People who cheat on their spouses

[jaye614]

A friend of mine lost his second wife about a year ago to cancer.

I knew that he had cheated on his first wife.

But what I just found out is that he had cheated with his second wife while married to
his first wife and his second wife cheated on her second husband with him!

Is this common?

Well they both married each other and was married about 20 years.

He told me that it was 'limited happiness' between them and I don't believe she was very happy either.

I didn't ask too many questions but she did not trust him while he did trust her but he found
pictures and letters that may show that she did cheat on him.....wow!!

Any comments?

 

[Shanti]

A friend of mine lost his second wife about a year ago to cancer.

I knew that he had cheated on his first wife.

But what I just found out is that he had cheated with his second wife while married to
his first wife and his second wife cheated on her second husband with him!

Is this common?

Well they both married each other and was married about 20 years.

He told me that it was 'limited happiness' between them and I don't believe she was very happy either.

I didn't ask too many questions but she did not trust him while he did trust her but he found
pictures and letters that may show that she did cheat on him.....wow!!

Any comments?

Bad behavior isn't uncommon, unfortunately.

 

[Anastasi]

A friend of mine lost his second wife about a year ago to cancer.

I knew that he had cheated on his first wife.

But what I just found out is that he had cheated with his second wife while married to
his first wife and his second wife cheated on her second husband with him!

Is this common?

Well they both married each other and was married about 20 years.

He told me that it was 'limited happiness' between them and I don't believe she was very happy either.

I didn't ask too many questions but she did not trust him while he did trust her but he found
pictures and letters that may show that she did cheat on him.....wow!!

Any comments?

Sounds like they were both cheaters. I don't worry about other people's marriages. What ever agreements they have between them or what they do to each other is between them and I am pretty sure my nosiness would not be welcomed.

 

[DISNEYSQUIRRELS]

Common... & sad.... & common.

 

[bigbabyblues]

But what I just found out is that he had cheated with his second wife while married to
his first wife and his second wife cheated on her second husband with him!

Any comments?

Given this, neither should have been surprised to find out that the other cheated.

I have nothing nice to say about people who cheat on their spouses. Not happy? Divorce them first.

 

[Christine]

Comments? Some people aren't suited to marriage and they shouldn't do it. Anymore, nothing really surprises me and I just don't think about it. I think it's fairly common.

 

[Floridaman999]

Jerry!, Jerry!, Jerry!

 

[Southernmiss]

It's ugly and not just for the couples involved.

 

[Domo]

I have little patience for cheats.

I remember, we used to be friends with a guy who turned out to have a whole second family. Destroyed his wife and kids

 

[PollyannaMom]

But what I just found out is that he had cheated with his second wife while married to
his first wife and his second wife cheated on her second husband with him!

Is this common?

Grandma always said: "If he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat on you."

 

[kdonnel]

One of my neighbors was stunned when her husband cheated on her despite the fact she was the other woman and cause of his second divorce.

Amazingly she was equally stunned when she found out he cheated on his fourth wife and was working on his fourth divorce.

It seemed so obvious to us on the outside.

 

[cinnaminny]

I had an aunt who used to run around sobbing thinking about her husband cheating on her. Turns out the first year they dated, he was married to his second wife (she was his fling from his first marriage)


I don't even know why you would choose someone like that.

 

[ronandannette]

Grandma always said: "If he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat on you."

Yep. A variant of "If they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you". What a woeful cloud of mistrust to live under. And beyond just a pithy saying, can you imagine the pressure of trying to keep the other "happy" when you know darn well what they tend towards when they're not?

 

[Imzadi]

Yep. A variant of "If they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you". What a woeful cloud of mistrust to live under. And beyond just a pithy saying, can you imagine the pressure of trying to keep the other "happy" when you know darn well what they tend towards when they're not?

Exactly. They've already proven they don't think much of the sanctity of marriage or staying away from someone else's spouse. WHY would one of them think it would be different if they are the ones getting married - especially when BOTH parties cheated on their previous spouses.

 

[NYCgrrl]

I try not to make a habit of evaluating other peoples' relationships what with it being so difficult to maintain my own.
I accept that frequently confidences are exchanged by one side of a relationship but not the other.
I do not worry long or hard about this type of situation.

 

[low-key]

I try not to make a habit of evaluating other peoples' relationships what with it being so difficult to maintain my own.
I accept that frequently confidences are exchanged by one side of a relationship but not the other.
I do not worry long or hard about this type of situation.

im not quite getting this but I know its deep

 

[aprilgail]

I worked for 30 years at a job where it was 90 percent male- when I first started I was one of the only females in our work location- I have to say it really soured me on marriage- way more than half of those guys cheated on their wives, some with more than one other women! And the worst part was when there would be like a work bbq and the wives would be there and I would hear "oh me and my husband are best friends and soul mates, we do everything together"- all I would think was "well I know a thing or two you are NOT doing together"!

 

[Micca]

I think it's pretty common, some people take their marriage vows seriously, others not so much.

 

[Sabeking]

I’m going really simplistic here, who has the daggone energy for all that? Good Lord, between the kids, cooking,cleaning, working and my own husband I just want a glass of wine and a nap in my free time!!

 

[hegsag]

I honestly feel it's none of my business how others live their lives. I've learned that you never truly know what's going on in other peoples lives/homes/marriage. I can only speak for myself & I know that I could never cheat on my husband. Not only is he a good husband but also a good father to our children.