
 
Good Monday morning.

lynxstch - I am so very sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to have to make all the arrangements and get paperwork together so quickly, it's very stressful and not something you feel up to doing. Hopefully you have someone that can help you with things. I'm glad you accepted the offer for the luncheon, not something you need to be dealing with. Half-pint does know what is going on and she is grieving for the loss of her person. I'm glad you two have each other.

is everything ok with your DIL and the baby?
Bailey has a dr's appointment later this morning for another scan. She had a scan last Tuesday and they found a heartbeat but no growth, it's considered a missed miscarriage. She didn't want to know before the weekend since Mia's party was this past Saturday so they go today. Sounds like she may have to have a D&C scheduled.

I worked Saturday night and stayed over and extra 2 hours for a co-worker who was running late. I already told Evan that I would watch Mia at noon. When I found out I was working until 9 am, I texted Evan about dropping her off a little later, so she came over at 1:30. Problem is I didn't sleep when I got home in the morning because I needed to call the cable company since I didn't have sound from the cable box all weekend. Got that fixed, cleaned up the house a bit, ran to the grocery store and then dozed off for about 10 minutes. I finally went to bed for the night at 7 pm, hopefully I won't be tired at work today.

Mia's party was fun Saturday. She was in a good mood and showing off to everyone how she waves. She enjoyed her cake and liked her presents. I ended up getting her clothes, her big carseat and a babydoll. She had a good crowd that showed up.

The girls at work Saturday night had a little birthday party for me. They brought in food for a potluck and one of the girls got me a big, soft blanket.

That's about it, need to get back to work. Have a great day.
 
Good morning. I think it's safe to say winter chill is coming. It's only 28 degrees outside right now.

@lynxstch - just hugs.

I have been going through pictures trying to see what survived the hard-drive crash and what needs to be rescanned. I came across a picture of my son when he was about 3 dressed as an ice hockey goalie. He played with the big kids on the block and insisted he was "Pelle". Pelle Lindburgh was the Flyers goalie and he idolized him. Sadly Pelle was killed in a bad accident that was big news around here and my son just cried, not really understanding it all. A couple of months later my husband's best friend Larry's father died. My son wanted to go to the funeral so we took him. He loved his "Uncle Larry". To this day Larry talks about how my 3 year old son comforted him at the funeral. We were leaving the cemetery and Larry was sobbing. My little guy went up to him and said, "Don't cry Uncle Larry. Your daddy's with Pelle now." I know it seems sort of simplistic but that brought a huge smile to Larry's face.

I went to the African dinner at church and it was really a lovely affair and so much food. I brought home leftovers yesterday. Mostly the rice dishes I could eat. They did a great job labeling all the food with names and ingredients so it made it easy for people with allergies. There was food from Uganda, Cameroon, Nigeria, Ghana and Liberia. We even had food from Pakistan represented because one of our newer families is from there. Not quite Africa but represented anyway. My granddaughter and 3 of her friends also attended with me so I was quite happy about that. It's nice to see them broaden their horizons and taste buds, especially my granddaughter since both of her parents are extremely picky eaters. We couldn't leave til Ella got the phone number of one of the boys attending.

We have the funeral for Jim's cousin today. Not much else going on. Have a nice day
 
Not only are Luke and Ben coming up, but Marcella (Luke's partner) is coming as are the 3 girls. We saw 2 last week, but we haven't seen Taylor in 2 or 3 years. She's coming too. And all 4 of Summers are coming. That would have made Don so happy. I just talked to the Pastor and told him some things about Don and told him what I wanted to be done, so that's all taken care of.
The oxygen company is coming tomorrow to take everything and stop billing the insurance. Called and cancelled 2 upcoming Dr's appts.. When I return the heart monitor I'll have them cancel the one he has with them, and the one for an echo. Summer is picking up bags that you put pills in and it destroys them for you, so I don't have to worry about that stuff.

Called and double checked on the flowers,,they are all set too.
I'm heading out to do errands now.
 
Add me in to those who are sorry about the baby, @footballmouse. :flower3: Sad for them.

How are you doing, Lynn? Thinking about you. :hug: (ETA we were posting at the same time.)

Very busy work weekend. Recovering. DS is a little ill this morning, looks like he has an abcess brewing. He’s off to urgent care.

I have a few things to do around the house but otherwise I’ll be taking it easy today.

Have a good Monday. 🐥
 
❤️ 🙏to all my cherished Quacker family. Footballmouse, extra hug on the baby. Lynn, you know you have all of my extra care and prayers right now! To each of you, my sincere thanks forever. Quieter morning here except for, as usual, hurting feet :( This is so old! I am supposed to by tomorrow be getting a phone call to set up a consultation. I sure pray I do and that offers relief! Thank you all for all your care and extra XO.
 












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