Thats great about wishes and the photographer!!!
I wouldn't worry too much about all of it being a package. You got the package and hte reservation which is impossible for most people. Every time we have eaten there we have always had to plan the vacation and buy airfare around the date that we could get for the castle. Also how is she ever going to know its a package?
One other thought which I saw in a
disneyland proposal story -
right after the guy proposed he pulled out a pair of minnie bride ears for his fiance to wear. I know its the end of hte night but then she would have them to wear for the rest of the trip. Its just a small inexpensive thought to think about.