Please help me....

[Adrianna]

IF you want to talk, PM or email me. If you want, you can share it with me and I can give you an objective opinion. Just try and stop worrying about it and analyzing what could have been, what should have been, and predicting what will be, etc b/c it can and will drive you nutz. I know it's hard, and I know it's much easier said than done, what you need to do is do something to keep you busy, otherwise you'll sit and cry and think and worry. You'll be ok, I promise. You need to be strong for yourself, and realize that you need to feel better for YOU. Just keep saying it - I WILL BE OK.

 

[CathyCanada]

I think others have given you wonderful advice. Adrianna is right, he needs time to cool off. Right now, his emotions are raw, he is hurt and feels betrayed. He trusted you and as harmless and foolish as it was, it is real to him. Give him time and space. I think bombarding him with emails telling him you love and miss him, won't heal the damage done, only sitting down and talking about it face to face can do that. Or at least start the healing process.

As for yourself and being alone. You don't have to be. Go somewhere where there are people, a mall, movie theatre, restaurant, anything that can take your mind off this. You need a break from it.

Take good care and I sincerely hope this all works out, but I think it will take time.
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[Micca]

Whatever you do, if he reads this thread make sure he's knows that he is "Derek"(assuming that isn't his real name).

 

[DMickey28]

Ok, so I know that he has been online and read the email I sent him this morning. It just said agian, that the emails where lies and a game and it emphasized that I have always just wanted him and that I love him more than anything. He didn't email back saying he didn't want to move in or anything so I have to take that as a sign that he is abosrbing everything and the initail angry is subsidding and now he can figure out if he loves and trusts me enough to come back and work on it. Right? I would think if he were still really upset he would write back that he isn't coming home. I hope anyway.....

 

[Adrianna]

Unfortunately, the ball's in his court and there's nothing you can really do except wait it out and hope for the best. If you were that close, I'm sure he'll miss you after a while and want to talk, but some guys can hold a grudge and it may take a while. Just take it slow, unfortunately you're gonna need some patience which I know is hard b/c you just want to tell him a billion things and convince him that you are sorry, etc. Just give it time, and just try to think how you'd be if you were in his shoes. Guys, as we gals know, aren't much into feelings or sharing or emotions, so he's gotta work this out and then he'll let you know, I'm sure, if you guys can talk.

Hang in there!

 

[DMickey28]

Just wanted to let you know that he instant messaged me and that we talked for a while. As too be expected the conversation went up and down, with him thinking about it and getting angry and then calm down. He actually starting writing to me a minute ago just about stuff so that's a good sign right?

 

[jamsmom]

I know I would want to take it as a good sign, but remember he still has things to think through. He still may need some time.

{{{HUGS}}} Good luck, sweetie. Life is so very hard sometimes.

 

[Adrianna]

Just keep communicating, that's the important thing. Good luck!

 

[Beckysc]

How are things going?