china mom
DIS Veteran
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- Feb 15, 2010
I am trying to suppress the urge to be petty. I am trying.
The story: My estranged brother died Jan 20 leaving myself and one brother as survivors. No other relatives, spouses, children etc. Deceased brother had a very large group of friends and also happened to be a hoarder. Some of the friends took it upon themselves to spend about two weeks visiting the house and letting themselves in to feed and try to catch the cat. He lives far enough away that I was grateful that someone was taking care often cat issue. About two or three weeks later, I went by the house with my brother and found and captured the cat within five minutes.... was their trying to catch the cat a ruse? hmmm.
One of the friends told my brother that he had taken musical instruments and camera equipment from the house "for safekeeping" because they were in view of the front door and could be stolen. I asked myself why didn't they just move the stuff out of sight as there are plenty of out of sight places.
My brother has asked this individual several times to provide photos and or a list of the items he took from the house. There has been no response.it has been three months today. I waiver between giving the friend the benefit of the doubt about this and assuming rightful intentions and the thought that he has stolen these items.
Here is the questions about pettiness. I have no interest in anything in the house except, if located, my late father's trombone. But, I have a strong sense of moral outrage that this individual has no right to do what he did. It should be up to my brother and I to decide what happens to the stuff, whether it be to keep it, sell it or divide it up amongst his other friends. Am I petty if I have the estate lawyer send the guy a demand letter asking for the property back? Even if I have no interest in the stuff and don't really care what happens to it?
The story: My estranged brother died Jan 20 leaving myself and one brother as survivors. No other relatives, spouses, children etc. Deceased brother had a very large group of friends and also happened to be a hoarder. Some of the friends took it upon themselves to spend about two weeks visiting the house and letting themselves in to feed and try to catch the cat. He lives far enough away that I was grateful that someone was taking care often cat issue. About two or three weeks later, I went by the house with my brother and found and captured the cat within five minutes.... was their trying to catch the cat a ruse? hmmm.
One of the friends told my brother that he had taken musical instruments and camera equipment from the house "for safekeeping" because they were in view of the front door and could be stolen. I asked myself why didn't they just move the stuff out of sight as there are plenty of out of sight places.
My brother has asked this individual several times to provide photos and or a list of the items he took from the house. There has been no response.it has been three months today. I waiver between giving the friend the benefit of the doubt about this and assuming rightful intentions and the thought that he has stolen these items.
Here is the questions about pettiness. I have no interest in anything in the house except, if located, my late father's trombone. But, I have a strong sense of moral outrage that this individual has no right to do what he did. It should be up to my brother and I to decide what happens to the stuff, whether it be to keep it, sell it or divide it up amongst his other friends. Am I petty if I have the estate lawyer send the guy a demand letter asking for the property back? Even if I have no interest in the stuff and don't really care what happens to it?