Please send Pixie Dust!

[Colleen A.]

Yesterday, the peace and quiet of our world came to a crashing halt! Before I start this story, I need to give some background info. DH was married before and has a 19 yr old son. They have been divorced since he was 3 and she moved out of state. DH had weekend visits when he was younger but as he got older, he didn't want to be bothered with his father or younger siblings. We have not seen this boy in quite a number of years and the only time he called was when he wanted something (his mother did call in the spring though, she wanted DH to lie on a PA grant form so he could get grant money to go to tech school!! ) Anyway, for all we knew, he still lived in Jersey. DH went into work yesterday and was immediately flooded with questions about this boy. Without going into too much detail, he has made the local paper!! Not only is he no longer living in Jersey, he now lives in our town (within walking distance!) To make matters worse, his victim attends the same middle school are our 2 older kids!! I needed to sit down with our kids and talk to them about this. I was afraid if they started school in a couple weeks, they might take the fall out because of this. Our last name is not that common and I'm sure if anyone from the school found out about it, they would realize my kids were connected. As horrible as this might sound, I have told the kids to lie and deny being related. I didn't know what else to do...... DH is sooo upset! I told him it is not his fault. His ex- made sure he didn't have a great influence on the boys life. She was too wrapped up in her own world (she has either lived with/married at least 3 men since the divorce) to keep control of her kids (this one and the 2 other ones from her 1st marriage). They all have screwed up their lives one way or the other.
Well, thanks for listening! Send pixie dust to help my kids deal with this!

 

[tiggerlover]

I am sorry for what you are going through, however after reading your post (twice) I am a little confused as to what is going on. Did your 19 yo stepson do something to someone who will be in your kids school, is that what you mean by the victim goes to their school? Regardless, a ton of pixie dust is headed your way.

 

[glo]

I am sorry....

 

[newmousecateer]

I am so sorry. I am sending PD your way.

{{{HUGS}}} to you and DH.

 

[Pooh93]

How upsetting. PD for your family.

 

[Annie&Hallie'sMom]

I too was a little confused by your post, but I am guessing that you are (hopefully were) too upset to write it all down.

Sending lots of PD your way.

 

[kinlaw6450]

Sorry to hear your family is going through this Colleen...lots of PD coming your way...

 

[jldriscoll]

PD for whatever it is!!! You sound really upset. SO sorry

 

[Dan Murphy]

Just letting you know my best wishes are with you, Colleen, that all go well for your family. Also hope things straighten out for the young man also, and he makes a life.

 

[Colleen A.]

Maybe this might help you fill in the blanks - the 13 year old girl attends my childrens middle school. Get the picture? If I would of been his mother, I would not of posted the $25,000 bail and left him sit there. Maybe that would get his head together. As I said, DH didn't really have input to his childhood. Whenever he had visitation and he corrected the boy for ANYTHING, his mother would call and raise cane! The one and ONLY time I scolded him lead me to getting a call from his mother (he was being horribly mean to my kids! - All I had told him was that I would not tolerate that type of behavior. I don't accept it from my own kids!). She would buy him anything just to keep him happy. She was so "distracted", she didn't take the warnings from her other kids. Her oldest son, 17 at the time, got her then boyfriend's 13 yr old daughter pregnant back in 91, her daughter became a teen age mother at 16. My only concern now is if anyone from the middle school connects the last name to this boy.

Thanks for listening.....

 

[jldriscoll]

Aww Colleen, no need to say anymore

{{{{{more hugs}}}}} and pixie dust.

Sounds like you and your dh have a close family, you'll get through this!

 

[Buckalew]

Colleen, I'm so sorry you all are dealing with this situation. How bad your DH must feel.

My mom's parents adopted a boy (who is now in his 40's) and he has been in so much trouble with the law. We lived in a small town where everyone knew everybody and knew he was a relative. I think he is in jail right now--scary stuff!

 

[Lars624]

**PD** to you & you family. I hope everything goes okay for your children once school starts.

 

[dizneenut]

I'm sorry! Prayers & PD on the way! {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

 

[CRB#33]

Colleen, I just wanted to let you know that I read that article in the paper yesterday, and I didn't put two and two together until I read your post today. So maybe, it won't be so bad for your children.

Whatever happens, {{{hugs}}} to you and prayers that you get through this without the awful judgements of gossipmongers.

--mofred

 

[Kitty 34]

Sending you tons of PD and prayers!

 

[nativetxn]

{{{HUGS}}} sweetie, so sorry you are having to deal with this

 

[CathyCanada]

I'm sorry Colleen. Hopefully your family doesn't have to suffer because of his crimes.
CC

 

[JerseyJanice]

It doesn't sound like there's much you can do about it.

I just hope things work out somehow. {{{hugs}}}

 

[Boots]

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}