BeckyScott
<font color=magenta>I am still upset that they don
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Part discussion, part question.
Maybe it's because Justin is older, or I'm more "out there", or it just took everyone else a while to catch up, but I have noticed a trend lately. There have been several people approach me, people that I already know, "selling" stuff, be it products or some sort of therapy, to help with autism. Maybe you all have experienced this. Vitamin dealers, healthy home products, people who learned some new therapy technique in some other country. They have DVD's and literature. I guess autism is the new cash cow.
I am not opposed to trying different (read: not endorsed by the AAP) approaches with Justin, in my heart I believe that those alternative treatments will turn out to be the answer. But I don't want, and can't afford, to try every new idea somebody shows up with. Yes, even if they have literature.
At the same time, as I said, these are all people that I already know. Some better than others. And they seem sincere enough. And when you're dealing with a disability that has no exact known cause, it's hard to argue against something. And you kinda feel like if you don't try it, you're not trying hard enough to help your kid.
I sort of know what we're comfortable with at this point. We took Justin to a DAN, actually two different DANs. The first did not take any insurance (which is pretty typical) and while he was very knowledgable and started us on some stuff that did help, the bottom line is that we couldn't afford hundreds of dollars and a 2-hour drive one way to go see this guy all the time. The second DAN did take insurance, but also a 2-hour drive, and wanted all the labs re-done. The labs we still owe almost $1000 from the first round. So even the things that I see helping, because the DAN-type stuff I've tried on my own has helped, even the DANs are cutting some huge profit, as is the lab. Everyone is making their buck at the expense of parents desperate to find an answer.
It's like the whole universe finds out you have a kid with autism, and what they see are big dollar signs. Everyone has heard the stories, people selling their houses, cashing in their retirements, to pay for anything that will help their child. I hear that and it scares and saddens me. I guess others hear that and think if they can come up with the magical fix, they could be really really rich.
Some things, some products, like we use Kirkman vitamins, Kirkman has been around for a really long time so I tend to trust them more. But I have heard from two "friends", both of whom hawk two different vitamins on the side, about how great their products are. And both times I grabbed the Kirkman's vitamin bottle and told them, okay, this is what the vitamin needs to have (because if you've ever used Super NuThera you know the proportions of the vitamins are really bizarre compared to a typical multi-vitamin and I knew their vitamins weren't like that) and it needs to be a liquid or chewable... and the response I get is more information about their product and how many people it's helped.
Or, another example, we finally found an Omega 3 fish oil that Justin (both kids, actually) love, like lick-the-spoon love it, and I was pretty excited because we've tried 3 or 4 kinds and we had compliance issues and that's putting it nicely. When I told one person about this, cause I was very excited, the response was that she has a fish oil that is higher potency and would be better. UGH!
I can't spew facts off the top of my head like lots of the autism moms can do. I guess I don't have a science brain, and I'm going up against people that are well-versed in their spiel.
Bottom line, I don't want to totally piss off these people, because I don't know their motivation, I want to believe they're sincere since they know us personally, but maybe I'm just fooling myself. And it may be that some of what they're pushing is valid. But I don't know exactly how to get rid of them without causing bad feelings. And I don't know, maybe some of the stuff is valid and would be helpful.
Any suggestions for what to do? Do you all have this happen? The only thing I can think to do is ask if there are published studies of their product/ therapy? But they all have some, even though usually the study was done by the company itself. Do I just take everything offered and run it by the moms that I know online and see what they say? How do I get these people off my back? What if what they're hawking does have some legit value? As we speak, this morning, I have two vitamin pushers and one workshop pusher, and honestly the vitamins aren't right and the workshop we can't afford...
But for various reasons, we need to maintain a friendly relationship with these people.
Maybe it's because Justin is older, or I'm more "out there", or it just took everyone else a while to catch up, but I have noticed a trend lately. There have been several people approach me, people that I already know, "selling" stuff, be it products or some sort of therapy, to help with autism. Maybe you all have experienced this. Vitamin dealers, healthy home products, people who learned some new therapy technique in some other country. They have DVD's and literature. I guess autism is the new cash cow.
I am not opposed to trying different (read: not endorsed by the AAP) approaches with Justin, in my heart I believe that those alternative treatments will turn out to be the answer. But I don't want, and can't afford, to try every new idea somebody shows up with. Yes, even if they have literature.

At the same time, as I said, these are all people that I already know. Some better than others. And they seem sincere enough. And when you're dealing with a disability that has no exact known cause, it's hard to argue against something. And you kinda feel like if you don't try it, you're not trying hard enough to help your kid.
I sort of know what we're comfortable with at this point. We took Justin to a DAN, actually two different DANs. The first did not take any insurance (which is pretty typical) and while he was very knowledgable and started us on some stuff that did help, the bottom line is that we couldn't afford hundreds of dollars and a 2-hour drive one way to go see this guy all the time. The second DAN did take insurance, but also a 2-hour drive, and wanted all the labs re-done. The labs we still owe almost $1000 from the first round. So even the things that I see helping, because the DAN-type stuff I've tried on my own has helped, even the DANs are cutting some huge profit, as is the lab. Everyone is making their buck at the expense of parents desperate to find an answer.
It's like the whole universe finds out you have a kid with autism, and what they see are big dollar signs. Everyone has heard the stories, people selling their houses, cashing in their retirements, to pay for anything that will help their child. I hear that and it scares and saddens me. I guess others hear that and think if they can come up with the magical fix, they could be really really rich.
Some things, some products, like we use Kirkman vitamins, Kirkman has been around for a really long time so I tend to trust them more. But I have heard from two "friends", both of whom hawk two different vitamins on the side, about how great their products are. And both times I grabbed the Kirkman's vitamin bottle and told them, okay, this is what the vitamin needs to have (because if you've ever used Super NuThera you know the proportions of the vitamins are really bizarre compared to a typical multi-vitamin and I knew their vitamins weren't like that) and it needs to be a liquid or chewable... and the response I get is more information about their product and how many people it's helped.
Or, another example, we finally found an Omega 3 fish oil that Justin (both kids, actually) love, like lick-the-spoon love it, and I was pretty excited because we've tried 3 or 4 kinds and we had compliance issues and that's putting it nicely. When I told one person about this, cause I was very excited, the response was that she has a fish oil that is higher potency and would be better. UGH!
I can't spew facts off the top of my head like lots of the autism moms can do. I guess I don't have a science brain, and I'm going up against people that are well-versed in their spiel.
Bottom line, I don't want to totally piss off these people, because I don't know their motivation, I want to believe they're sincere since they know us personally, but maybe I'm just fooling myself. And it may be that some of what they're pushing is valid. But I don't know exactly how to get rid of them without causing bad feelings. And I don't know, maybe some of the stuff is valid and would be helpful.
Any suggestions for what to do? Do you all have this happen? The only thing I can think to do is ask if there are published studies of their product/ therapy? But they all have some, even though usually the study was done by the company itself. Do I just take everything offered and run it by the moms that I know online and see what they say? How do I get these people off my back? What if what they're hawking does have some legit value? As we speak, this morning, I have two vitamin pushers and one workshop pusher, and honestly the vitamins aren't right and the workshop we can't afford...
