Pregnancy Loss

[skuttle]

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

I've been dealing with infertility for over 3 years now. I mentioned it to my mom when we first started, but I haven't told her anything else. I had two chemical pregnancies (really early m/c), surgery in June, several tests and various procedures, but I haven't told her a thing. My mom is a worrier also. And her constant worrying bothers me, so I just decided not to tell her anything. I'm sure it would hurt her to know that I've kept so much from her, but this is how I need to handle it, the only way I know how to deal with it. Do whatever you think you need to do.

For the first year or so of our infertility battle, I didn't talk to anyone except my DH. Big mistake. I eventually told friends IRL, which helps a bit. I have found a lot of support through online groups, including here on the DIS. I'm still working up the courage to go to a support group IRL.

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

Skuttle, not only is my mom a worrier but she has Multiple Sclerosis. It's in remission but it's the main reason that I don't want to risk upsetting her.

 

[zachnsamsmommy]

BeachGirlFL...I hope my earlier post didn't make you feel bad about not telling your mom. That wasn't my intent at all, rather, I needed to tell someone besides my DH. A female...someone who would understand female hormones, issues, all that. I think it is great that you have a cousin who you can talk to. Only you know whether to talk about it to your mom...

Anyways...(((hugs))) again...

 

[kafitty]

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

Nobody made me feel bad about not telling her. Honestly, I wish I could tell her. She's always been my best friend....but I won't risk upsetting her.

 

[lovemygoofy]

Nobody made me feel bad about not telling her. Honestly, I wish I could tell her. She's always been my best friend....but I won't risk upsetting her.

It's happened to me twice. I haven't told anyone in my family. I just didn't want to share something so personal even though it's my mom or my family. They really wouldn't understand and I just didn't want to have to console anyone that would be sad for what should have been when struggling with my own.

I'm glad that you do have someone to talk to about this. My husband was home when it happened once and happened again when he was deployed. I really could have used support. I know your pain and have shed several tears reading this thread. I'm so sorry for your loss.