Please remove this thread!!

[Robinrs]

Why is this posted in the Budget boards??? Its a BIT off topic enough to be moved.

Agreed, should be on the CB.

OP, I've been in this position MANY times. The problem I'd run into they wouldn't believe ME. They'd go to the husband, he'd tell them whatEVER (men NEVER admit it when cornered) and all of a sudden YOU'RE THE BAD GUY.

I'd stay out of it. If he's really a "cad", she'll find out on her own.

 

[babyrich]

I have been in a similar situation twice. Both times it was friends of mine having the affairs (two separate incidents, years apart). I know their spouses, but the cheater is the one I know first. Both times I told the cheater how disappointed I was in them and that I would not carry on a friendship while this was happening. So for the months of the affair, I did not hang out with them at all. My DH agreed; because he knew too and said it would be uncomfortable to be around the two of them.

Both cases ended up with the marriage being saved and couples in counseling. About a year after, the wife of one of the cheaters asked me if I knew about the affair. I told her the truth. She said she wondered why we went such a long time without hanging out with me and my DH. I told her I didnt think it was my place to tell her; but I didnt want to be around her husband. She understood.

I wouldnt tell; but I would end contact with them. I know she is a good friend; but if you cant tell her the truth. I wouldnt put on an act, just to hang out with them.

Good Luck

 

[ceecee]

I don't think he was lying, he's usually not the kind to brag about anything, let alone something like this.

DH is disgusted with this behavior as well, but his attitude toward it is that it's their business, and we should stay out of it. DH did tell him he was disappointed in him, but that's as far as that discussion went.
However my take on it is, yeah it's "their" business, but if it was me, I think that I would want someone to tell me.

I just don't know what to do.

Seems he made it everyone's business when he bragged about having an affair at work! I probably wouldn't say anything, but also wouldn't want to be as close to them either. Seems your DH (if they are like brothers) would not approve and also want to distance himself!!! If you tell her she may very well not believe you, it happened to a friend of mine who told the wife thinking she would want to know.

 

[chimilady]

I knew a girlfriend of mine's fiance was cheating on her. Everyone knew. All of the girlfriends. Well, one night, I told. And to this day, they all remain friends and I'm the black sheep. I thought I did the right thing. Oh well, not my problem anymore.

 

[NeverlandClub23]

I knew a girlfriend of mine's fiance was cheating on her. Everyone knew. All of the girlfriends. Well, one night, I told. And to this day, they all remain friends and I'm the black sheep. I thought I did the right thing. Oh well, not my problem anymore.

Same thing happened to me. I told my friend her fiance was cheating on her. She was out of town and I saw him making out with another girl at a restaurant. All of our circle of friends knew of his blatant cheating. I told her, she confronted him, he told her I was just trying to get them to break up so I could have him (among other lies), and she cut ties with me. She ended up marrying the guy, but 3 years later someone came to her with proof that he'd been cheating on her with many different women. They got divorced.

 

[chimilady]

Same thing happened to me. I told my friend her fiance was cheating on her. She was out of town and I saw him making out with another girl at a restaurant. All of our circle of friends knew of his blatant cheating. I told her, she confronted him, he told her I was just trying to get them to break up so I could have him (among other lies), and she cut ties with me. She ended up marrying the guy, but 3 years later someone came to her with proof that he'd been cheating on her with many different women. They got divorced.

It is ashame, but I have learned to keep my mouth shut. If I were close with the guy, I would go to him and try and force him to tell, but yeah, I won't ever be opening up my mouth again. I lost about 8 good friends out of that, and went through a major depression. To this day, I'm only Facebook friends with one of them, and only keep in sporadic contact.

 

[LJSquishy]

Wow, I am truly surprised at how many people have said to stay out of it, not say anything, or that they wouldn't tell if they were in that situation. Wow!!!

...I sure am glad you are not my friends. I am truly floored to think so many people wouldn't say anything. How terribly sad.

A true friend would say something, no matter what. Even if they just "heard through the grapevine", they would say something. Even if it might ruin a friendship. It's the right thing to do. What an unfortunate situation to be in, but wow, to keep your mouth shut and just sit back and watch is just awful.

 

[JB2K]

Once again, the moderator-less Budget Board keeps non-relevant "duds" like this topic circulating.

Not even sure if something like this should be on a Disney-themed board, at all (but if it is, the CB is much better-suited for this sort of stuff). Thumbs-down to OP for putting it up, in the first place.

Mods -- where are you??????

 

[Stitch76]

Once again, the moderator-less Budget Board keeps non-relevant "duds" like this topic circulating.

Not even sure if something like this should be on a Disney-themed board, at all (but if it is, the CB is much better-suited for this sort of stuff). Thumbs-down to OP for putting it up, in the first place.

Mods -- where are you??????

I asked them to take it down so I would not ruin the day for people like you, who want to read the thread, but then say it should not have been posted. If you don't want the "duds" to keep circulating, don't read them.
I am sorry for anything I did to you by posting this, but your comment just seems plain rude.

Yes, i agree this may not have been the BEST place to put my question, but what am I going to do.
I want to thank all those you have left comments trying to give me insight, advise, or even disagreed with my decision. It shows there are people out there who actually care.
And for those who's lives have been ruined by me posting this on a Budget board, instead of somewhere else, again I am sorry. However, the next time life throws something my way that I don't know what to do with, more than likely you will have to tolerate me posting another "dud", simply asking for advise from fellow DIS'sers.

 

[okeydokey]

Once again, the moderator-less Budget Board keeps non-relevant "duds" like this topic circulating.

Not even sure if something like this should be on a Disney-themed board, at all (but if it is, the CB is much better-suited for this sort of stuff). Thumbs-down to OP for putting it up, in the first place.

Mods -- where are you??????

Since it seems to be bothering you so much, I suggest that you click the back button and stop reading.

 

[Gr8t Fan]

Once again, the moderator-less Budget Board keeps non-relevant "duds" like this topic circulating.

Not even sure if something like this should be on a Disney-themed board, at all (but if it is, the CB is much better-suited for this sort of stuff). Thumbs-down to OP for putting it up, in the first place.

Mods -- where are you??????

Really must have a lot of time on your hands to keep complaining about this.

 

[Marionnette]

I'm sorry, OP, but nothing screams:

OPEN AND READ THIS!!!!​

as much as a thread titled "Please remove this thread".

I won't comment on the situation that you find yourself in but if you want this thread moved, deleted or locked, then the best way to do it would be to click on the the "Report Post" triangle in the lower left corner of your first post. Then write your request in the notes. A webmaster or a member of the moderating team should get it and take action.

 

[hipchickie]

too bad there isn't a forum that chronic complainers have to post on, and every time they post we could all say "sorry, but that post doesn't belong here! You should have posted on the 'I whine a lot' board"

 

[Happiest mommy]

hipchickie

 

[soccerchick]

Complainers on threads like this always make me wonder if it strikes a little too close to home...

It's just too easy to move along and ignore what doesn't interest you. No need to be

 

[talulabelle]

Once again, the moderator-less Budget Board keeps non-relevant "duds" like this topic circulating.

Not even sure if something like this should be on a Disney-themed board, at all (but if it is, the CB is much better-suited for this sort of stuff). Thumbs-down to OP for putting it up, in the first place.

Mods -- where are you??????

How on Earth does this effect you? Is it really that upsetting that it pops up on the front page of the budget board for you? Now that you commented, you are subscribed, so now it will be on your CB everytime you look - Oh the horror. You don't need to read it. And it is anything but a dud!

 

[Stitch76]

I won't comment on the situation that you find yourself in but if you want this thread moved, deleted or locked, then the best way to do it would be to click on the the "Report Post" triangle in the lower left corner of your first post. Then write your request in the notes. A webmaster or a member of the moderating team should get it and take action.

Thank you, will do!

 

[mrsklamc]

Two places I have worked, you are accountable for your behavior on a work trip even if it's not during the work day. (at will states so they can fire you for basically whatever.) Any chance your DH can fire him?

ETA- my husband just informed me that my work situations have been very unique so nevermind.

 

[Robinrs]

How on Earth does this effect you? Is it really that upsetting that it pops up on the front page of the budget board for you? Now that you commented, you are subscribed, so now it will be on your CB everytime you look - Oh the horror. You don't need to read it. And it is anything but a dud!

Unfortunately he is correct. This is a topic that should be moved to the correct board. I USED to moderate this and several other boards and if I read it I would've had it moved.

The moderators on the DIS are non paid volunteers and they get to the board and do what they can when they can.

 

[Robinrs]

Two places I have worked, you are accountable for your behavior on a work trip even if it's not during the work day. (at will states so they can fire you for basically whatever.) Any chance your DH can fire him?

oh wow...

I doubt that he wants him fired and if he was his direct supervisor I'm sure the guy wouldn't have told him.

If people were fired in my industry for carrying on during a road trip, there would be hollow halls at all the stations I worked at. The company actually sponsored trips for the top brass so they could carry on. It was well known what happened at those trips and all they did was high five each other... like this guy did the OP's husband. And I'm SURE he told him "bad boy"...