Please be kind in your responses

[Kitty 34]

I just posted a WWYD type of thread recently and yes there might have been a couple of "snarky" replies but I sometimes think that the posters aren't really trying to be snarky that's just how they really feel. Could be wrong but it makes me feel better thinking that.

 

[MinnieLovesMickey12]

I just read through all the responses and had to laugh when I saw the OP come back to say SEE WHAT I MEAN. Nobody has responded to this thread mean. They have responded in ways you didn't want to hear. If you just post things wanting ppl to agree with you or pat you on the back then you are in for a sore surprise here. Nobody is going to do that.

I assume from your post that you posted something in another thread asking how to get a free upgrade and ppl flamed you. I can see why. So many ppl come on here wanting something for nothing it gets old. PPL get tired of it and can you imagine how tired those front desk CMs get of ppl asking for free upgrades. Jeez.

Also you will find ppl getting flamed sometimes when they come on here complaining about something that happened at Disney and asking what kind of "compensation" they should ask Disney for. Or they come on here and brag about how they complained to Disney "And I wasn't really looking for compensation I just wanted them to be aware of the problem" But will follow up by telling you Disney gave them 4 free one day park hoppers.

Just do like everybody else does and pay for whatever room you want to be in to start with.

If you want a birthday cake for your kid's birthday BUY ONE.

But you very well could have done a search on these boards just using the phrase free upgrades and probably found other old posts asking the same type of question and wouldn't have even had to post your question to begin with.

I would try that next time since you seem to be so sensitive to ppl disagreeing with you.

I also agree with all the other posters that nobody on here needs to be lectured like kindergartners on how to behave. If ppl truly are being mean over and over again, enough ppl will flag it and the mods will warn them or give them points for how they act.

 

[ariel71]

For the record, linking to "Let me Google that for you" will get you points...

I have to quickly back out of those threads so as not to create a head vs wall situation.

Even though they sometimes make my blood pressure rise, I enjoy the hardcore (for lack of a better term) threads, attitude and all. Far more interesting than the "when did you last take a crap" threads, which I find completely inane.

If an OP a) has done something generally regarded as stupid, b) is trying to take advantage of a situation/get around a rule/thinks the word revolves around them, c) reacts to a mosquito like it's a defcon 5 situation, d) is a SAHM, e) is a working mom, f) refuses to disclose relevant facts, or g) gets extremely defensive in the face of other opinions, I think it's safe to say that there will be a hefty dose of snark in the responses.

 

[krcit]

More importantly

I literally laughed out loud!!

 

[mirage0306]

I have to be honest. I have never understood why people are compelled to post this kind of thing. There are thousands of people on this site. Good or bad, you aren't going to suddenly get people to post in the way you would like and instructing them to not post at all if they don't generally is going to go over like a lead balloon.

This.

Also, this board is seriously tame compared to other places on the net.

 

[Lanshark]

OMG! I forgot about the Debate Board!

Good times.

I loved the debate board. Nothing like a 5 year old refillable mug in a nonsmoking dvc room meant for 5 while smoking on the balcony, eating peanuts and using your crockpot thread to bring out the best in people. If you added towel animals, saving spots for the parade, lying about your 8 year olds age to get a 3 year old ticket and pool hopping you would have entertainment for a week. I won't even go to nursing in public or canned corn in the parks. This is very calm in comparision.

 

[LiveYourLife]

Well, we all knew this would go over like a fart in church!

I really wanted to c/p the lyrics to Kumbaya in this post!

I, too miss the debate board.

 

[aaarcher86]

Well, we all knew this would go over like a fart in church!

I really wanted to c/p the lyrics to Kumbaya in this post!

I, too miss the debate board.

I will ever grow tired of this analogy. Never.

 

[Hrhpd]

I have not been a member of the DIS boards for long but, while I have seen some wonderful help, I have also seen a multitude of very SNARKY responses.

This happened on one of my questions that I posted and it got downright rude as I asked question about upgrades. I have also seen it on a plethora of other posts.

Please think about the fact that people are on here just asking for guidance. And, of course, there are so many opinions on subjects that we are not all going to agree to the response given. However, this is no reason to get nasty.

I have been especially horrified when I have seen this on questions from the UK. I can well imagine that this kind of behavior on here just solidifies the bad rep that Americans can have.

Be kind, be helpful and if you can't be, don't respond.

I read your entire upgrade request thread.

I didn't see a single rude post. You have very specific requirements for a room, yet said those requirements were out of your budget. You then asked what the chances were of getting an upgrade to that room.

Everybody told you, very politely, that you cannot count on a free upgrade. They suggested that if you have to have that room, it is best to just go ahead and pay for it.

I cannot see what was rude about that. It was just fact. Would you have preferred everybody lie to you and say "oh yes, everybody gets pixie dust at check-in?"

Having read some other threads that can get nasty when somebody asks how to get something extra for nothing - your thread was the epitome of politeness.

You took the advice and paid for the level you require. Sounds like you got sound advice for the best possible result of getting the room you want.

 

[jrmasm]

I read your entire upgrade request thread.

I didn't see a single rude post. You have very specific requirements for a room, yet said those requirements were out of your budget. You then asked what the chances were of getting an upgrade to that room.

Everybody told you, very politely, that you cannot count on a free upgrade. They suggested that if you have to have that room, it is best to just go ahead and pay for it.

I cannot see what was rude about that. It was just fact. Would you have preferred everybody lie to you and say "oh yes, everybody gets pixie dust at check-in?"

Having read some other threads that can get nasty when somebody asks how to get something extra for nothing - your thread was the epitome of politeness.

You took the advice and paid for the level you require. Sounds like you got sound advice for the best possible result of getting the room you want.

You're mean.

 

[Hrhpd]

You're mean.

you hurt my feewings. sniff sniff

please, only

Kumbaya...

 

[Aliceacc]

The most polite posts on that board are still worse then the rude posts on this board.

I technically still belong to a teacher forum, though I no longer post there. I was once told that the poster wished my cancer returned and killed me. And, in the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy, I was told that I was hogging the hurricane as I described the devastation to Long Island. That was pretty much when I left.

Also, for what it's worth: aside from my family, my doctors and coworkers, the biggest source of Breast Cancer support I received was here on the Disboards. There's a Breast Cancer thread that's absolutely remarkable. The people there are a combination of real concrete knowlege, compassion and kindness. Say what you want about snarky Disboarders making Americans look bad, but the Breast Cancer thread is the first place I send someone who has gotten a Breast Cancer diagnosis.

 

[Planogirl]

There are some here who post rude things. That's just reality. I don't see that many rude posts though and I also never understand why anyone really cares. These are strangers for the most part so why does it bother some people so much?

I also miss the Debate Board. I thought that it was a blast even though a lot of the posters had no idea how to debate.

 

[TagsMissy]

The only thing I can really say to this is sometimes the truth hurts, mostly when it isn't what we want to hear.

Doesn't mean people are rude... life is full of disappointments and if you ask for opinions you will get many, even those that you don't want to hear.

 

[aristocatz]

What years did the debate board exist?

 

[donalduck]

I also think that they target people also.

This is so true. Sometimes I wonder if there is even mods on here. It seems like they are not very consistent in their weeding out the posts that break the rules.

 

[Nancyg56]

I read your entire upgrade request thread.

I didn't see a single rude post. You have very specific requirements for a room, yet said those requirements were out of your budget. You then asked what the chances were of getting an upgrade to that room.

Everybody told you, very politely, that you cannot count on a free upgrade. They suggested that if you have to have that room, it is best to just go ahead and pay for it.

I cannot see what was rude about that. It was just fact. Would you have preferred everybody lie to you and say "oh yes, everybody gets pixie dust at check-in?"

Having read some other threads that can get nasty when somebody asks how to get something extra for nothing - your thread was the epitome of politeness.

You took the advice and paid for the level you require. Sounds like you got sound advice for the best possible result of getting the room you want.

I posted on that thread so I was puzzled when this one popped up. I thought that folks were nice and tried to be helpful so that the OP knew what she could expect. I never will understand why people ask for advice or information and then are upset when the feedback is not what they wanted to hear. It is my opinion that if you are going to do what you want to do no matter what anyone has to say, then just do it. Do no task for advice if all you want is validation.

 

[DawnM]

There was a debate board?????

Oh man, that could entertain my entire day!

Imagine if the DIS still had the Debate board?

 

[POPCITY]

I didn't see anything "downright rude" or "venomous" on the upgrade thread. Even snarky is a bit of a reach.

 

[Janepod]

You're mean.

Stop bullying people!