Prayers and good thoughts please!!!!

[wdwmom2]

I am hurt, upset, angry.......I don't really know what I am.

StepDD22 is moving in with her boyfriend today. It has been in the works for several months now. A few months back DH said to me that she asked to take her mattress/boxspring and TV with her. We spoke about it and agreed that the TV would stay. He asked me because they were mine that she was using. She has a TV, same size, but it developed a line across the bottom of the screen. Still useable, I guess it was annoying to her.

Now, last week she was talking with me and DD24. She said she was taking 2 TV's and the boxspring/mattress. I asked which TV's. Her old one(which is about the same age as the one she is using) and the one she was using. I told her that she was welcome to the boxspring/mattress but that the TV needed to stay here because now DD17 will be moving into her room and needs a TV. DD17 currently has a bedroom smaller than some people's closet and her TV is SMALL, 9". StepDD then repeated that she was TAKING the TV, with attitude. I didn't want to argue with her so I said nothing.

Well, today is moving day. DH just called me from out on the road. StepDD called him all angry and upset that I said the TV needs to stay. I don't mind her taking furniture that we aren't using, plenty up in the attic. But the TV stays. We will be using it, it will not be sitting and collecting dust.

It just feels like she needs to come in, say what she wants even if it isn't her's to take, and walk away with it. It's like she wants her first place to be fully furnished, Martha Stewart style, at other people's expense. I don't think she realizes it takes alot of people many years to obtain all the furnishings of their dream home. DH and I have plenty of furniture and cookware/dishes to give her that we are not using, it just doesn't happen to include the TV. She is obviously welcome to take her TV.

Not sure how to feel or what to do??? I guess I just need to vent and get it off my chest. No one at home to vent to. I am sitting here a ball of nerves waiting for her to walk in the front door and throw a fit about it. I really hope that doesn't happen. I do not like to argue, but I don't want the TV to leave either. I feel I need to draw the line somewhere.

I don't think I have ever asked for prayers, pixie dust, or anything of that sort here on the DIS before. But if you have any to spare, please send it my way.

 

[Serena]

It'll be ok. I hate to argue too, but this is a situation where she is being unreasonable and you both know it. It's simply "no". You already said no, you meant no and you have good reasons for saying no.
Ignore the temper tantrum, it's simply no.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Yea, what is she going to do about it, move out? Such attitude for someone who is 22.
Hang in there.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

The answer is "no" and she has to respect that. If she wants a better t.v she can go and buy one herself.

 

[wdwmom2]

Thanks guys. I hope everything goes smoothly. She doesn't take "no" very well, very strong willed. StepDD is like my DD17, they just don't have a clue. I feel they are going to learn some lessons the hard way. Raised the same as DH's oldest, DS28, and my oldest DD24. Both of those are very respectful, appreciative, and not demanding. Always have been. All raised the same way. Just very different personalities!!!!

She hasn't shown up yet. Should have been here by now. So I am still sitting on pins and needles.

 

[JoiseyMom]

Take deep breaths and relax. How about removing the TV from her room now, so that she can't even attempt to take it? Would she do that?

Or tell her the cost of the TV would be $$$ so that you can buy DD17 a new tv. Hey...can you give her the tiny tv from DD17 room??

Good luck though!! Just remember..you are right, and she will be angry no matter what, and she will have to get over it at some point.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Sorry to hear of that conflict, Sharon. Best wishes and certainly prayers. Family tensions and conflicts can be very wearing and even debilitating. Do hope all goes well soon. 's

 

[bumcat]

I believe that pretty much covers anything you wish to pray about.




And whatever you ask for in prayer, having faith and [really] believing, you will receive. Matthew 21: 22

 

[wdwmom2]

Thanks everyone. It went fairly smoothly. I was talking to my neighbor who was outside at the time she was carrying things out. I mentioned to hime about the TV. Just so happens he had 2 extra TV's he was going to sell at his next yard sale. He offered to give them one and stepDD's boyfriend took him up on the offer. So they did get 2 TV's.

Dan, you are right, tension is very tiring. Family peace means everything to me. When things like this happen, it absolutely tears me apart. Thank the good Lord it is a rare occurance.

Thank you everyone for your concern. It is greatly appreciated!!!

 

[Serena]

I'm glad it went smoother than you anticipated.

 

[MariDisney]

Glad it went well. Is it my imagination or were posts deleted from this thread?

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Glad it went well. Is it my imagination or were posts deleted from this thread?

I believe so. So no you are not crazy.