Potty training help - DS wont go at home

[lecach]

DS is 3. He is at daycare from 9-1 and does great with potty training there. Always comes home in his original underwear and pants dry. BUT he won't go at home. He used to a little bit but now rarely will use the potty. He went thru 5 pairs of pants yesterday. And pee'd on my bed today. Any advice? Is it maybe too soon to be pushing potty training? We've tried treats and that doesn't work. Maybe a timer?

 

[HappyDznyCamper]

At preschool they probably go at specific times/intervals, say every 45 min or so. You might try just taking him to sit on the potty every 30min until he starts going on his own. Don't make a big deal out of it but make it just something you do. When I had the 3 year old class at the preschool I work at my whole class went to the restroom at the same time and everyone(potty trained/training) had to sit on the potty even if they said they didn't have to go, we did this so no one felt like they were missing something good back in the classroom.

 

[Disney1976]

Not sure if this would work, but I've heard of parents giving their child a cheap digital wristwatch with a timer on it. They set the timer for an interval, say every 30 or 45 minutes, and when it beeps, the child has to at least try to use the potty.

This way, you're not the one always making your child go potty, the timer is and the child learns when it beeps, they go -seems less stressful. Granted, an egg timer or even a microwave timer (set to 0 power, of course) would accomplish the same thing, but I guess the bonus with the watch is that a lot of children like wearing them too -maybe you could even find a cheap Disney one!

 

[LoveBWVVBR]

Have you asked the daycare what they do for potty training? Maybe he is used to doing one thing at school and expects that system to continue at home Perhaps they take them at set intervals at school or something. I'd ask his daycare teachers for advice since they are having luck with keeping him dry at school. If that doesn't work, I'd just put him in training pants at home for the time being. Potty training is one thing that I refuse to make into a power struggle, because kids know that it's one of the few things that they can control, KWIM?

 

[Mkrop]

Our ped suggested setting a timer for every 2 hours and then the kid had to go and try. I use the microwave timer so it could be heard anywhere and we immediately stopped what we were doing and went in there. This worked wonderful for DS10 who was the last child on earth to be potty trained and also for DS4 who was a breeze to train.

 

[letthewookiewin]

Like the others have said, more than likely they have a potty schedule. I know when I worked in preschool (which I did for about 12 years), we always had a potty schedule. We took them at least once every hour. I would just ask his preschool teacher what they are doing, and then do the same at home.

 

[Kaler131]

Does he use a potty chair at home of the big toilet? I never had any luck with any of my four kids (1 girl & 3 boys) with a potty chair. They refused to sit on it for more than about 15 seconds. I had much better luck just letting them go on the big toilet. A sticker/reward chart also worked well!

 

[Mkrop]

Does he use a potty chair at home of the big toilet? I never had any luck with any of my four kids (1 girl & 3 boys) with a potty chair. They refused to sit on it for more than about 15 seconds. I had much better luck just letting them go on the big toilet. A sticker/reward chart also worked well!

yep potty chairs were useless with my guys. DS4 would not sit down to pee which actually was fine. We used the rings that go on the big toliets

 

[caitty13]

My son will be 3 on Monday. We go on and off with the same problem. He woke up one day and wanted to wear underpants. He does great when we are out shopping or when he is at daycare. But when he is at hom ore Mimi's he will wet his underpants, take them off and put new ones on. He usally tires to hid them. He has gone pie several times on out bed and whatever we do doesn't work. We even went to disney last week, left a pullup on and he did great with letting us know. My son seems to be very stubborn and I think it is a control issue. I haven't tried the timer idea but I also don't think it will work with my son. Maybe being at home is a comfort thing that needs to be broken. Like with my son he knows that he will have a change of cloths that he can change into.

 

[Thats_for_Shore]

Potty training can be a really individual thing. For my DS8, we put froot loops or cheerios in the toilet, and made a game of "shooting" them.

But my DS3, he's a completely different kettle of fish. Started a month before he was two. Just started going on the potty, Number1 and Number2. I was totally impressed. But it only lasted about a week. I have had to fight with him for over a year to get him to start using the potty again. When he finally did start using it again, he would only do it at home. Not at grandma's. Not at the sitters house.

We finally figured out that he wanted to be by himself. He didn't want the sitter with him. He didn't want grandma following him into the bathroom. Now he does fine (most of the time).

 

[jessica52877]

My son only goes when he gets up in the morning, around 7 and not again until 2 ish, is it possible he isn't even having to go at preschool?

If he is, then I would just say it is a power issue at home. Most children I know that is the case. I think if he is going just fine at school then it is nothing to do with not being ready.