PSA: Don't text angry!

[Jennasis]

So I have been having a bit of a family drama thing for the last day. Today I discovered the cause of the drama (my older sister). She really meant no harm by what she did, but what she did broke my trust and I was (I thought understandably) upset. In a bit of a snit, I sent a text denoting my upset over the breach to my cousin...however I accidentally sent it to my sister!

Now I am doing damage control.

So please, don't send texts when you are "hand-shaking" angry/upset. Cool off first and maybe, just maybe, don't send that text at all. Or at the very least, be sure of who you are sending it to.

Please no chastising me for what I did. It's done. Certainly won't make that mistake again. Next time I'll just call the person. Everyone involved lives out of state. I already apologized for my immaturity to her...she apologized for doing what she did.

Texting...tool of the devil himself I swear!

 

[OhioStateBuckeye]

Can we add drunk texts to this PSA as well? Because drunk texting is Never a good thing...

 

[Ember]

So I have been having a bit of a family drama thing for the last day. Today I discovered the cause of the drama (my older sister). She really meant no harm by what she did, but what she did broke my trust and I was (I thought understandably) upset. In a bit of a snit, I sent a text denoting my upset over the breach to my cousin...however I accidentally sent it to my sister!

Now I am doing damage control.

So please, don't send texts when you are "hand-shaking" angry/upset. Cool off first and maybe, just maybe, don't send that text at all. Or at the very least, be sure of who you are sending it to.

Please no chastising me for what I did. It's done. Certainly won't make that mistake again. Next time I'll just call the person. Everyone involved lives out of state. I already apologized for my immaturity to her...she apologized for doing what she did.

Texting...tool of the devil himself I swear!

If it makes you feel better, I once sent a rant about my husband over something he had done directly to him, rather than to my mother... Luckily, he knew I why I was upset and didn't take it too seriously. But that could have gone very, very wrong!

 

[jazzielady]

Can we add posting to the DIS under all the conditions listed also?

 

[FireDancer]

Can we add posting to the DIS under all the conditions listed also?

But then half of the Community Board threads will disappear

Google has added a 5 second delay to their email client so you can un-send anything you have second thoughts about. I imagine that there will be a similar option being added to the text feature of Android phones shortly.

 

[MzDiz]

But then half of the Community Board threads will disappear

Google has added a 5 second delay to their email client so you can un-send anything you have second thoughts about. I imagine that there will be a similar option being added to the text feature of Android phones shortly.

I remember back in the AOL days if you emailed another AOL member (and EVERYONE had AOL then) you could "un-send" your message if the recipient hadn't read it yet. Saved my butt a couple times.

 

[Jennasis]

But then half of the Community Board threads will disappear

Google has added a 5 second delay to their email client so you can un-send anything you have second thoughts about. I imagine that there will be a similar option being added to the text feature of Android phones shortly.

Oh please please please!


Just wanted to add, we have resumed happy sisterly relations.

 

[mamacatnv]

OP glad things are all okay, I think most of us can relate to you in some form or another.

I'd like to add do not email drunk, my FORMER BFF did.

 

[FireDancer]

Oh please please please!


Just wanted to add, we have resumed happy sisterly relations.

I do feel your pain but for a different reason. I once sent a text to the wrong person. It wasn't so much that the text was about the person or anything but it was about a situation that was ongoing involving a lot of people. The text was extremely sarcastic and was supposed to go to someone equally sarcastic. Instead, it went to someone to whom the notion of sarcasm is as foreign as fluid dynamics would be to a pre-schooler. That required a lot of awkward conversations.

It's all better now though.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

Can we add posting to the DIS under all the conditions listed also?

I agree

I almost went off yesterday about something that happened in another board on the DIS (because well, there are idiots everywhere... even here) but I refrained myself. I was proud about that because I really don't need any points.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

Good PSA OP!

I think people, myself included, do this way too much and get themselves in trouble more than they should.

 

[pilotwife_02]

Not a bad texting story, but DH once sent a text that our son "went poopy on the potty, woohoo" to a friend of his, but thought he sent it to me. All he got back was an "LOL".

For hours he didn't realize the error, until I asked him later in the day how our son did potty training that day (I was working and DH was home that day). He said, didn't you get my text? And I told him no. He insisted he texted me. I told him I had not such record of a text, and he went through them and started cracking up at his error.

Good thing it was a good friend of ours who has kids himself and understood the excitement of potty training

 

[bumbershoot]

I remember back in the AOL days if you emailed another AOL member (and EVERYONE had AOL then) you could "un-send" your message if the recipient hadn't read it yet. Saved my butt a couple times.

Alas, AOL users thought that ALL emails could be taken back...in '99 while working CS at amazon we'd get SO many emails sent, then a followup with just "unsend" in the title (when, apparently, UPS or USPS showed up with their 2 seconds late package). Doesn't work!



Sorry that happened, Jennasis. Once at work (tiny company that was part of Washington Mutual before being sold) my co-worker sent a rant *about* the secretary of the CEO of the little company...and managed to send it TO the secretary. Her desk was very close, and the secretary wasn't there, and I still remember the coworker running over to delete the email from the secretary's computer (nope, no password on the computer for some reason, this was in '97). Can't really do that with texts!

 

[Holly]

Ahem. The same goes for private messages.


Several years ago I received a pm here from someone who was talking about me. She meant to send it to someone else and must have been in a rush and sent it to me by mistake.


It was quite funny.

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

That is good advice, Jennasis.

We should all heed it, even me who doesn't own a cell phone.

I'm glad your tirade didn't hurt relations between you and your sister.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Good advice! It is never a good idea to text or email anything unless in a perfectly lucid frame of mind. My SIL LOVED this guy. When they graduated he went to the Peace Corps in Africa but my beautiful SIL was willing to wait for him in DC while starting her career. That is until the dummy sent her texts meant for his new girlie on the sly. Lesson learned is there is a place to store drafts... use it.

 

[hellokitty86]

I was on the recieving end of an angry text message once.

A family member is currently dating a young guy. They've been together about 6 months. One day we got into a bit of an argument (over nothing serious, I just told him he was being disrespectful and it ended there). The next day he sent me a message that told me that next time I'd better keep my mouth shut or else. I personally think that's threatening (although my family member who's dating him thinks he was just emotionally reacting and wouldn't do any harm). Never the less, I'm not friends with him anymore because of the text.