hello everyone,
So my ex and I have not been together since I had our son. He walked out on us, saying he didn't want a family. I was poor, a new mom, and terrified. He has never paid the proper child support amount, and when I mentioned this he'd threaten to take custody of my son. I later met, and married, a wonderful man. My ex would ask repeatedly when my new husband is going to adopt my son, so my ex won't have to pay child support.
every time my family and I visit California I let my ex and his mom know so that they can see their son/grandson. We just traveled from Hawaii to Anaheim Disney in march and they saw him at Disney for a few days. We are traveling again for the Mickey Halloween party. Long story short, I told his mom I was fine with her and her son seeing my son for one of the five days we are at the park (I've been saving like crazy for this trip). She pushed for 3 of 5 days and I said I wasn't okay with that. Then, she went ahead and invited my ex's dad, grandma, sister (who was always rude to me), and my ex's girlfriend (who I didn't even know existed). Inviting my ex's girlfriend to my vacation to meet my son was more than I could bear. I sent a text to my ex's mom basically stating that she's taken over my vacation, and that I was not okay with her deciding who gets to meet my son. I limited their hours with my son to 6 hours on one day. I'm just wondering, what do I do if they don't respect my boundaries i.e. Take my son for longer than I stated was okay, or cause an embarrassing scene because they aren't getting what they want?
This has been a hectic year. My son was just diagnosed with autism and my husband is in the military and gone often. I just want a relaxing trip with my family. I want my son to have a relationship with my ex. My son is 3 and loves both dads. I tried to do the right thing. I just wish he, and his family, would be more considerate. In the future, I know not to invite my ex and his mom, but what do I do now?