Ppl With Asperger Syndrome

[CptJackSparrowsGirl]

Anyone else other then me single and have Asperger Syndrome?

For ppl that don't know it is a high functioning form of autisim. Some times you can't even tell.

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

I am married but my husband has Asperger's. It can be a bit daunting at times, especially when he wants people to move from HIS bench or gets upset because a parade is not on NOW. He is 75.

Are you the one with Asperger's?

Disney is such a great place to go where everyone is accepted and understood, for the most part.

Slightly Goofy

 

[CptJackSparrowsGirl]

Yes, I'm the one with Asperger's Syndrome
I understand what you mean. I'm always getting onto ppl about sitting in my set lol.

 

[Judy in Texas]

I don't know much about Asperger Syndrome. How can the people who know you be more understanding? Because of it, what are some of the things you feel you have to work on to make your relationships better?

 

[GoldieSaysMeep]

It was brought to my attention recently that I might be a high functioning autistic.

Never thought of that but the more I read about it, it makes sense. It makes me feel better to think I’m not some freak and that other people have this.

I am very hypersensitive to noises that others barely notice. Things like gum chewing, throat clearing, sniffling, soda cans popping open. Some of these things infuriate me and can honest to god ruin my ability to think/work/function like a normal person for quite a while after they occur and NO ONE understands I can’t just “ignore it”. I’m embarrassed to admit this but in the past, I have bitten my own hand out of anger that stemmed from hearing a small sound the disrupted me.

I have very little empathy for people. This is something about myself that I have tried, with no success, to fix. It scares me. I can not put myself in other peoples positions and I have a very hard time understanding why anyone does what they do. People who are down on their luck, people who live different types of lives than me… I don’t “get them” on any level and no matter how hard I try to be understanding, I just can’t. This scares some of my friends because they are afraid I will say something insensitive sometime to the wrong person and end up hurt. I don’t mean to be insensitive but I am.

However, there are 3 or 4 people I am close to who I over empath with to the point that their pain and sorrow becomes mine and I fixate on it.

I obsess over a handful of subjects. I learn all I can about these subjects and sometimes I find it hard not to talk about them even thought part of my brain knows no one else cares about them. Disney is one of these topics. Finances is another. There have been other topics throughout my life that I’ve obsessed over as well.

I can not deal with face to face conversations. I tend to look away or make weird gestures. I prefer IM and email, even with people I am close to. In fact, my fiance and I have never even talked on the phone… we communicate via text message when we are not face to face. Even with my parents, I prefer to email. I find it hard to have conversations in person.

Social “chit chat” annoys me. Lots. I have to go to a work luncheon today and I am dreading it. Having to listen to people talk about topics I could care less about that I doubt they could care less about just to avoid being quiet…ugh.

These things have all troubled me for most of my teens and adult life. I can’t remember before that but my mom tells me that I used to bite my hand when I heard family members talking on the phone because the noise bothered me and I used to run a fan to cover sounds. When I was a child, I did not know how to relate to other kids and preferred to play by myself. This was in the 70’s and early 80’s when no one took their kids to psychologists so my mom just let it go.

I have had a hard time keeping friends my whole life. I have almost no friends who have been around more than 2 years. I withdraw.

I’ve always thought that what was wrong with me was either clinical depression OR me just being a freak. But a few weeks ago a friend who is a nurse who works with autistic children told me I show a lot of the signs that some of her kids do and I started looking into it.

What do you think? Honestly, for me, actually finding out what is wrong with me would be a huge relief.

 

[Cupcake2008]

Hey there. I've worked with a lot of children who have been diagnosed with Asperger syndrome in the school setting. We are getting better at identifying people and it's not uncommon. Although there are often many challenges facing people with Aspergers, I just have to say that some of the kids that I have worked with are some of the most amazing, interesting, intelligent, and awesome people out there.

 

[Jewel1310]

I agree. Aspies are typically highly intelligent. My nephew (22) has aspergers and he is very smart. It has its challenges, but he sees things with out a lot of emotions clouding things. Some of the things he doesn't like - change, being touched a lot, different routine, small talk, sleeping in light or with a lot of sound.

You wouldn't even notice it online as he is very expressive and engaged.

He is in college and doing very well. He dorms by himself as he prefers some time on his own.

 

[Dancind]

GoldiesaysMeep, I think you are getting good advice from your friend. I have some very similar traits, and so does my daughter. My daughter is going into counseling, it breaks my heart to see her struggling with relationships.

Try WrongPlanet dot net. They have some discussion forums, one in particular for women. The common thought is that people with Aspergers are generally men, but I think it runs equally between sexes in families and is simply different in women.

 

[Joanna71985]

I have it

 

[bookwormde]

Not single but I am an aspie form a lng line of aspies and I have a son who is formally diagnosed as Aspergers. There is a big group of spectrum parents over on the disabilites board. With the visual pallet that WDW is it is hard not to find it magical.

bookwormde

 

[looo33]

2 of my 7 children have Asperger's. While it is certainly challenging to parent at times, they have both taught me to look at things in a different way. They processes life a bit differently than others do and it can still catch me offguard at times.

 

[KPeveler]

I have a sensory problem that was originally diagnsed as ADD/ADHD, anxiety disorder, OCD-tendencies... then i read about SID/SPD and things suddenly made sense!

I just got married, but i understand how difficult and isolating it is to have an emotional/social illness/problem/disability...


thank heavens for the internet! its a lifesaver!

 

[SlightlyGoofy]

I know this sounds awful and I do not mean it to and ask it with the best intent, is it possible for someone with Asperger's to use it as an excuse not to do things? My husband is a lot older than I am and we have been married for nearly 40 years and his diagnosis has only been in the past couple of years. I was amazed at reading about it and so many things clicked into place after reading for awhile. I work with learning disabled children and knew something was 'off' but not exactly what until now.

My husband has always had me do 'everything' using the excuse that he was a 'blue baby'. It was hard enough when I was younger and in better health but it has become overwhelming. The effort it takes to get him to do anything is far more than the bit of 'work' I can get him to do. He will 'accidentally' break things so I will not ask him to do things. How much is a man thing, spoiled rotten thing or Asperger's is something that consumes my thoughts. Most days I figure that I will never change him and deal but then there are other days.

GoldieSaysMeep, I was interested in the fact that you know you cannot emphasize with others. It is a good and rare thing to know what ones limitations are. Do you feel that is helpful for you to understand that about yourself?

Do those of you who are married have difficulties because of your limitations? I think everyone has some sort of diagnosis or phobia etc to work through. I have my own share of 'things'.

Slightly Goofy

 

[a1tinkfans]

It was brought to my attention recently that I might be a high functioning autistic.

Never thought of that but the more I read about it, it makes sense. It makes me feel better to think I’m not some freak and that other people have this.

I am very hypersensitive to noises that others barely notice. Things like gum chewing, throat clearing, sniffling, soda cans popping open. Some of these things infuriate me and can honest to god ruin my ability to think/work/function like a normal person for quite a while after they occur and NO ONE understands I can’t just “ignore it”. I’m embarrassed to admit this but in the past, I have bitten my own hand out of anger that stemmed from hearing a small sound the disrupted me.

I have very little empathy for people. This is something about myself that I have tried, with no success, to fix. It scares me. I can not put myself in other peoples positions and I have a very hard time understanding why anyone does what they do. People who are down on their luck, people who live different types of lives than me… I don’t “get them” on any level and no matter how hard I try to be understanding, I just can’t. This scares some of my friends because they are afraid I will say something insensitive sometime to the wrong person and end up hurt. I don’t mean to be insensitive but I am.

However, there are 3 or 4 people I am close to who I over empath with to the point that their pain and sorrow becomes mine and I fixate on it.

I obsess over a handful of subjects. I learn all I can about these subjects and sometimes I find it hard not to talk about them even thought part of my brain knows no one else cares about them. Disney is one of these topics. Finances is another. There have been other topics throughout my life that I’ve obsessed over as well.

I can not deal with face to face conversations. I tend to look away or make weird gestures. I prefer IM and email, even with people I am close to. In fact, my fiance and I have never even talked on the phone… we communicate via text message when we are not face to face. Even with my parents, I prefer to email. I find it hard to have conversations in person.

Social “chit chat” annoys me. Lots. I have to go to a work luncheon today and I am dreading it. Having to listen to people talk about topics I could care less about that I doubt they could care less about just to avoid being quiet…ugh.

These things have all troubled me for most of my teens and adult life. I can’t remember before that but my mom tells me that I used to bite my hand when I heard family members talking on the phone because the noise bothered me and I used to run a fan to cover sounds. When I was a child, I did not know how to relate to other kids and preferred to play by myself. This was in the 70’s and early 80’s when no one took their kids to psychologists so my mom just let it go.

I have had a hard time keeping friends my whole life. I have almost no friends who have been around more than 2 years. I withdraw.

I’ve always thought that what was wrong with me was either clinical depression OR me just being a freak. But a few weeks ago a friend who is a nurse who works with autistic children told me I show a lot of the signs that some of her kids do and I started looking into it.

What do you think? Honestly, for me, actually finding out what is wrong with me would be a huge relief.

FIRST
NOT for Thinking you may be an Aspie of course, but because you MAY have found an answer to why you are the way you are!
EMBRACE your strengths, one is obviously to articulate your thoughts and RATHER than dwell on what you see as negatives, KNOW that each of us are different in many ways.
As a parent of an AMAZING Aspie.......your "picture" is actually quite typical.....so HERES to learning how to "deal" with those things that you find annoying and to a WONDERFUL NEW YEAR!