People with nicknames - does this bug you?

[jen0610]

I don't like that they assume I go by Kris. What if I didn't? Not everyone shortens their name.

Kristine

Just about everybody I've ever gotten introduced to at a new work place, when hear that my name is Jennifer, they have all asked did I go by Jennifer, Jen, or Jenny. I'll reply to the 1st 2, but more likely then not, the 3rd one won't get you a response.

When I get introduced by someone I know, I usually end up getting called by which ever name that friend calls me. So outta all of my friends and co-workers I respond to Jennifer, Jen, HooHoo, JD, and Hoov or Hoover for the most part.

 

[WDWMom]

My real name is Suzanne and I go by Sue although I don't mind if you call me Suzanne. It's what my family calls me. I started going by Sue in Jr. High when friends started calling me it. But don't call me Susan. It's not my name and I will ignore you and not answer. It just bothers me.

And this is why my kids all have 4 letter names with no hope of shortening them.

 

[nmmom95]

Yep. My name is Angela, and I cannot tell you how many people take it upon themselves to just start calling me Angie. NO ONE calls me that. Hello???? It really does bug me.

My name is Angela and everyone calls me Angie, or usually just Ang. It doesn't bother me at all.

 

[almburr]

our kids have nicknames

DD15 is named Forrest her nick name is Forr, friends call her the Beast.
DD11 named ElsaCraig nickname- Elc
DS9 named Gregor always called Gregor NEVER Greg! nickname-noodles
DD8 named Guienevere nickname- Guiene, Ninnie,
DS5 named Tucker nickname- TuckTuck, or Bear

 

[SingingMUA]

I sort of have the opposite problem.

My name is LaTia (pronounced: luh-TEE-ah). People inevitably have trouble pronouncing my full name (though I don't think it's really that difficult) and call me LATISHA, LAYTIA, or LAYSHA or something like that (I've even heard LATOYA and LATASHA).

So generally, to make life easier for them AND for me, I tell them to call me Tia, because it bugs the heck out of me to have people continually mispronounce my name. Especially if I've corrected them multiple times and they still can't seem to get it.

Most of my friends and family call me Tia, a few call me Tee, and a few family members still call me by my childhood nickname of "Twinkie" (don't ask...).

I have a few GOOD friends who will jokingly call me Laysha, because I've told them all the stories of people mispronouncing my name. But there's a only about 4 people that can do that and I will answer. If anyone outside of those people call me that (on purpose), they will promptly be ignored. The same goes for my childhood nickname. Only my family calls me that, and anyone else who tries it gets ignored.

 

[mom2febgirls]

I once had to work with someone from another office out of state and his first email called me Angie (which I hate). I continued to sign my actual name to my emails and after the third one I think he got that I didn't want to be called Angie.

 

[PatsMom]

By signing an e-mail with a shortened version of your name, you are telling everyone that it is something you are comfortable with, and in a way, are giving them permission to address you as such.

start signing them with your full name and see if that changes.

I've got to agree with this - if someone signs an e-mail with a nickname, I would assume that is what they prefer to be called. How hard is it to type a few more letters? If they signed with an initial, that would be different.

Generally if someone introduces themselves by their full name, that is how I address them until they say otherwise or sign correspondence otherwise.

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

I have two experiences with names. One was a beautiful little girl who used to come into a library where I once worked. Her given name was what some would call a nickname. I asked her if her name was >>>>> the longer version, and she quite solemly said, "Oh no. My name is >>>." I learned much from that precious child in her short life.


Life went on.


I had a call from someone at the corporate office who identified himself as Christopher XXXX. I called him Chris. He said, "It's Christopher."

I call and shall always call him Christopher and it reminded me to pay close attention to how a person introduces her/himself.

Me? I don't much like my name at all, so would prefer a nick. No one calls me that though, 'cept for my Da.

 

[mickeylove2]

It doesn't bother me if people assume that I go by a nickname, because I do. BUT it really irked me after my DD was born and people started calling her by a nickname that I didn't want. No matter how many times I told people that's not her name, they still insist on calling her that. I've gotten over it and she's 7 and still goes by the inevitable nickname. I named her Gabriella and wanted to call her Brie, from day 1 EVERYONE called her Gabby! My sister even varied that and whenever she writes her name it's Gabbie~ don't ask, cuz I don't know! I finally gave up and she's my Gabby!

 

[luvmy3]

No, it doesn't bother me but I don't introduce myself using my full name. If anyone does call me by it, I tell them they can call me shortened name instead.

ETA what does bother me is when someone puts the "ee" sound on my shortened name, like Jenny instead of Jen.

 

[susykt4]

My full name is Susannah. Perhaps it will suit me when I'm 80, but I can't imagine using it now. I still (at age 37) go by Susy because Sue or Susan just never stuck. I did make sure my kids have names that aren't shortened because my full name/shortened name has always bugged me.

 

[mom2aandj]

it does bug me, and I do find it presumptuous! My DH is Michael and that's what he goes by but I'd say 99.99% of the people he introduces himself to as Michael respond with "Hi Mike!" That's pretty much why I gave my kids' names that could not shortened or made into nicknames.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I don't have a nickname--but it is pretty rude for someone to decide to alter your name without your permission upon just meeting you.

My dd's name can have a nickname, but she is proud of her name and outside of our family doesn't appreciate strangers modifying her name. She's only 7. If someone has known her for a very longtime, she doesn't mind.

 

[angie@dvcstore]

It does not bother me at all, my name is Angeline and people call me Angie and i actually prefer when they call me Angie for me it sounds better than my whole name

 

[Buckalew11]

I feel the same way when people call me "Bren." Bren is reserved and for those special to me--not just someone I meet. ugh. Rarely happens as Brenda is not a name that is often shortened but when it does, I hate it.

There's probably 4 DIS friends that I have who call me "Bren" and that is fine. Dan sometimes calls me "Buck" and I am not fond of that, lol. But only he does it so I let him slide. Better Buck than Bucky which I dispise.

 

[beck0321]

I'm one of the ones with the opposite problem. My given name is Becky, JUST Becky....but some people throughout my life, including a few people I work with now, INSIST on calling me Rebecca. It aggravates me but then I don't know what to say. I think if I say, "that's not my name," that might come off as rude...but IT'S NOT MY NAME! (I don't deal with these people daily so that's why I just let them continue I guess).

 

[ozarkmom]

My oldest is named Christopher. We named him that because we liked the name and if we wanted to call him Chris we would have named him Chris. The family still calls him Christopher but somewhere in grade school the kids started calling him Chris and he finally gave up correcting everyone. My mother recently started calling him Chris and that really bugged me. He accepts it but he knows when it's mom, dad or his siblings he'll be Christopher!

 

[shortbun]

I kinda feel conflicted about it. First, I like a new friend to immediately get casual with me. But-I hate it when anyone(loved ones excluded) calls me 'honey.' Now THAT is presumptuous. So, get casual but don't get too casual. My legal name is Mary. The name I've always used is Mimi. My friends call me, Mim, Meem, Meemer, Bunny, Bunnetta and so forth. My uncle called me Mert and my Dad called me "Mimi Mert.' The moral of this story is don't worry about what people call you... as long as they don't call you late for dinner. In other words, No Big Deal.

 

[can84]

It does bother me a bit too! My friends and family shorten my name and that's fine, but for some reason it irks me when people I don't know do it. I assume it's because the really don't know how to pronounce Christiann

 

[FireDancer]

I don't have a nickname--but it is pretty rude for someone to decide to alter your name without your permission upon just meeting you.

Almost no one I know chose their nickname. It is usually given to them either by a teammate, friend, or associate. If you are famous enough it comes from the press.

I was given the nickname Chalupa once because of my last name. Almost every nickname I have had and almost every one that my friends have was given to them, it wasn't picked.

Ronaldo, for example, didn't give himself the nickname the Phenomenon, it was given to him whether he liked it or not.