Picky eater solution - allowed?

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Your a disney veteran? :confused3. I just noticed your siggy. So your son's are now 10 and 8 ?

January 2010 - ????(shhhh! it's a surprise!)
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January 2006 - 2 families at All Star Sports
May 2004 POR - 1st trip with DS's 5&3
Sept 1998 - Belated Disneymoon at CBR
April 1995 - CR


yes!
 
My DS is not the best eater and we sometimes struggle getting him to try new things, but I gotta ask, what did we ever do before chicken nuggets were invented. 30 years ago, did we have so many kids that would only eat one kind of food?
 
I sorry, but I have to say this. Why not just tell them to order from the menu and deal with it?? Really, I see this almost every day on this board I truly just don't get allowing children to do this if they do not have some kind of medical condition.

1) Sounds like good parenting.
2) Sans medical issues, just eat it.
 
I never intended to be "that mom" that allows her child to be picky, but I have FOUGHT him for years on it! He is now 7 and has about 10 things he will eat. He has NO allergies or medical conditions...he is just stubborn. I have had several nights where he has gone to bed without anything to eat b/c he will not touch it. And I for one do not want to let him go to school on an empty stomach. Don't think I don't have many sleepless nights worrying about the lack of proper nutrition.....
Our trip to DW will be magical and I will not fight him on this while we are there. It is easy for you to say to just make them "deal with it" but not so easy to do in real life when you want your child to have some nutrition. You can not imagine how cranky he (or any child) will be without food on their stomach.
I just thought it was a little insensitive to say that we should just let them "deal with it" or that we are treating them unfairly by allowing them to be picky. It is harder than you think on us moms!

You assume that I have no experience with this, but I do. I watched my mom fight it with my sister who is 7 years younger than me, and I fought it with my DD, but I refused to give in and she got over it. If you give in once they know that you can be convinced and it is easier the next time to get you to cave, ect. I just refused to EVER give in to the tantrums to get what she wanted to eat rather than what was being served. She went hungry a frew times, but she got over it. My mother chose to give in to my sister's tantrums as a child and I saw her become the teen and then adult who eats poorly and stays sick. She eats plenty, just nothing good for her. I didn't want that for my child so I stood my ground and now have a 6 year old who doesn't throw tatrums in resturants like my sister did a six, and makes healthy food choices. It can be done, and a child will not starve, barring medical issuses. You just have to make the choice to stand strong and never give in. There will not be too many hungry nights in a row before the child decides to eat, and it will not do any damage. You can't allow sympathy for them to outweigh what you know is best for them, a healthy diet.
No, WDW is probably not the best place to start something like this, but to say I have no experience with it and cannot possibly know what it is like is assuming a little too much.
 

Thanks to all who offered their advice on whether my proposed solution was allowed by Disney. Many others offered advice and tips on how to better prepare myself with menu info and off menu food options. Thanks to all who had similar situations and shared.

I got a message that one of my posts was overly agressive and I can kinda see that. I need to just ignore posts that are off subject.

I think there are more posts to come that will be focused on the "right" way to parent and not on the rules Disney has in place for dining. Let's not let this grow into any other hurt feelings

Thanks again y'all
 
It is interesting to hear different points of view and how others have handled this situation.

For those of you dealing it with it now, good luck. Hopefully some of the suggestions here will help you and your picky eater :)

For those of you who have gone through this, both with medical issues and those without, good luck and hope it becomes easier.

Happy planning :yay:
 
OP-I wish you all the best in finding locations that serve something your son will eat! I think the children's menus are sadly lacking as it is, so trying to find one particular item would be very difficult.

Love the backpedaling on this thread though--I needed a good laugh! "Oh, I didn't realize your son had medical issues..."--blah, blah, blah. It's always nice to assume the worst, isn't it?
And no, I don't believe it's good parenting to force a child to eat anything. "You eat what I make or you eat nothing at all!"--???? Really? So, if someone were to force YOU to eat something you didn't like (me=beets), that would be ok? No, it would not be.
I'd rather have my child eat something healthy, but that they liked, then nothing. I'm sorry, but that makes no sense to me.
 
OP-I wish you all the best in finding locations that serve something your son will eat! I think the children's menus are sadly lacking as it is, so trying to find one particular item would be very difficult.

Love the backpedaling on this thread though--I needed a good laugh! "Oh, I didn't realize your son had medical issues..."--blah, blah, blah. It's always nice to assume the worst, isn't it?
And no, I don't believe it's good parenting to force a child to eat anything. "You eat what I make or you eat nothing at all!"--???? Really? So, if someone were to force YOU to eat something you didn't like (me=beets), that would be ok? No, it would not be.
I'd rather have my child eat something healthy, but that they liked, then nothing. I'm sorry, but that makes no sense to me.
Wait, so do medical issues make a difference in this discussion or not??? The definitely do for me, sorry if that offends you or makes you "laugh". I thought it was a serious issue. I don't think anyone "assumed the worst" here. The comment that came from me was a general observation and not directed at any one person. Mediacl issues were also addressed in my first post, so I made it clear from the beginnig that I felt they were and exception. No backpeddling here. I stand by my opinion, which is just that, my opinion and nothing more.
If someone served me beets and I didn't like them I certianly wouldn't demand that they go make me something else. If that is what the meal is that is what my options are. End of story. I don't force my child to eat anything, but I serve a reasonable selection of foods and she can find something there she will choose to eat or she can choose not to eat at that meal. Trust me, she usually finds something she can stomach. I don't think anyone here is purposely offering only unwanted foods. It makes no sense to me to always serve only foods I know my child will like. I am never challenging her pallate and certianly not teaching healthy eating habits. If we all took that philosophy from day 1 we would all still be eating rice cereal and strained peaches. It is necessary for children to actually taste foods and give the m a chance to develp a mature and healthy pallate. That is what I am trying to foster in my DD. I want her to grow up to eat more than chicken nuggets and pizza, so I serve her more than just chicken nuggets and pizza. It really is that simple if you let it be. She has always eaten what we eat since she has been able to handle table food, and would never expect me to cook a special meal just for her.
 
OP-I wish you all the best in finding locations that serve something your son will eat! I think the children's menus are sadly lacking as it is, so trying to find one particular item would be very difficult.

Love the backpedaling on this thread though--I needed a good laugh! "Oh, I didn't realize your son had medical issues..."--blah, blah, blah. It's always nice to assume the worst, isn't it?
And no, I don't believe it's good parenting to force a child to eat anything. "You eat what I make or you eat nothing at all!"--???? Really? So, if someone were to force YOU to eat something you didn't like (me=beets), that would be ok? No, it would not be.
I'd rather have my child eat something healthy, but that they liked, then nothing. I'm sorry, but that makes no sense to me.

Excuse me????? Who back peddled? She left out important information. There is a differance between a child who has medical challenges and a child who will not eat something unfamiliar. Many children once they try new foods discover they actually like them. So it is not about forcing a child to eat something but to show them other options are out there and trying some of them. Just chicken fingers is not a healthy or balanced diet. To much protien (chicken) is hard on a child's kidneys and coupled with being fried (fat). I hardly call that a balanced diet or even a healthy one. But if you are at a cross roads for medical needs you have to do what you have to do.
 
Thanks for the suggestion, but with a park full of CS options and lots of kids/adults with more pressing and limiting needs, I wouldn't think of asking for Disney to accomodate in our case. I will certainly recommend this to others in need though so thanks for the heads up on it.

If he has a medical, psychological or feeding issue then why not? I am confused now. You said you were working with his pediatrician and struggling with his weight etc. Did you not?

IMO ...... Something does not add up.

also borrowered from another thread where the OP asked the same question.... all offer for chicken nuggest for anyone else looking ...............


Based on info on allears.net....

Yak & Yeti - Chicken Bites (My guess, that's a fancy way of saying nuggets)
Rainforest Cafe
Mama Melrose
50's Prime Time Cafe
Chefs de France (served with noodles but still chicken Strips)
Marrakesh
Tony's Town Square
ESPN Club
Fountain Restaurant at the Dolphin Resort
Narcoosees
Olivia's
Boatwrights
Manginos
Garden Grove
Captain's Grille
Fulton's Crab Shack
Planet Hollywood
Raglan Road
House of Blues
Wolfgang Puck Cafe
 
If he has a medical, psychological or feeding issue then why not? I am confused now. You said you were working with his pediatrician and struggling with his weight etc. Did you not?

IMO ...... Something does not add up.

also borrowered from another thread where the OP asked the same question.... all offer for chicken nuggest for anyone else looking ...............


Based on info on allears.net....

Yak & Yeti - Chicken Bites (My guess, that's a fancy way of saying nuggets)
Rainforest Cafe
Mama Melrose
50's Prime Time Cafe
Chefs de France (served with noodles but still chicken Strips)
Marrakesh
Tony's Town Square
ESPN Club
Fountain Restaurant at the Dolphin Resort
Narcoosees
Olivia's
Boatwrights
Manginos
Garden Grove
Captain's Grille
Fulton's Crab Shack
Planet Hollywood
Raglan Road
House of Blues
Wolfgang Puck Cafe

Yup, that was me that posted this list... As suggested early in this thread by someone, I just looked up the info on allears.net. I know the OP said that she had already done that and knew that there was limited number of TS restaurants who could accomodate this request, but as you can see... I took it upon myself to check (Taking all of 15 minutes to read every child TS menu) and voila... LOTS of choice. (to many in my opinion, since most restaurants only have 2 or 3 options, it is annoying to me that chicken fingers are so often the meal offered).

As OP is working with a Pediatrician I am actually kind of surprised that they are offering the suggestion of chicken fingers for most/all meals, due to feeding issues. I am a mother of twin boys that came very early, and have battled weight concerns (Need to fatten them up!) as well. Our pediatrician pointed out that children with eating issues often need variety presented in hopes that they get a balanced diet and nutrients- since they often dont eat enough in a day to put on healthy weight, it is vital to get the balance of nutirients. Adding unsalted butter to vegetables, or offering grilled chicken strips with rice or noodles (in butter) is far better to add fats and food into your child, than continuously offering nuggets. The amount of saturated fats they ingest on this type of diet is often worse for them than not eating at all. Our pediatrician and children's hospital also reminded me that a child has the inability to starve (Unless they have been diagnosed as "failure to thrive" in which case they would be hospitalized), and that they will eventually eat. So when they ARE ready to eat... to ensure that you add healthier fats (Full fat yogurt, cheese, butter, avocados, etc.) to their diet.

Just my two cents.... but in any event, I am glad that I was able to supply OP with the list of restaurants... so that her son can eat comfortably and enjoy the magic that is Disney.
 
Yup, that was me that posted this list... As suggested early in this thread by someone, I just looked up the info on allears.net. I know the OP said that she had already done that and knew that there was limited number of TS restaurants who could accomodate this request, but as you can see... I took it upon myself to check (Taking all of 15 minutes to read every child TS menu) and voila... LOTS of choice. (to many in my opinion, since most restaurants only have 2 or 3 options, it is annoying to me that chicken fingers are so often the meal offered).

As OP is working with a Pediatrician I am actually kind of surprised that they are offering the suggestion of chicken fingers for most/all meals, due to feeding issues. I am a mother of twin boys that came very early, and have battled weight concerns (Need to fatten them up!) as well. Our pediatrician pointed out that children with eating issues often need variety presented in hopes that they get a balanced diet and nutrients- since they often dont eat enough in a day to put on healthy weight, it is vital to get the balance of nutirients. Adding unsalted butter to vegetables, or offering grilled chicken strips with rice or noodles (in butter) is far better to add fats and food into your child, than continuously offering nuggets. The amount of saturated fats they ingest on this type of diet is often worse for them than not eating at all. Our pediatrician and children's hospital also reminded me that a child has the inability to starve (Unless they have been diagnosed as "failure to thrive" in which case they would be hospitalized), and that they will eventually eat. So when they ARE ready to eat... to ensure that you add healthier fats (Full fat yogurt, cheese, butter, avocados, etc.) to their diet.

Just my two cents.... but in any event, I am glad that I was able to supply OP with the list of restaurants... so that her son can eat comfortably and enjoy the magic that is Disney.

I think a mom who had a child with feeding issues who is also a self proclaimed disney vet would jump at the change to speak with the chef to make meals specific to her child's needs and would of also research all the menus as you did. That was very kind of you but ...... I am just not buying to into this.
 
Guess I am the odd one out but I just do not see a big deal here. I refuse to make food an issue in my house and never on vacation. At home, I do cook one healthy meal with choices (salad or green bean) and everyone can eat what suits them. On vacation however, we pretty much eat what we want. If I really want a nice sit down at say the Brown Derby and DGS (3) really wants a hot dog from the cart outside, why can we not both be happy and share the meal together as a family. Yes, I will order his drink and maybe a desert there and tip extra for the missed meal. Focus on the family eating together is imporatnt to us. Feeding him early would not work for us. Now I do not think a child needs to eat just nuggets by any means and we would never do this at a resturant at home but this is a kid's Disney Vacation. Special needs or not (yep had a kid who took forever to even hit the growth chart, AND one with an egg and peanut allergy) food is only an issue if you make it one!
 
Guess I am the odd one out but I just do not see a big deal here. I refuse to make food an issue in my house and never on vacation. At home, I do cook one healthy meal with choices (salad or green bean) and everyone can eat what suits them. On vacation however, we pretty much eat what we want. If I really want a nice sit down at say the Brown Derby and DGS (3) really wants a hot dog from the cart outside, why can we not both be happy and share the meal together as a family. Yes, I will order his drink and maybe a desert there and tip extra for the missed meal. Focus on the family eating together is imporatnt to us. Feeding him early would not work for us. Now I do not think a child needs to eat just nuggets by any means and we would never do this at a resturant at home but this is a kid's Disney Vacation. Special needs or not (yep had a kid who took forever to even hit the growth chart, AND one with an egg and peanut allergy) food is only an issue if you make it one!

ITA, I was just about to write something similar!
 
yes, food is only an issue if you make it one! and this starts at home. People who let their children eat one food group .... special needs or not because medical intervention is available is a disservice to your child. Therefore, making it an issue. There is no point arguing this. The food pyramid exists for a reason.
 
yes, food is only an issue if you make it one! and this starts at home. People who let their children eat one food group .... special needs or not because medical intervention is available is a disservice to your child. Therefore, making it an issue. There is no point arguing this. The food pyramid exists for a reason.

What does that mean?
 
What does that mean?
toddler's don't cook. It is a problem that starts with the parent. AND if you continue to allow it rather than makes changes or get needed medical help if your child has special needs you are not helping your child but being part of the problem. Like I said the food groups and the food pyramid exists for a reason. It is no wonder children obesity is an epidemic.
 
I realize I am joining this discussion kind of late, but it interests me because I have what I consider the pickiest eater of all time, and yes I buy him chicken tenders and take them into restaurants all the time. The way I see it, if the restaurant doesn't want the $ from me and DH meal then we can leave.

I can tell that some people here have never been around a child who is a true picky eater. We do not cater to this at home (when eating out more so because I feel bad him sitting there watching us eat) and if we cook a meal he won't eat his only other option is to make himself a pb&j and an apple.

We have tried EVERYTHING we can think of to encourage him to try new foods but he literally has some sort of aversion to most flavors and textures. Once when making him try the "one taste of everything" rule he vomitted in the kitchen. There is nothing that I can bribe him with that will make him eat. When he goes to camp every summer, he lives all week off of toast and french fries. I don't know what else to do. I've even wondered if he has sensory integration disorder, but then I wonder is this real or some new label that people are sticking on their children.

Sorry for the long post, but sometimes people don't realize how frustrating it can be for a child to be this way. Maybe parents really are trying to get their kids to eat, but how can you physically force someone to eat something? Yesterday we had 3 conflicts at our house over food, and the older he gets, the worse it gets.
 
I realize I am joining this discussion kind of late, but it interests me because I have what I consider the pickiest eater of all time, and yes I buy him chicken tenders and take them into restaurants all the time. The way I see it, if the restaurant doesn't want the $ from me and DH meal then we can leave.

I can tell that some people here have never been around a child who is a true picky eater. We do not cater to this at home (when eating out more so because I feel bad him sitting there watching us eat) and if we cook a meal he won't eat his only other option is to make himself a pb&j and an apple.

We have tried EVERYTHING we can think of to encourage him to try new foods but he literally has some sort of aversion to most flavors and textures. Once when making him try the "one taste of everything" rule he vomitted in the kitchen. There is nothing that I can bribe him with that will make him eat. When he goes to camp every summer, he lives all week off of toast and french fries. I don't know what else to do. I've even wondered if he has sensory integration disorder, but then I wonder is this real or some new label that people are sticking on their children.

Sorry for the long post, but sometimes people don't realize how frustrating it can be for a child to be this way. Maybe parents really are trying to get their kids to eat, but how can you physically force someone to eat something? Yesterday we had 3 conflicts at our house over food, and the older he gets, the worse it gets.

If he eats peanut butter (thick,creamy) and an apple (hard, crisp) in all probability is not a sensory disorder. But there are other feeding issues out there be it phobia, eating disorders etc. I would suggest consulting his pediatrician and often times based upon age the school may offer services. Does he have an issues at school? Behavioral, learning etc, speech issues? I ask because children who are the spectrum (and they can be very high functioning you would never know) often time have extreme food aversions.

The thing about bringing food in to the restaurant that many people do not realize is that it is a health code violation to bring outside food into a restaurant, as well as a liability issue. Now being that everything there is Disney owned for the most part the liability issue may not be a concern for them.
 
toddler's don't cook. It is a problem that starts with the parent. AND if you continue to allow it rather than makes changes or get needed medical help if your child has special needs you are not helping your child but being part of the problem. Like I said the food groups and the food pyramid exists for a reason. It is no wonder children obesity is an epidemic.


In MANY cases it is certainly does NOT start with the parent.
And yes, I realize toddlers don't cook. And yes, I am aware of the food pyramid and why it exists.

I have typed, deleted and retyped my response several times.
I will just say this...I am not sure why you feel quailified to pass judgement on so many parents. You have given out parenting advice, medical advice, nutritional advice, behavioral advice and now legal advice.
Food issues are NOT as simple as you make it seem. For many of us it has been a daily struggle for years to get our kids to eat healthy, well-balanced meals.
And i am not sure why you think "If he eats peanut butter (thick,creamy) and an apple (hard, crisp) in all probability is not a sensory disorder"? As a mother who has been involved with special needs kids for many years, I can promise you that there is no possible way you can define a childs sensory disorder by 2 particular things he may or may not eat.
 
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