Pre-nup

[Michie]

Do you have a pre-nup? We don't. Neither one of us had much when we married God forbid, if something happened to my DH, and remarried I would get one.

ETA: ye means yes For some reason I can not edit my poll

 

[peacefulgirl]

Do you have a pre-nup? We don't. Neither one of us had much when we married God forbid, if something happened to my DH, and remarried I would get one.

ETA: ye means yes For some reason I can not edit my poll

Pre-nup is just dumb if you ask me.. why would I enter into something I do not TRUST in. NO FREAKIN WAY !! I don't get thinking at all !! If someone needs that just to prove "I am not in for the $" then there is NO trust. END OF STORY! Deal breaker! Hope the door doesn't hit him on the way out... SEE YA!!

 

[disykat]

I think prenups make sense where there are significant assets that involve other family members - like a family business, or kids from a previous marriage. I don't have one, but would have no qualms about signing one in those situations. I would have reservations about being asked to sign one if those conditions didn't exist.

 

[katerkat]

We don't have one - though I believe my dad has some stuff protecting my inheritance in case of divorce.

If I ever were to remarry, I would, since there's now a child involved.

 

[mtblujeans]

No...neither one of us had anything but debt when we met. DH feels a pre-nup plants the idea of a non-permanent union in the back of people's minds. It would be as if you have one foot out the door to escape before you even get married, as far as he's concerned. Me, I don't care one way or another.

 

[Papa Deuce]

I make good money. My wife makes a lot more than I do. I don't "think" I would have been offended if she had asked me to sign one before we got married.

One thing we have ALWAYS agreed on is that nobody will take each other's retirement money.

I always say, tho, that she can't leave me unless she is willing to pay alimony!

( actually, I'm not sure PA even has alimony, but it keeps her thinking! )

 

[DWhittles]

My parents didn't have one but when my dad's business took off and he all of a sudden had quite a bit of money coming in, he took some of it and put it in accounts that my mother couldn't touch using my name and my sisters names.
When they did divorce someone told my mother that my dad had a girlfriend (It had nothing to do with the divorce)mom went a bit psycho and tried to gouge my dad claiming she "KNEW" he had money elsewhere. She never could prove it.
Only my father and I know where the accounts are.

 

[mudnuri]

I have a good friend who has a $18 million trust fund. He is not married at this time, however he wont get married without a pre-nup. I cant say that I blame him. Nobody gets married without it thinking its forever, but we all know that not everyone stays married until death they do part.

If I was involved with him romantically, I'd sign the pre-nup if we were to get married. It's not my money, its his family money...

Brandy

 

[Pop Daddy]

they dont seem like you have "forever" im mind if you make one up

 

[RC Fan]

I have no problems with pre-nups. To me, they are the ultimate expression of trust. To me they do say 'it is not about the money, I am only interested in you'. Lots of couples will promise while everything is rosy not to 'go for blood' IF they divorce, however I have found that this is not the case. It seems for many all the good times are forgotten when a break-up happens. I say why not protect yourself?

 

[Alicnwondrln]

no i dont

 

[dg39]

If I were going into a marriage with millions, I would want a pre nup stating that whatever I had before the marriage and in the event of a divorce, that money would be for me and my children. Everything made or bought after the wedding would be split down the middle. I doubt that anyone would start out in a marriage with the thought of it ending, but, things do happen, people do turn nasty and mean, and I would have to think about myself and my children's future..

 

[powellrj]

We got married young, poor and before they were common, so no we don't have one. I might think about one now because only because I have children to think of and I would want their needs met if I were to remarry again.

 

[chrissyk]

Um, no...we were so young, poor, and in debt when we got married. What would a pre-nup have protected? The credit card bills

 

[Toby'sFriend]

no when you are 19 years old and your most valuable possession is a Lenox China Expressions of Christmas gravy boat and his most valuable possession is a signed Gary Carter baseball card -- a pre-nup seems to be a bit of overkill.

I guess that if something happened to DH and I did happen to get remarried (hard to imagine) I would perhaps take the money that I wanted protected and put it into trusts for the kids. I can't imagine marrying anybody unless I was willing to give them everything I owned.

 

[crz4mm2]

No, we didn't have one either. Neither one of us had anything when we got married.
If I was to remarry now, I might think about it. I would want to protect the things I have worked for. I believe in trust too, but I would sign one too if I was entering into a marriage with someone who had millions and he wanted me to sign.

 

[Chicago526]

I think if you have a ton of $$$, they do make sence. The divorce rate is 50%, it's not like it isn't a possibility after all.

For myself, DFi and I don't have enough assets to bother. Oddly enough, he did ask me if I wanted one, since I own a house and have a decent amount of money in my 401K. I said no, I didn't need one. First because I trust him, second because even with the assests menetioned above, it still isn't THAT much money in the grand scheme of things. But just his asking made me

I've got a great guy!

 

[dianeschlicht]

We didn't have one, but we were young and that was 37 years ago. Don't plan on needing one ever either!

My Dad remarried after my mother passed away, and he did have a pre-nup with his new wife keeping their assests seperate after one passed away. She passed away last year, and we were happy they did it that way. Her family got her saved funds, and that is how it should be.

 

[EthansMom]

We don't have a pre-nup, but if (God forbid) something happened to DH, I would get one if I ever remarried so that I could make sure that my kids would get the assets from mine and DH's marriage if I passed away. I certainly don't think it would be fair for the money that DH and I worked hard to earn and invest to go to some other guy instead of to our kids.

 

[Charade]

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One thing we have ALWAYS agreed on is that nobody will take each other's retirement money.

GET IT WRITING!!!

I always say, tho, that she can't leave me unless she is willing to pay alimony!

( actually, I'm not sure PA even has alimony, but it keeps her thinking! )

They do.