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[karen4546]

My husband and his sister Are equal heirs to his father’s estate.

His sister produces a hand written piece of paper saying whatever her and her husband says goes….

she must have amnesia because her dad and her stepmom each had wills naming each spouse beneficiaries or if they die the my husband and his sister are co heirs.

my husband Has assumed this whole time that his sister was going by his father‘s and step mother’s will that they each share 50/50. but his sister thinks a piece of paper his step mom supposedly wrote saying whatever she and her current husband-#3 goes…

my husband brings his step mother’s will to the attorney and low and behold his sister suddenly remembers the will.

today, his sister confesses to stealing $7700 from one of the accounts. Why? Because she has been threatened to be sued because she has not given husband a key to the house, access to financial or bank statements or anything to do with the estate.

I told my husband months ago she was hiding stuff because she was not being cooperative. And today she confessed to stealing money from the account within a couple of days of their step mother’s death.

the hand written note that she produced was not witnessed or notarized. In it supposedly whatever she and her current husband say goes…

The husband and I have the wills of both his dad and stepmom. His sister had copies also but she has lost her copies.

tomorrow, he is going to petition to have her removed as executor. IMO, her husband has influenced her into making these decisions, But , she has also Told so many lie# and removed things from the home.

the home is worth mabye a couple hundred thousand and the contents maybe 10/12 thousand. We know she stole at least 4 thousand in property Plus the cash from one of the bank accounts For several thousand.

it is terrible that a sister would do this to her brother. My husband agrees. I think he should remove her executed and turn her in for using a dead person‘s accounts. He won’t though. And I know he is doing that for his mother‘s benefit.Even though his mother said he was holding up the estate settlement- which he was not.

people , siblings, geez.

 

[barkley]

having dealt with the execution of 2 parental estates and it resulting in so much petty, nasty behaviour that with one it led up to 3 different law enforcement agencies in 2 states being involved when threats of physical violence were made by one self entitled sibling.....................dh and i came to the conclusion that despite what it will cost our estate/heirs, our wills are written such that a professional executor will handle our wishes.

if your husband is looking at taking on the duties i would highly suggest he spend some of the estate's money on hiring an attorney to see what has transpired so far b/c it could be WAY worse than he realizes (in one i handled the previous P.O.A. had sworn up and down taxes had been done and all was in order to minimize the estate's taxation...........nope, he had figured he was going to be executor and could cover it up and never did the taxes to the tune of tens of thousands in unpaid, penaties, interest. the person who acts as executor has a fiduciary responsibility-your sil should be held to hers for what occured during the time she held the job b/c your dh WILL be held to if he takes it on.

 

[NYCgrrl]

Death has a way of bringing out the best and worst of individuals. It never helps when a will is not forthcoming either. I wish all going through the kind of trauma the OP is experiencing best thoughts and soft hugs. May unexpected good come your way.

 

[QueenIsabella]

Some family members suck. Usually, there are clues prior to an inheritance situation.

I know I've told this story before, but I think it's so funny. When our mom died, my oldest brother, sister, and I had a bet going as to how long after the funeral would Brother #2 ask about his inheritance. Answer: 46 minutes. Prior to that, he's asked if we could get our mother (competent, at the time) committed so he could sell her house.

Because you're a comparative bystander, I recommend you support your husband, but stay out of it. It's his family. He can choose to fight, or choose to let it go. You get to support his choices and bite your tongue until it bleeds. Don't even get me started on my husband and his only brother.

 

[princesscinderella]

I’m sorry your husband is having to deal with his sisters shady dealings on top of a death in the family. It’s so sad all the shenanigans that happen when money is involved and some think they deserve more than their fair share and won’t let the closing of the estate process play out.

 

[fla4fun]

I hear about people behaving like this and I am so thankful that my sister and I get along well, and that we had no trouble splitting up our parent’s estate. We even took Mom’s jewelry box, sat it between us and took turns choosing items out of it to split them up. My sister had inherited our grandmother’s wedding rings and I inherited Mom’s, so once both had passed, we swapped the bands so we each had one ring from each person. We did the same with the few pieces of jewelry Dad had. We didn’t have a single disagreement and neither of us tried to cheat the other.

OP, I am sorry your family is going through this and I hope it can be resolved quickly.