"Please reassure me..."

[bicker]

Hmmm... when folks post threads that start with, "Please reassure me...", and there actually are reasons to be concerned, do you think those folks, and readers of those threads, are best served by hiding the concerns (and basically lying to "reassure" them) or are best served by explaining the nature of the concerns.

 

[Serena]

I think it's better to let us know what's going on so that we can give a better answer, but I do understand not putting it out there because sometimes the responses are pretty harsh.
Back when my life was a mess, I wouldn't put everything out there at once. But I am like that in life too, except for people I really trust.

 

[John Smith1]

No one is owed details. A simple prayer or word of condolence can do for someone.

Details on this board get used to hold against people. They're brought up in future threads by people who had no business knowing your business in the first place. Most of the time people want details not because they're concerned but because they're nosy or need something to ridicule you for.

Save the details for people you know and care about you. The internet AIN'T the place.

 

[bicker]

Oof! In my efforts to protect the innocent, my wording might have been a bit too vague. What I'm talking about is something like this: "Please reassure me that the box of cookies I ate didn't have a lot of calories in them." So in replying, do you write, "Yes, there aren't many calories in a box of cookies," or, "Sorry but there are a lot of calories in a box of cookies (but if you're concerned about that you can work them off a number of ways...)" ?

 

[MAKmom]

If someone starts a thread that says please reassure me you can respond with the truth as you see it.

When I want everyone to agree with me I start my thread with:

Please Respond But Only If You Agree With Me.

 

[Charade]

If someone starts a thread that says please reassure me you can respond with the truth as you see it.

When I want everyone to agree with me I start my thread with:

Please Respond But Only If You Agree With Me.

While I don't think that anyone really deserves ridicule, I do think that some really do need a "slap of reality". In a nice way that is.

 

[C.Ann]

Oof! In my efforts to protect the innocent, my wording might have been a bit too vague. What I'm talking about is something like this: "Please reassure me that the box of cookies I ate didn't have a lot of calories in them." So in replying, do you write, "Yes, there aren't many calories in a box of cookies," or, "Sorry but there are a lot of calories in a box of cookies (but if you're concerned about that you can work them off a number of ways...)" ?

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In that context, I would be honest - but try to do it in a kind, helpful manner..

 

[ols386]

No one is owed details. A simple prayer or word of condolence can do for someone.

Details on this board get used to hold against people. They're brought up in future threads by people who had no business knowing your business in the first place. Most of the time people want details not because they're concerned but because they're nosy or need something to ridicule you for.

Save the details for people you know and care about you. The internet AIN'T the place.

Good point!

 

[c4a]

Tell them. If you don't want to know...don't ask. But I'd try to word it nicely. Although, sometimes...it is just so hard. On those, I just skip it, usually. Or will post " " simply because I don't know what to say or don't know how to word it nicely.KWIM?

A lot of them, I want to say "Are you for real?"

 

[hiwaygal]

I want to know ALLLL the details. Every. Single. Nuance. It can make a difference.

And I want honest answers, even if they are brutally honest (but within DIS guidelines).

What can I say, I like reading interesting threads...and without all that information, they're boring.

 

[c4a]

I want to know ALLLL the details. Every. Single. Nuance. It can make a difference.

And I want honest answers, even if they are brutally honest (but within DIS guidelines).

What can I say, I like reading interesting threads...and without all that information, they're boring.

Of course, you can always threaten them with your flying monkeys.



very cute!