pet peeves

[A&Bmama]

My Pet peeve is more about complaints that I have read from (usually childless) adults about kids at Disney, such as they were too noisy, had a tantrum, or adults thought that they should be able to go in the hot tub and not have kids playing in it. etc. etc. I know Disney is not just for children, but come on you have to expect that they are going to be there, and that they will act like, well, children... If they want a vacation where they won't be bothered by children they would be wise to go to Sandals instead of Disney.

 

[d1gitman]

I certainly didn't see these same people asking any of the other parents who were disciplining their children if THEY were their parents. So yes, again, nosey people, like I said, are my pet peeve. Disciplining my child is my own business.

I certainly see your point and pretty much agree with it. However, I just think that I would rather be offended by someone acting on the side of caution than to live through a living hell of having my child abducted and no one who witnessed it having questioned what happened. I would get over my parenting ego and be glad someone actually cared enough to be concerned over a fellow citizen.

 

[d1gitman]

...Disciplining my child is my own business...

I agree. However, society does not. If a person chooses to discipline in a public place, they have expect that someone in the public might choose to comment or react, right,wrong or indifferent.

While i am not anti-spanking, spanking has virtually dissappeared from our list of punishments. First off, I had found that spankings were happening too often when I or mommy were indeed upset and angry with what our child had done. To me, that is a bad combination. It is up to us parents to be adults and remove our anger and emotion from the heat of hte moment. Secondly, for exactly the reason you are posting your pet peeve (which I'm not saying you aren't justified in being upset about). It would totally frost my hide that anyone interfere with my parenting.

Case in point. A friend of ours had a dinnertime incident where jr. (14yrs. old) decide to drop an F bomb on his dad at the dinner table and call him a name. Dad proceeded to smack jr. on the mouth. In my childhood it was instant spanking on the butt and bar of soap in the mouth. Well it turned out that later that week, their daughter (12yrs old) was upset at mom and dad over something they wouldn't let her go to. Well fate would have it that the following week the Fire department was at her school for a special event. At the end of the event they let children know if they ever felt threatened by an adult or their parents hit, to not be afraid to let a Fire, Police or teacher know. Well she decided that she wanted to get back at mom and dad so she told the fireman that her dad hit her brother.

the next day DSS is on their doorstep knocking. too boot, the father had some beer in the fridge. it was a tense situation and eventually the daughter fessed up to what the whole situation was about.

so whether parenting is your business or not (and i believe it is your private business), one has to remember that public displays of parenting are subject to scrutiny or worse...public is just that, public, and ANYTHING is liable to happen.

 

[buffettgirl]

the next day DSS is on their doorstep knocking. too boot, the father had some beer in the fridge.

I'm screwed.

 

[siestakey]

<My pet peeve is useless threads such as this one!>

Now see, I happen to like this kind of thread. A safe place to vent about the things that bugs you, and get a chuckle about it to boot. My pet peeve would be feeling the need to criticize this thread instead of just reading and moving on. If you don't like the topic, then don't post.

 

[d1gitman]

I'm screwed.

OMG! i just saw your "I love Jesus but drink a little". some friends mine posted that clip from Ellen on Facebook and it is friggin' hilarious...

 

[buffettgirl]

OMG! i just saw your "I love Jesus but drink a little". some friends mine posted that clip from Ellen on Facebook and it is friggin' hilarious...

haha..yes, that's what it's from. It was so hysterical. I also got it from friends on FB.

 

[Punkie6]

I agree. However, society does not. If a person chooses to discipline in a public place, they have expect that someone in the public might choose to comment or react, right,wrong or indifferent.

While i am not anti-spanking, spanking has virtually dissappeared from our list of punishments. First off, I had found that spankings were happening too often when I or mommy were indeed upset and angry with what our child had done. To me, that is a bad combination. It is up to us parents to be adults and remove our anger and emotion from the heat of hte moment. Secondly, for exactly the reason you are posting your pet peeve (which I'm not saying you aren't justified in being upset about). It would totally frost my hide that anyone interfere with my parenting.

Case in point. A friend of ours had a dinnertime incident where jr. (14yrs. old) decide to drop an F bomb on his dad at the dinner table and call him a name. Dad proceeded to smack jr. on the mouth. In my childhood it was instant spanking on the butt and bar of soap in the mouth. Well it turned out that later that week, their daughter (12yrs old) was upset at mom and dad over something they wouldn't let her go to. Well fate would have it that the following week the Fire department was at her school for a special event. At the end of the event they let children know if they ever felt threatened by an adult or their parents hit, to not be afraid to let a Fire, Police or teacher know. Well she decided that she wanted to get back at mom and dad so she told the fireman that her dad hit her brother.

the next day DSS is on their doorstep knocking. too boot, the father had some beer in the fridge. it was a tense situation and eventually the daughter fessed up to what the whole situation was about.

so whether parenting is your business or not (and i believe it is your private business), one has to remember that public displays of parenting are subject to scrutiny or worse...public is just that, public, and ANYTHING is liable to happen.

I always find it sad that parents can't parent anymore it seems. I'm an adult now, but when I was 14-15 I was a major brat and hung out w/the "wrong crowd" (may my parents forgive me ) and I tried at one time to use the DCFS threat. My father, a cop, had their number on speed dial on his work cell. Anytime I tried to act up and claim that they couldn't do anything and smirk at them he would calmly pull out his phone, pull up the number and hand it to me, then tell me to make sure to write from my new foster home. It helped that I knew from friends what some of these places were like . Definitely straightened my act out! I think I just may have to use this approach w/my kids someday.

 

[Twitterpated Dad]

I completely agree with the above posters. I find the notion that all members of a party (including small children, kids with special needs or the elderly) should be required to put in their time on the line merely so that the people behind them will believe that they've "earned" their photo with Mickey to be completely absurd, and overly judgmental to boot.

If 4 people are going to take their pic with Mickey ahead of Judgy McLinewaiter, it matters not a whit in terms of actual time to Ms. Judgy if all 4 stand on the line or if one designee does, as long as everyone rejoins the line before their turn is called. 4 people don't develop an ability to pose for a photograph faster due to their time served on a line.

And I see absolutely no point in forcing a 2 year old, or an autistic 12 year old, or an elderly grandparent to stand in a shadeless confined space for 40 minutes or more simply to appeal to some random McLinewaiter's arbitrary sense of line-standing justice.

And I think the pious little group that prevented the bathroom-emergency teenager from riding ToT completely suck. Though I'm sure they felt very proud of themselves for putting the poor kid in his "place" that day.

 

[Tinkerbelle's Mom]

I have two major pet peeves.

#1 - Smokers who smoke in non designated areas. I have only one lung and smoke can seriously mess me up for the day.

#2 - families saving tables at CS resturants while someone gets the food. Since I am single mom to a young dd there is no way I can do this. I really hate it when I am clearly looking for a table for the two of us and over half the tables are taken up with people waiting for thier food. I have even had dd and I eat on the floor while tables nearby still had not gotten thier food by the time we were done. I know that I am on the wrong side of this one in dis popularity and that most disers do this but I still think that it is rude.

 

[RN4Babies]

I'm going to sound like a grinch, but my pet peeve is people who come to DisneyWorld with any child under 18 months old. We were at Disney for our honeymoon back in 1989; MGM had been open for two weeks, it was 95 degress with unbelieveable humidity. There was a couple in line for one of the attractions with 13 month old triplets. Who does that???? The stroller they had was not providing them with adequate shade, they were sunburned, and all three were crying and miserable. I can't imagine that anyone in the family enjoyed that experience.

 

[d1gitman]

I have two major pet peeves.

#1 - Smokers who smoke in non designated areas. I'm with you, I have asthma and it impacts my day. Even with no health issues, it's still a peeve of mine.

#2 - families saving tables at CS resturants while someone gets the food. can't say that i agree on this one. the seating at CS is for Disney guests. guess what, everyone at Disney is a guest. I have yet to see a sign that requires food to be in hand prior to planting butt on the seat. I don't know of any fast food places that require that, McD's, BK, etc... But i guess what you are saying is that if every last seat were taken and all the people had food in hand you wouldn't be frustrated because they had the food?QUOTE]

 

[Leajess99]

maybe not a pet peeve as much as something that angers and saddens me at the same time. that is, to see parents melting down on their kids. I feel so sad for kids who have parents displaying a fit of rage at them. I feel angry towards the parents for treating kids that way.

I saw this the last time we were there. This lady was so awful to her child and he was littler than my youngest. Very Sad.

 

[d1gitman]

I'm going to sound like a grinch, but my pet peeve is people who come to DisneyWorld with any child under 18 months old. We were at Disney for our honeymoon back in 1989; MGM had been open for two weeks, it was 95 degress with unbelieveable humidity. There was a couple in line for one of the attractions with 13 month old triplets. Who does that???? The stroller they had was not providing them with adequate shade, they were sunburned, and all three were crying and miserable. I can't imagine that anyone in the family enjoyed that experience.

regardless of age, everyone needs proper hydration and sun protection. obviously the little ones even more so. we took our DS at age 7mo. in July. It was hot as H and crowded. We were very conscious of sun exposure, hydration, ventilation. We encountered no issues and don't feel that we were bad parents for it. for that matter, i've seen plenty of people over the age of 18mo not taking care of themselves with regards to exposure.

 

[maxiesmom]

I thought there was a moratorium on bus threads?

Sorry, I didn't get the memo. Don't hate me, ok?

 

[d1gitman]

I saw this the last time we were there. This lady was so awful to her child and he was littler than my youngest. Very Sad.

i remember as a 9 yr old being at a restaurant in Memphis TN and witnessing a very sad incident. A kid, appeared to be similar in age to me, had spilled his drink at the table. I just so happened at the time we were leaving. The father drug the kid outside by his arm, threw him in the back seat of their care and started swinging at the kid. i didn't know what to make of it as i had never seen that before. my mom was trying to get my father to go in the restaurant and get the manager to call police. that didn't happen and we just left. to this day, i wonder what ever happened to that boy. so, sad.

 

[jennipooh]

families saving tables at CS resturants while someone gets the food. Since I am single mom to a young dd there is no way I can do this. I really hate it when I am clearly looking for a table for the two of us and over half the tables are taken up with people waiting for thier food. I have even had dd and I eat on the floor while tables nearby still had not gotten thier food by the time we were done. I know that I am on the wrong side of this one in dis popularity and that most disers do this but I still think that it is rude.

I know we are in the minority, but I am with you.
DS (then 8) and I sat on the wall of the little flower bed inside the courtyard of El Pirata Y el Perico right beside a family who ran past us to grab the table we were heading for. They had no food, just sat there waiting for their food while we ate on the wall. Wow, now I feel lucky to have had that wall. I wonder what it is that these people are telling themselves while they sit there at a table with no food while families are eating on the floor. I really think it must be something like..."wow thank goodness we snagged this table or that could have been us!!!" Dog eat dog!!! The only other major problem we had was the one I mentioned earlier involving the yelling, cussing family who were saving multiple tables! So most of the time ds and I do actually get to eat at a table without incident, but still..........people can be so inconsiderate.

 

[disneycrazy2004]

I really don't understand what the difference is with someone waiting in line and then their family joining them? They will still take the same amount of time with the characters, at least in our case b/c one of us has stood in line for our DD at times. Why not, one of us take our daughter to check out other things while the other parent takes a break waiting in line. We've seen lots of people do it and it seems to be a common, accepted practice.

I agree with a very large group it would be a bit rude to jump in when only one in the group waited, but for 2 or 3 people?

Absolutely agree with you - We have done it, my son and hubby will wait on line while my DD and I will go use washrooms or get drinks

 

[disneycrazy2004]

Your attitude is something to marvel at! I love it!

My absolute favorite thing to do is to sit on a bench with some unidentified sticky substance on the seat... it just makes me so warm and fuzzy

Oh, thanks - live is too short to be miserable-that is how I get by. Be happy - live longer

the sticky substance is too funny, haven't run into that yet, hopefully I won't

 

[Leajess99]

We do this all the time, why does it matter if we all stood in front of you the entire time or half of us did? We were still in front of you. We do it sometimes if one of the little ones has to use the bathroom or my autistic son is having a fit in line. One of us stays and the other one takes the one that has to leave for a minute, then we get back in. Why should we waste all the time we already were waiting and start over every time someone has to pee. We would never get anywhere then .

I have let people in ahead of me that said they were waiting with someone up ahead. Yeah they could be lying and pretending to know someone but I'm willing to take that chance.

Because Disney's Policy is no line jumping and once you leave a line you have lost your place. This is why the family in my case was totally removed from the ride and could have also been removed from the park.