I also second getting in touch with Brenda--- so helpful!!! Where can you eat? Anywhere you want. However some are uncomfortable with 'Ohana because they serve peanut sauce as a dipping sauce--- you can ask them not to put any on your table, but who knows if the table before you had it on their table. We've eaten there twice without problem. I'm uncomfortable with Beaches and Cream because they serve chopped peanuts as a topping on their sundaes (I'm figuring if they're chopping peanuts, there's peanut dust in the air)--- that's a little too much for me, but everyone has their own comfort zone, and mine isn't very "loose." I have gone there without the kiddos on a parents only weekend, and it was very good though. I was getting peanut butter this and peanut butter that since I haven't had any since my son was diagnosed. I figured I had a few days before I would see him again, so it couldn't hurt him LOL. Also, just so you know at Crystal Palace there were big jars of peanut butter and Jelly on the left side of the buffet, and I think Chef Mickey's has peanut butter and Jelly pizza at breakfast. Some are uncomfortable with that--- depending if your child is contact sensitive. We do eat at those places, it makes me a little uncomfortable, but we eat there.
I'm another one who will not do the pirate cruise-- no way. I've heard that if you're child has a peanut allergy, then they'll find something else for that trip (bagels with Jelly)--- however the thought of pb being served every day on that boat--- no way, no how will I put him on that boat without my being present with an epi pen, but again that's me.