Please - any prayers you could spare..Update post #91 - talked to him!!!!

[Rora]

Prayers said..

 

[NewCrew42]

Praying...

 

[MerMom60_94]

Prayers for your brother and all who love him.

 

[Promomx2]

Praying here. I know disprayers work. Helped my dd last week, so keep the faith.

 

[Kitty 34]

Saying lots of prayers, C.Ann.

 

[PatsMom]

C. Ann - I will be praying for you and your brother. Cancer is an evil beast but medical advances are happening all the time.

 

[leight]

prayers said for you, your brother and your family.

 

[wickey's friend]

C. Ann -- sending my prayers as well.

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

 

[DVCJones]

Prayers on the way

 

[MsDisney23]

Sending many Prayer's to your brother and family.

 

[C.Ann]

Not much of an update, but the best I can do..

First of all, thank you all so much for your thoughts and prayers - and if you're so inclined, I would really appreciate it if you could keep them coming..

The "update" is I still basically know nothing.. I can't reach my brother OR his girlfriend on the house phone or either of their cell phones.. I even went into Facebook via the kindness of a friend letting me sign in as them and everything is missing on his page that was there before - and locked tighter than Fort Knox..

The teeny, tiny bit of info I was able to gleen is that he made a phone call after the initial diagnosis to one of the best eye doctors up here in NY - that his DD works for.. His DD's boss told him to leave "Dr. A" - who he was seeing in Florida - and get to "Dr. B", ASAP - as he specializes in this type of extremely rare cancer (also down there in Florida).. My brothers kids (3 of them) and his grandchildren (2) of them - live up here in NY and there is no way that he would miss seeing them during the holidays unless it was impossible to come.. Nor would he not call me during "normal" hours so we could talk..

We (including my sister) all received the same message - that he has this extremely rare form of cancer in 2 of the lymph nodes behind his left eye - and is in the process of having the 20 chemo treatments, not to worry.. That's it.. Nothing more.. These messages were purposely left at times that none of us would be likely to answer the phone..

All his DD's boss will comfirm for her (at my brothers request) is that it's an extremely rare cancer, it was imperative that he see "Dr. B" ASAP, and he's in very, very good hands..

So at this point, we don't even know "where" he is.. However, on the up side, my brother is one of the most optimistic people I know.. (Although sometimes to his detriment.. Like the night our dad was dying.. He still lived in NY then and I called to tell him he had to get to the hospital immediately.. In typical fashion for him, he put on his "rose colored glasses", showered, straightened up the house, took the dog out for a quick walk, and by the time he reached the hospital, it was too late - dad had passed away before he got there..) So - the "rose-colored-glasses" attitude "could" be a good thing right now - in terms of keeping him optimistic, not treating it as any big deal (although he will do whatever the doctors tell him), and trying to keep all the rest of us from worrying.. I just hope he doesn't carry that attidue too far - to a point where he refuses to believe something the doctor says - or not taking a prognosis seriously.. I just wish we knew more!!

I haven't felt like posting at all - but - not even a week ago I said that I was living my life in a postive manner - not focusing on the negatives - so I need to go back to that.. Being upset and stressed out certainly won't change what is happening to my brother.. This is life - and we need to "roll with the punches" - so that is what I will do.. I will try to post as normally as possible - while waiting to hear directly from my brother..

However - I am going to start one more thread on this topic - in hopes that someone out there knows something about what this "extremely rare" cancer could possibly be..

Meanwhile, I would appreciate any and all prayers that you want to offer up for my brother, his GF, and his family..

Thank you all - very, very much..
C.Ann

 

[Pooh67_68]

Continued good thoughts.

 

[debf]

Prayers said.

 

[coconutprincess]

Ugh. I will be praying for your brother and his gf and you and your family

 

[dislaney]

Prayers sent.

 

[beaucoup]

Keeping your brother in my thoughts.

Perhaps he just wants a quiet peaceful time to go through the procedures & recover. Maybe he's not looking for a lot of drama that families can create sometimes?

Hope he's doing well.

 

[minkydog]

C.Ann, I sympathize with you. It must feel terrible to not know what's going on with your brother. But you have to know, some people just react this way to serious news. It sounds like he's not ready to talk about it with anyone. All you can do is let him know you love him and back off. He'll come forth when he's ready.

My DH did something like this once. We had just been told that he had a brain tumor and would need surgery to identify it. DH decided he wanted to "wait & watch"--for SIX MONTHS. I was beside myself. Nothing I said or did would dissuade him. He had made up his mind and he wasn't gonna talk about it. Life for him went on as usual. I, on the other hand, was sick with grief and feeling very shut out. It took DH about 3 weeks to come around, only after he really noticed how upset *I* was. He had the surgery and life went on.

Try to keep positive. Until you talk to him, don't let your thoughts run away with you.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

Continued prayers for your brother and your entire family.

 

[4nana]

C.Ann, I am just seeing this and so very sorry to hear about your DB . I can only imagine your anxiousness and concern . In light of his facebook posting disappearance, it sounds like he may be in shock or perhaps needs time to sort things out w/o a lot of calls and questions.

The fact that his DD works for a specialist that has the top contacts in the field may be a saving grace. I'm betting he'll contact you and family when he has some answers as to exactally what he's dealing with and catches his breath. Meanwhile, know that your Dis friends prayers are with you in these difficult days and sending lots of healing prayers his way also. God Bless and take care.