Prayers Needed, Please

[MerryPoppins]

You and your mom are both in my prayers.

 

[Terk-1]

Thank you all so much for your wonderful thoughts, prayers and hugs. You have no idea how much it is appreciated.

Serena, she actually planned out everything she wanted after we lost my dad, so we know her wishes and will do all of them.

We are still hopeful that she will be able to turn things around, but are also realistic. We just want her to be comfortable and in no pain through this.

It's great to know that there is such kind and wonderful people on these boards.

Thank you again!!

 

[dizny4us]

Saying a prayer and sending your way

 

[avdeane]

Terk,

My thoughts and prayers are with you, your mom and your family. Keep the faith! There is always hope!

 

[4nana]

I am so sorry and feel your pain. I went thru this with my dear Dad little over a year ago and cannot begin to imagine how I'll deal when I lose my best friend, dear Mom.

You sound like a wonderful daughter doing all you can ~ being right by her side reminiscing, telling her your love for her, and that you'll be alright. Must bring her a lot of consolation.

May God grant you the faith and strength for what may come. Meanwhile, we'll pray for a miracle. Blessings to you and yours.

Godspeed ^i^
Sandie

 

[Terk-1]

Thank you again for all your support. It means alot.

 

[Serena]

 

[newmousecateer]

Prayers being said and {{HUGS}} being sent.

 

[goofy4tink]

I'm so sorry. I know how hard it is on the daughters. Mom's are so special. Saying prayers for you, your family and especially your mom. Just be there for her.

 

[Kitty 34]

I'm sorry you're going thru this with your Mom. Many prayers and {{{{{HUGS}}}}

 

[Cthia]

Sending Prayers and Pixie Dust to your Mom and your family.

Hoping things turn around and get better for her.

 

[minniecarousel]

Prayers for you and your Mom and the rest of your family. Moms are so special.

Hang in there

 

[Snow Dog Mom]

Hugs and prayers to you and your family.

Kim

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

Hugs and prayers headed your way.

 

[Lars624]

 

[helenabear]

I am so very sorry you are going through all of this right now... my thoughts and prayers are with you

 

[AuroraluvsPhillip]

It is wonderful that you can be there and be supportive at this tough time. Don't worry about being "strong." The best thing you can do is be there and love her. Hugs and prayers to you, your mom, and your family.

 

[Lachesis00]

My thoughts are with you and your family....

 

[stacilee]

I am so sorry.

Another poster asked if arrangements had been discussed in advance.
I agree with that person because I just lost my mother Feb. 23rd.

I have 3 sibs. I am 41 they are all in their 50's. I have 4 young kids (well 1 is a teenager) theirs are all grown and gone. I live 648 miles from my mom, they all live closer, one just a few miles away yet he hardly showed his face. I was the one that had to make all the arrangements. ALL THE ARRANGEMENTS.

I had travelled back and forth thinking each time, this will be the last time. Each time I came back she would rally a little then I would have to go back home.

I am a SAHM. That IS my job. My husband can do HIS job because of me. He cannot take off for extended periods of time because there are 100 people that cannot function without him.

My last few visits with my mom were fly up, jump in a rental car, drive to her assisted living facility, sit at her bedside and take full responsibility for her care -very extensive in the end- from 10 pm friday night til 5 pm sunday evening. I slept in a wooden rocking chair next to her bed. I only left her twice each day to drive a mile to get a decent cup of coffee and back. Early sunday evening- everything in reverse. Get up Monday at 5 am to get the kids back on schedule.

When she finally did pass I was not there. I had left on a sunday and she passed the following thurs.

During those 31/2 days I had to shop for a dress and fed ex it to the funeral home. I actually enjoyed this last favor for her. She loved to look nice and I had the pleasure of meeting the nicest sales lady who listened to me explain what I needed and was totally understanding in my desire to find "just the right dress".
I found it too. She looked absolutely beautiful in it. The funeral home did a remarkable job on her. You would never have known that this 83 year old lady had been sick for so long.

I had to work over the phone for virtually all the funeral arrangements. Even picking out the casket! I had it narrowed down to 2 and tried to call my siblings for some guidance or support. I got "ew, EW, EEEWWW. I can not BELIEVE you want to talk about this. That is so GROSS." click. dialtone, from one sister. "I don't care, pick whatever you want." from another. and best one, from dear loser brother: "just get whatever's cheap."

I had to track down the priest (who had retired but whom was a longtime friend of my parents). Hire an organist, a cantor, select the songs and choose the people for the readings and to be mom's pallbearers. When my brother asked the night of the viewing if I had made arrangements to have some sort of catered luncheon after the funeral mass I quietly told him that I felt I had done enough and that I wasn't participating in any postgame festivities. That I was putting my family in the car and driving home.

I know that you are going to grieve the loss of your mom, your dear friend. Not a day passes that I don't think oh I gotta call mom and tell her something... can't. Tonight at my son's swim meet there was a child who's grandmother had come to cheer for the team. Her KNEES looked just like my mom's and I got all teary eyed just looking at them. Isn't that CRAZY!?! Sitting at a swim meet crying for gosh sake over some old lady's wrinkly, saggy, vercose-veiny KNEES!!!

I am still recovering from the stress of it all. The kicker of it is that now I am the executrix of her darned will. Six MORE months of agony!!!

You are not alone. I am with you baby!

 

[Pop Daddy]

hang in there, and prayers for your mom