Poll: When do you stop buying your adult children Christmas &/or Birthday gifts?

[D&DDisney]

Hopefully never.

 

[Beth76]

I'm surprised by the amount of people on this thread that equate love with gift-giving.

 

[HeyIt'sMe]

Never.

My DD is only 10 but I can't imagine there will ever come a time when I stop buying her Christmas and/or Birthday gifts.

Both of my parents are gone but my DILs still buy me & DH presents. I got a new washing machine for Christmas!

 

[coles1mom]

I'm surprised by the amount of people on this thread that equate love with gift-giving.

Beth, I guess the best way to explain love & gift giving is, I wouldn't give a gift to someone I didn't know or to someone I didn't care for.

Gifts are an extra way of telling someone you care. Not in place of.

Judi

 

[C.Ann]

Never!! I'm really confused by the question..

 

[DVCLiz]

No, this didn't come out of another thread. I don't know which thread you are referring to.

Then great minds think alike - I know of at least two other threads this week that dealt with almost the same subject. Guess it's a popular one this time of year!!

 

[ASFCurly]

I think this question may have something to do with another thread about the subject I saw recently, asking the same question. In that one, the responses were mostly along the opposite line - "I stopped expecting gifts at Christmas when I became an adult" sorts of things.

No, this didn't come out of another thread. I don't know which thread you are referring to.

I think she is talking about the thread that started with a stepmother asking what people would spend on a 24 year old adult child. There were a lot of people saying that they don't give gifts after their children leave home, even if they have other kids still at home. Some saying that they don't stop altogether, but at 17 and under they might spend $300 and once they hit 18 or 19 or whatever it goes down to $25 as they are adults now. Some people saying that even if a parent asks/begs for a list, if the "child" is over 18 it is "Horrifying" or "Rude" to actually give one. That they would, and should be laughed at if they try and give suggestions, within reason, even if the parents ask for them. I was a bit startled by it all honestly. My Mother is 54 and my grandmother gives all of her children a sizable check, the same if they are married or not, and fills all their stockings every year.

 

[Cool-Beans]

I'll stop giving them gifts when I'm senile or dead.

 

[Ciao Mickey]

Never.

 

[Stitchfans]

Never, why should I?

 

[froglady]

I'll stop giving them gifts when I'm senile or dead.

My mother died in November, 2006. When she knew she was terminal, she (with my help) ordered Christmas presents for her children and grandchildren, to be sure they would get them. We each got a beautiful, hand carved nativity set.